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What To Say
What To Say
CONVERSATION
1. Give someone a compliment and tie it to a
question.
You can only eat five different foods for the rest
of your life, what are they?
Smile, be open, and ask a question to break the ice. I noticed one guy at the
event asking, "Who are you here to support?" as an icebreaker and I
noticed another person saying, "Is this your first time to a SmartCEO
event?" Before attending an event, I save a set of icebreaker questions on
my iPhone (I have a list for personal and a list for professional situations). I
review the list in the parking lot before I go in so that they're fresh in my
mind before I meet anyone.
When you are the one initiating the conversation, it makes it easier for the
other person to respond. At this particular event, I found myself looking
for people who were sponsors of the event (you could see this on their
name tags) and asking them if this is the first time they've sponsored a
SmartCEO event. This led to a lot of interesting conversations and contacts.
Show a genuine interest in the other person and what they do. Even if you
have no real interest in their field, use the conversation as an opportunity
to learn and expand yourself. My father was a master at this skill. He could
talk to anyone about anything. He'd often ask probing questions, exploring
deeper and deeper, drawing out the person's enthusiasm for the topic even
more. People loved my Dad for the genuine interest he showed in others.
The point is, even when you know how to make a great conversation,
sometimes it just doesn't come out the way you planned! And that's Ok.
Mathew, I can't resist one final tip—a bonus tip—because it's the key to
successful conversation:
Bonus Tip: Be Yourself
Don't be afraid to be yourself. Some people will like you, others may not.
But I've found that being comfortable in your skin (no matter how odd that
skin may be) is a quality that others admire and are attracted to. So in
every conversation, allow your personality show through. Let others in on
who you are and what makes you tick.
3. Sit.
Sitting can add comfort to an otherwise difficult situation. At the very least,
make sure you and the other person are on the same level. If you remain
standing while you talk to a person who is sitting, you'll be physically
talking down to them -- which isn't the tone you want to set. If there's only
one chair in the room, remain standing with the other person.
4. Offer a warning.
Soften harsh words or direct questions with a simple warning. Instead of
saying, "Billy, the other employees say you smell bad," soften the blow with
a word of caution by saying, "What I'm about to tell you might be a little
difficult to hear." That gives the other person a minute to emotionally
prepare for what you're about to say.
7. Be an active listener.
Give the other person a chance to process what you've said. Be an active
listener by reflecting back what you hear and by offering clarification on
points that may have been misunderstood.
If you're going to follow up on something, state that. If you expect the other
person to take further action, express your expectation. Then, end the
conversation by saying something like, "That's all I wanted to talk about
today. Think about it and get back to me with any questions."