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Lanz, K. (2013) - The Art of Self-Awareness. Training Journal, 65-69
Lanz, K. (2013) - The Art of Self-Awareness. Training Journal, 65-69
Lanz, K. (2013) - The Art of Self-Awareness. Training Journal, 65-69
The art of
self-awareness
Kate Lanz has some advice for leaders on identifying,
and managing, their triggers for unhelpful behaviour
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lexibility, agility and versatility are We are creatures of habit and none more so than
all hallmarks of good leadership, leaders, who rely on a clear set of behavioural
and self-awareness is the starting habits that helped them reach senior positions
point for leaders to generate a where they lead and influence others. We can
flexibility of response, achieve the easily identify typical leadership behaviours.
best results and keep their team engaged and There is the tough gruff leader, don’t catch
motivated. However, leaders often default to them on a bad day. There is the approachable,
unhelpful and habitual patterns of behaviour warm and engaging leader, but one that might
that can hold them and their teams back. default on difficult decisions. There is the sparky,
entrepreneurial leader, often described as ‘a bit all
In this article, I look at what triggers unhelpful over the place’.
behaviour and provide advice on how leaders can These leaders all have positive habits,
identify patterns so that their response can be but problems arise when their behaviours
more appropriately managed. outlive their usefulness as they move up the
Leadership behaviour stems from habitual organisational hierarchy. Unless a leader can
neural pathways that develop a deep sense of self-
are developed
over time.
awareness that gives them access to change, these patterns to encompass others around him. This is
neural habits can hinder performance and start most commonly seen when a leader believes that
to have the very opposite effect from the desired his team should be responding in the same way
outcome. Notably the very aspects that were once he would.
drivers and motivators can become a handbrake Let’s look at an example of this in practice.
on their ability to get others to deliver. This is
often to the puzzlement of the leader in question, A case in point
since these habits are so deeply engrained that Michael is an immensely driven and successful
they become very difficult for the leader to leader in the digital media sector, where he
observe in themselves. has highly specialised knowledge and is greatly
Poor behaviours are often identified at respected. When working with his team, though,
crucial crunch points in a leader’s career such as he was prone to intermittent outbursts when
promotional opportunities, appraisals or feedback specific deliverables were not up to the standards
from the senior leadership team. Equally, L&D he expected, or were slightly late. These outbursts
teams might only become aware of them through were not especially frequent but happened often
response from the leader’s team members during enough for others to be somewhat on their guard
their own development and reviews. Another around him.
point of identification is when teams begin to His behaviour, and lack of self-awareness to
disintegrate or there are low levels of engagement modify his response, was on the way to blocking
or support for the leader. Michael’s career prospects. He was very much
From a leader’s perspective, as he progresses someone the company wanted to have at a more
through an organisation, he extends his behaviour senior level within the business, given his vision,
space to do this in private. He felt upset that this interpretation was that she was above all that. At
was the first he had heard about the issue, he this point, the underlying triggers had not been
was angry, he was ashamed to have been called uncovered but she could start to use the moment
out in this way. He had to work through his own of inactivity as her prompt to pay attention and
reaction first in order to be able to engage with start doing something different.
changing behaviours.
During coaching, questions were raised about Stage three – identifying the triggers
what he might notice in himself first when he Identifying what causes reactions will only
was personally unhappy about something. His happen when the leader has become able to
own anger reaction became his cue to really read the impact he is having on others. With
notice how the other person was responding. coaching, Michael learned to look out for the
Learning how to distinguish the pattern ‘in the triggers that provoked his strong responses. He
moment’ was beginning. This step was critical. detected that, if he felt that his own competence
Michael came up with examples where he could was reflected poorly in the work of others, he
identify that the other person started to shut would default into an angry response and become
down. Perhaps they were polite, passive and overly directive. He lost the ability to tune in to
subdued, but probably keeping the score for later. the other’s world.
Others bristled and, while they might not have Another trigger was his relationship with
openly pushed back, he could see that there was a control. If his subordinate’s delivery started to
more defensive ‘fight’ reaction visible. put him too out of touch with his own sense
This was all news to him. He had previously of control of the task, he would lose the ability
never paid deep attention to others’ responses to relate to the subordinate as an individual. It
when the pressure was on, as the conversation would become about him and how this might
was about task delivery. Why would he, if he make him look. With coaching, he began to be
had previously experienced them as an extension able to read the degrees of loss of competence
of talking to himself ? He could handle it and and control that he experienced and see how
indeed would expect it, so why wouldn’t they? these triggered the unproductive responses.
Identifying how people respond post- In Sandra’s case, two beliefs triggered what
interaction is necessary, but does not yet offer was hampering her. One was that others should
flexibility in a choice of response. At this stage, respect work boundaries in the same way that
the leader can reflect on the impact of his she did and the other was that it was not classy
behaviour but has not yet identified the triggers behaviour to engage in what she called politics.
or change in his behaviour in the moment. Both of these beliefs held her in a very passive
In Sandra’s case, she did notice that people pattern, which also meant she avoided the stress
were actively making a pitch for her area. Her of dealing with potential conflict, but they were
project was leading-edge and multi-disciplined unrealistic in a corporate and high
and therefore attracted people’s attention, profile position.
including the attention of the senior team. Unlike
Michael, she could actually notice the difference Stage four – self-management
in her response when others encroached on under pressure
her turf but, at the point of noticing, she This is the final and most challenging part of
became highly inactive and did nothing. Her the process. This is the stage where the real
change occurs – or not. How does one stay one
step ahead of oneself and stop a limiting default
The very aspects that pattern kicking in? Going back to the opening
observations – we are creatures of habit. Making
were once drivers and behavioural change involves changing a habitual
response and this takes practice, in the moment,
motivators can become on a consistent basis.
Michael worked on developing a personalised