The author is a philosopher who finds that his philosophical interests and tendencies do not serve him well in dating. He enjoys reading dense texts, over-thinking ideas, and discussing concepts rather than people or popular culture. Philosophical detachment comes naturally to him, while dating requires engagement and focus on others, which does not fully interest him. Philosophically-minded individuals interact with the world differently and either need to find similarly minded partners or work to understand typical interactions.
The author is a philosopher who finds that his philosophical interests and tendencies do not serve him well in dating. He enjoys reading dense texts, over-thinking ideas, and discussing concepts rather than people or popular culture. Philosophical detachment comes naturally to him, while dating requires engagement and focus on others, which does not fully interest him. Philosophically-minded individuals interact with the world differently and either need to find similarly minded partners or work to understand typical interactions.
The author is a philosopher who finds that his philosophical interests and tendencies do not serve him well in dating. He enjoys reading dense texts, over-thinking ideas, and discussing concepts rather than people or popular culture. Philosophical detachment comes naturally to him, while dating requires engagement and focus on others, which does not fully interest him. Philosophically-minded individuals interact with the world differently and either need to find similarly minded partners or work to understand typical interactions.
The author is a philosopher who finds that his philosophical interests and tendencies do not serve him well in dating. He enjoys reading dense texts, over-thinking ideas, and discussing concepts rather than people or popular culture. Philosophical detachment comes naturally to him, while dating requires engagement and focus on others, which does not fully interest him. Philosophically-minded individuals interact with the world differently and either need to find similarly minded partners or work to understand typical interactions.
Philosophy has many beauties and strengths, but it doesn�t really have a whole lot
to contribute to the world of dating.
Seriously, I�m a philosopher by any reasonable measure, and when I go on dates
(because yes, I�m still a bachelor), well� Let�s see:
My personal interests include reading dense texts, over-thinking, and trying to
figure out what stuff actually means. I don�t follow sports, or celebrities, or popular stuff in that vein. I�m a good listener, but there�s only so much of that I can handle before my attention wanders off completely. I�m much more interested in talking about ideas than about people. I don�t have much of an interest in, or knack for, talking about myself (an extension, I suppose, of the fact that I�m not much interested in talking about people in general); that is more of a turn-off than you might realize. I�m kind, I�m smart, I�m personable and presentable, and I�m genuinely interested in people, and that�s all to the good. But philosophical detachment is as natural to me as breathing, and conventional dating demands exactly the opposite of philosophical detachment. I can and do adjust as I need to, but my heart is never fully in it, and it tells.
Philosophically-minded people have a different way of interacting with the world
and with other people. Either we have to find someone already on our side of that worldview crevasse, or we have to build a lot of bridges back to the way other people interact. Neither is an easy task.