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Upgrade Your Mindset Sample Chapters
INTRODUCTION 1
Conclusion 221
Notes 229
CHAPTER 1
Mindset Matters
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A person with a fixed mindset believes that people are born with
special talents and every person has different abilities and
intelligence that cannot get better with time, effort, and
determination. They admire successful people for their intelligence
and praise them for their talent while refusing to look at the effort
and hard work that went into their making behind the scenes. They
think of J.K. Rowling, Theodor Seuss Geisel, Albert Einstein,
Benjamin Franklin, Stephen King, Oprah Winfrey, Thomas Edison,
Michael Jordan, and Walt Disney as popular names around the
world due to their innate talent and not a result of their ability to
live through failure and persist in their efforts.
Success and failure is a part of their identity.4 Success means they
are smart and talented and failure means they are not. Everything is
about the outcome, a direct measure of their competence and worth.
Every failure is a validation of their lack of intelligence and every
mistake is a reflection of their limitations. Lost a match? They must
be terrible at the game. Failed to land a key pitch? They must be
stupid. Bombed a presentation? They must not be smart. Failed to
deliver a project? All their effort is useless. Didn’t get a promotion?
They are a loser.
People with a fixed mindset are more concerned with proving
they are smart as opposed to learning something new. Instead of
making an effort to build new skills, they choose to hide their
shortcomings. In their world, saying “I don’t know” or asking for
help signifies they are less competent. Instead of engaging in
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◼ Avoid challenges
◼ Give up easily
◼ Believe their abilities cannot be developed
◼ Worry about how they will be judged
◼ Run from mistakes and ignore them
◼ Avoid new experiences with fear of failure
◼ Look for people who can reinforce their self-esteem
◼ Blame others for their failures
◼ Focus only on the outcome as it defines them
◼ Feel threatened by the success of others
◼ Ignore negative feedback even though it’s useful
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They also admire successful people, not for who they are, but for
what they do. It’s the hard work and determination behind the
success that’s a source of their inspiration. While describing a growth
mindset, Carol Dweck said “Even geniuses have to work hard for
their achievements. And what’s so heroic, they would say, about
having a gift? They may appreciate endowment, but they admire
effort, for no matter what your ability is, effort is what ignites that
ability and turns it into accomplishment.”7
They do feel bad, even frustrated at times when they fail or make
mistakes. But failure doesn’t define them. Struggles and setbacks are
an opportunity to embrace challenges, reach for their potential and
build new skills. Instead of lamenting about their failures, they focus
on what to do next. They try to figure out what they have done
wrong, what they need to do differently, and when they need to ask
for help. Failed a marketing campaign? Try new strategies.
Struggling to solve a problem? Work harder. Lost a deal? Create a
better sales pitch. Missed a deadline? Build estimation skills.
People with a growth mindset orient towards learning. When
they don’t know something, they express their ignorance and seek
opinions to build a better viewpoint. When they don’t have the
required skills to complete a task, they stretch themselves to build
new skills. When they aren’t able to make progress, they do not
hesitate to reach out for help. Not knowing something is not a
measure of their worth, it’s an opportunity to grow. This mindset
makes them surround themselves with people who challenge them,
who are better than they are, who inspire, nudge and push ahead to
the possibilities of a better future.
Growth mindset enables them to embrace challenges without fear
of failure. They take joy in the learning process. Things get
interesting when they get challenging as it’s the moment to try
different strategies, dive into new information, push themselves,
expand their skills and take constructive action. Growth drives their
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thinking and they often use phrases like - “I want to try and not
give up!” “I can do it!” “I want to explore new ideas!” “I can learn
from
my mistakes!” “I just don’t know yet!” “I can do better!” “I believe
in myself!” “It’s ok to fail!”
A growth mindset8 tells them to:
◼ Accept challenges
◼ Persevere in the face of failures and setbacks
◼ Believe in growing their abilities
◼ Think about what they can learn
◼ Engage with the mistake with a desire to correct it
◼ Embrace novelty to master new skills
◼ Look for people who challenge them to grow
◼ Take responsibility for their failures
◼ Focus on the process and learning without obsessing about
the outcome
◼ Find inspiration in others' success
◼ Accept criticism as a way to learn
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mindset9, you can drift away from indulging in practices that build
abilities and fosters growth.
You are leading with a wrong version of the growth mindset if:
upon your work, and ask for help when you feel stuck. That’s your
growth mindset guiding you to embrace the challenge and apply
di erent strategies to complete your project. In another instance,
while learning to play tennis, you may nd yourself putting in the
e ort, but do not notice a signi cant improvement in your strokes.
Instead of looking inward to your process, you may decide to quit
with the conclusion “Others can do it because they are talented. I
don’t have what it takes to learn tennis.”
Instead of a proclamation “I am a growth-minded person,” learn
to identify di erent situations in which invoking a growth mindset
can make a di erence. Think about what will help you move forward
instead of holding you back due to fear of failure, lack of abilities, or
anxiety of the unknown.
I am all up for the belief that we can grow our abilities if we put
effort, apply the right strategies and seek help from others. However,
thinking that “we can be anything we want to be only if we put our
mind to it” discounts the importance of other factors beyond our
mindset in our success. It seems to focus on the fact that the only
determinant of success is our mindset.12 We all know that’s not the
case. Context, culture, and the environment around us matter too.
Our luck plays a crucial role in whether we succeed in our goals or
not. We are also not all created equal - some people have better
resources and opportunities and are equipped to take more risks and
invest more time and money into achieving success.
Let’s understand some of these factors:
With less resources at hand, life struggles can sometimes get in the
way. This does not mean that you should stop trying with the belief
that you will never succeed anyway. That will be adopting a fixed
mindset. Rather, use your growth mindset to improve the process,
care about learning and enjoy the journey instead of a single-minded
focus on the destination you need to reach.
resources once and put them to practice as you proceed with the
various exercises in this book.
Complete the following exercise to determine your predominant
mindset. Take a moment to read each of the scenarios below and
choose the description from columns B and C that best describes
your behavior or how you typically think about different things in
your life.
Try to be completely honest. Remember, there are no right or
wrong answers. What matters is that you stay true to yourself when
you attempt this exercise.
trying if I am going
to fail
When you achieve I try to take all the I share credit with
success credit / I celebrate people who helped
my success and bask me succeed / I
in its glory. There’s celebrate my success
nothing more to be and then think
done about “what’s next”
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a lousy caster. I can't tap swing. I get scared when I'm upside-down.
In other words your winners are forming a plan of action while the
whiners are driving their roots of mediocrity deeper and deeper.”1
I can’t do this...yet.
This doesn’t work...yet.
I don’t know...yet.
It doesn’t make sense...yet.
I don’t get it...yet.
I’m not good at this...yet.
“Yet.”