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The Laws of Human Nature
The Laws of Human Nature
Book explains into details why humans behave the way we do.
* Skills Of Empathy
-- Having Empathetic Attitude: Assume everyone you meet is complete unknown to you,
and you don't understand how they think, ready to explore their mind.
-- Visceral Empathy: pay attention to people's feelings and moods, body language
and tone of voice to understand them.
-- Analytic Empathy: Don't close off others when they rub you up the wrong way, or
people you don't agree with. Never take anything personal.
-- Empathetic Skill: Practice by reading, and assuming peoples thoughts and asking
them to check if your assumption was right.
* Types Of Narcissists
-- Complete Control Narcissists: high level of insecurities & hypersensitive to
criticism. But are good listeners, to manipulate speaker.
-- Theatrical Narcissists: can play any role. Will do anything to seem moral and
are in love with attention.
-- Healthy Narcissists: high levels of optimissism and confidence they can use to
lead a team and boost morale.
* Use Induction
-- Associate yourself with something slightly defiant.
-- Always give the impression of sharing secrets that shouldn't be known to pull
in curiosity torwards you.
-- Dangle in front of others what is hard to get, like, fast path to riches or
friendly interactions with socialites.
Because possession does not compel people to act, desire does.
* Look Inward
-- Search deep in you to find what you truly desire
-- Don't go the route everyone else is going, find your own path and lead.
* Signs Of Shortsightness
-- Unintended Consequences: think deeply on all possibilities before making a
decision.
* Tactical Hell
-- giving attention & energy to arguments, especially one you cannot win. Focus
time instead on long term goals, since winning the argument
and feeding your ego most likely won't help you succeed.
* Signs of Envy
-- Microexpressions: According to Arthur Schopenhauer, telling suspected enviers
some good news about you(an achievement, a promotion, new love interest)
can elicit a quick disappointment shown through envier's facial expression(fake
smile or laughter) and tone of voice(which will betray some
tension and strain), as they congratulate you. Equally tell them some
misfortune of yours and notice the uncontrollable microexpression of joy
in your pain.
-- Poisonous Praise: envier's praise will be filled with sarcasm and off-hand
remarks which might make you feel uncomfortable.
-- Back-Biting: the envier talking behind your back.
-- Push & Pull: envier using friendship and intimacy as the best way to wound the
people they envy.
* Envier Types
-- The Leveler: always on the look out for injustice and unfairness in the world,
and can't take a joke. Their goal is to bring everyone down to their level of
mediocrity and might critize you for being overly ambitious.
-- The Self-Entitled Slacker: people who feel entitled to success and easy life,
but don't want to sacrifice and work hard for it. They are played by their own
narcissism and insecurities to get what they want.
-- The Status Feind: is obsessed with their own and other people's status. They
might debase you if you are of a lower status, and will envy you
if you are of a higher status than they are.
-- The Attacher: enviers attracted to the powerful and most successful not out of
admiration, but envy. They try to leach off of the attention the other
is getting, without the hardwork.
-- The Insecure Master: people who may feel insecure in a higher position. They
envy their subordinates who may possess more talent than them,
and might fire or discredit them out of their own insecurity.
* Beyond Envy
-- Admire people's greatness, instead of envying them
-- Gratitude: engage in downward comparison, compare yourself to people below you
on socio-economic level to feel grateful for what you have.
-- Trying to feel what the other is feeling while admiring them will get rid of
envy.
* The Grandiose Leader: distorts reality to fit their supposed greatness. They
believe in "Great Is My Destiny" and portray themselves as the savior
of the people they lead, as if fate has chosen them. And believe they can rewrite
the rules.
* Practical Grandiosity
-- Be honest with yourself about your grandiose desires.
-- Focus your energy into something positive. set a goal at a time and breakdown
the goals into steps.
-- Keep in touch with reality: don't expect your ideas to be perfect. Listen to
criticism
-- challenge yourself according to your abilities
-- Don't hold back your grandiose energy
12. THE LAW OF GENDER RIGIDITY (reconnect to the masculine or feminine within you)
Do not be afraid to let out the more sensitive or ambitious sides of your
character. The dormant masculine part in women(called animus) and the feminine
part in men(anima) are brought out especially when in love. This makes people
portray some qualities when in love, as if they are being controlled by an
external force.
* Group Dynamics
-- Group Culture: groups carry some dynamics of culture which might be based on
it's location.
An ideal state will always be the centre of the group's culture & spirit.
-- Rules & Codes: a groups has it's dos & donts which may not be written down but
implied by all group members to control the distorting effects of anarchy
-- The group court: the group imitates the alpha of the group through their words
and actions.
-- The Group Enemy: the group may have a villain either physically or
idealistically to fight.
-- The Group Factions: division within a large group. If left unchecked can take
over the group's purpose. This can be controlled by unified enthusiasm
which tightens the whole group.
Establishing Authority will make people follow you willingly and listen to your
word. Strategies to mobilize people's will power to follow you are as follows
* Authenticity: Find your authority style which must naturally come from your
character
- The Deliverer: leader who deliver people from evil e.g. Martin Luther King
Jr.
- The Founder: establish a new order in business or politics that diverges
from the status quo
- The Visionary: defies the norms. e.g. Picasso
- The Healer: one who can unify people
- The Teacher: can initiate action and get people to learn from their
mistakes.
* The Vision: develop laser focus for your vision and work hard torwards it until
it's achieved.
* The Tone: Set the right tone by working hard as an examplary path for your
followers.
* Stir Conflicting Emotions: establish an aura of mystery before your followers.
* Never appear to take, always to give
* Rejuvenate your authority: adapt to new authority styles that conform to new eras
and people of that era
16. THE LAW OF AGGRESSION (See the hostility behind the friedly facade)
"men are not gentle, friendly creatures looking for love, who simply defend
themselves if attacked..." Sigmund Freud
* Human Aggresion
Everyone has an aggressive side, which can be used for good, vice versa. Human
aggression stems from an underlying insecurity, as
opposed to simply an impulse to hurt or take from others.
* Passive Aggression
-- The Subtle Superiority Strategy: the person who always comes late, but make up
an excuse and apology.
-- The Sympathy Strategy: the person who plays the victim, but secretly loves the
drama, pain and attention.
-- The Insinuating Doubt Strategy: one who gives off-hand remarks to make you
question your abilities.
-- The Blame-Shifting Strategy: shifting blame to other people to save one's self.
-- The Passive-Tyrant Strategy: one who is impossible to please. People in power
use this to undermine their subordinates
* Controlled Aggression: channel your aggression to solutions that will solve your
problems.