LK. 5.

2 Asking and Giving Opinion

Theme: DON’T CHANGE WHO YOU ARE
Find the meaning of the following words:
Words Meaning
1. too quietly and softly
2. find
3. like before
4. confident
5. lost sight
6. might accept me
7. rejecting myself
8. seeking validation
9. went on a loop
10. hardest to forgive
11. punish ourselves
12. overwhelming
13. forgive
14. pleasing every single person
15. inner peace
16. fear
17. amazed
18. gorgeous
19. you just don’t see it yet

DON’T CHANGE WHO YOU ARE

Part 2
I didn't know what was happening back then. I was so stupid. It was until when I talk
to people. I talk more to my audience and I read more comments and people started to say
“What happened to your voice, Vi?” “You spoke too quietly and softly that it's really hard to
listen to you and we couldn't really find the positive energy, the fun vibes like before.”
 And that moment left me speechless because I was too confident that the positive
energy was something that I could always bring to people, that was my unique selling point
but when the audience couldn't find that in me, it felt like a loss of a part in my body.
I really lost sight of who I was. I listened to people's opinion and I changed who I am
because I think others might accept me for it, but I was wrong. What I had been doing so far
is not trying to become better but trying to become someone else by rejecting myself, by
seeking validation from every single one.
What the producer and the director told me just went on a loop in my brain for weeks,
“That voice was the part of you why did you deny it?” “Why did I deny it?” “I didn't know.”
I think because we, as humans, often make a lot of mistakes. And we often punish ourselves
for those past mistakes because those mistakes often come back with an overwhelming
feeling of guilt, of shame, of I am not good enough and I have never ever been good enough
and I realized that the hardest person to forgive on this Earth is not someone who betrayed
you and not a friend who wasn't there for you when you need the most, it's not your ex-
boyfriend who broke your heart to pieces. The hardest person to forgive on this Earth is myself.
And then my best friend told me to stop doing what I have been doing so far, which is
pleasing every single person and he said “just be yourself”. “Just be yourself” just three words
but we hear all the time and we're getting tired of it but it's the use of the word “just” that
really surprises me because when we use the word “just” it means that it is something very
easy to do. Then why just being myself is still the hardest thing for me to do? Why? I didn't
know.
And after talking to my therapist after learning more about meditation about my inner
peace listening more to my inner voice, I realized that my true self is actually being covered
up with a thinking and with a perception, which is based on fear. My true self is who I really
am when I let go of all those stories, of all the judgments that I myself place on me.
Do you still remember a challenge on Facebook where people would post 10-year
challenge? Where people would post their pictures when they were kids, and people and your
friends would comment, “Oh you look so cute you look so happy you look so nice” and then
the person would say, “ Oh yeah I look cute I was a cute kid back then” but you know my
challenge for you today is that: take a picture of your face today and remember that in 10
years’ time you will be amazed at how gorgeous and beautiful you are because right now you
are already gorgeous and beautiful because you just don't see it yet.