Module 4: Just and Healthy Relationships

1. SEE

Slide 2: Self-Reflection: Answer in a paragraph

● Up to what extent do you agree or disagree with the thoughts shared by these teenagers, and
why?
o I agree with pretty much everything they said. Social media has definitely made it a lot
easier to meet and connect with new people, but I think that without meeting in person
or establishing the real-life version of your relationship with someone, it’s hard for that
relationship to go much further. Since we also tend to try and be the best version of
ourselves online (where it’s much easier to achieve), how we interact with people online
doesn’t really always capture how we would actually interact with others in person. So,
as easy as it is to form connections through social media, it’s also that much easier for
these connections to break or get lost when, for example, a person doesn’t live up to our
expectations of them, or they weren’t really looking for the same things as us in terms of
why they’re talking to new people.

2. JUDGE

Slide 5: Judge: Languages of Love

Download: Chapman5LanguagesLove.pdf (Love languages Persona Profile); highlight your answer: Tally
your score.

● Reflection: Based on the result, what is your predominant language of love?

o My predominant languages of love are quality time, acts of service, and physical touch
(they all got an equal score).
● What insight do you gather about yourself in connection with being in a relationship?

o I know that being in a healthy and thriving relationship would require a lot of effort and
understanding on both my and my partner’s parts. It’s a bit hard to say you can do
something until you’ve actually done it; I can’t say for sure that I would always be the
kind of partner I want to be, but if I met the right person, I would definitely want to do
my best and treat them the way I’d want to be treated.

Slide 6: Language of Apology

Download Chapman LanguagesofApology.pdf. highlight your answer: Tally your score. Which language of
apology received the highest score? That is your predominant language of apology.
 ● Reflection: What is your predominant language of apology?
○ My predominant language of apology is accepting responsibility.
● What insight do you gather about yourself in connection with being in a relationship?
○ I’m the type of person whose feelings get hurt easily. Normally, I would balance that by
thinking of anything I could’ve done differently to avoid the unfortunate outcome, but I
also realize that, despite how multifaceted most misunderstandings and problems are,
it’s still healthy to just let people take responsibility for whatever they did wrong without
also blaming them for things that are only slightly related or out of their control.
3. ACT

Slide 11: Watch the video or read the transcript: Katie Hood, “The Difference Between Healthy and
Unhealthy Love)

● How do you feel about this presentation and what point resonates with you the most?
o I think this presentation was very illuminating, especially since love can really make
people blind in the sense that, since this is about a person we value and treasure, we
tend to want to accommodate them and what they’re “asking” (or maybe demanding, in
actuality) of us as much as possible even when we might not be totally comfortable with
doing so.
o What resonated with me the most is how looking deeper and trying to understand why
this or that action makes or made us feel a certain way helps us to navigate our
relationships better. A message I particularly value is that, even when you understand
and have been doing your very best for your part, a relationship is ultimately a two-way
street; sometimes, the next step is acknowledging that there are just things we can’t fix
alone and simply leaving the relationship behind is perhaps the best outcome.

4. EVALUATE

Slide 12: The activities try to assess and evaluate your love languages and your expression of apology.

● How are you treated by your partner (if you have one)? If none, how is the language of love
and apology of your friend? (choose one).
o My friends’ love and apology languages seem to be acts of service and expressing regret.
● How about your family? What are their languages of love and apology?
o I would say my family’s primary love languages are acts of service and quality time. As
for their primary apology language, it would most probably be genuinely repenting.
● Aiming for a healthy and just love, what will be your next step for these relationships?

o My next step would be to probably view these relationships in a newer light by being
more sensitive to the feelings of my loved ones and acting accordingly while also still
respecting both their and my boundaries.

5. CELEBRATE : READ 1 CORINTHIANS 13 MEDITATIVELY AS A FORM OF BIBLICAL PRAYER