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VALIDATION
Summary:
On the 183rd episode of the Let’s Talk About Mental Health Podcast, its host, Jeremy
children, teenagers, adults, and senior citizens. Validation is a term where the constant
need to be seen or heard by one’s self and/or others; this can be both beneficial and
damaging to our mental heaths, more specifically our self-esteem and self-worth. Godwin
discussed the two types of validation; self-validation and external validation. Godwin
expressed that a healthy balance between self-validation and external validation is crucial
as having a dependency on the former and losing site of the latter will negatively affect our
mental health especially when the craving for validation is not met to our standards or lose
a sense of self if it is lost. He conversed to his listeners the what, why, and how to handle
these perfectly normal emotions in a healthy way. With the sheer number of episodes that
he has done in his career, he frequently talks about topics that are correlated with the
episode that focuses on validation. With just his previous episode, being about social media
and its negative effects on our mental health, he connected the ideas of the need of constant
validation that we either get from ourselves or from others and how it is perfectly normal
to talk and acknowledge our own feelings rather than denying ourselves of ever feeling
them as acknowledging it will be the first step of the betterment of our self-esteem and self-
worth.
Critical Analysis:
“It means your life means something whether that’s in a big way or small way” a
statement from the podcast’s host; Jeremy Godwin. This statement is a major theme in the
podcast as validation is often repressed within ourselves as we feel as if our feelings are
petty and should not be felt. The host made it a point to make the listener that it is perfectly
okay to feel these things as having a healthy relationship with our feelings in a way that we
can acknowledge our emotions and help in a way that can truly resolve the issue. Another
main argument is whether each type of validation is better than the other one. To help us
form an opinion, the host provides the what, why, and how to help with the dependence on
either one. Relying on one type will cause us drawbacks to truly having self-confidence and
worth. External Validation comes from the need to be constantly reminded that we are valid
and our self-worth becomes synonymous to what people say about us and what other’s say
about us. In other words, their preconceived idea about us will become our reality as the
need to be what they want us to be will prevail. This is a negative effect of external
validation. As Godwin said, “External validation should complement, not replace your sense
of self”; having a clear understanding that what other say should be the end all be all of
ourselves will help us foster a positive relationship with our self. Self-validation is the other
type of validation in which focuses on our own feelings about ourselves. This is harder to
have since people have a tendency to force themselves to think that way as they feel as if it
is petty rather than acknowledging that what they are feeling and is valid. Godwin made it a
point that having a sense of self-validation is more important than external validation as
nobody is perfect and allowing ourselves to feel these emotions will help us know and love
ourselves better. “The more you talk about it, the better it gets.” a statement that I also
believe as suppressing what you feel especially if they are uncomfortable feelings will not
help you have a clear head. It better to know rather than to overthink about what you are
troubled about. These are what I analyzed listening to the podcast, having a voice that
makes you want to listen to them is important so that the listener will be more encouraged
to listen to; Godwin also used the “Imagine on what you would feel, if you were on their
shoes.” strategy as this topic is relatable and not hard to imagine what another person will
feel. All of these rhetorical strategies helped me to better understand the point Jeremy
The 183rd episode from the podcast Let’s Talk About Mental Health titled “Let’s Talk
About.. Validation”, talks about validation, why we feel it, how we can better relationships
primal need, rejection would cause death to primitive people, it has been hardwired into
our brains and has evolved throughout time.” This statement from Jeremy Godwin truly
encapsulates what validation is. It is normal, everybody feels it, since the dawn of our kind.
The feelings of wanting attention and or the feelings of not wanting rejection is a truly a
habit that we are accustomed to. The proper regulation of emotions so that validation will
favorably be toned down so that the constant need will lessen. Mutual respect when faced
with people’s different perspectives; being different gender, values and cultural
backgrounds and traditions, will help us sympathize with what they are feeling. Having
different perspectives aren’t the only way to sympathize. We can find understanding other
people in more mundane and regular feelings. Emotional validation is saying that “I get why
you are feeling like this and I would be too but that is perfectly normal.” This validation
makes anyone feel like they aren’t alone. The feeling of wanting to belong is truly normal as
from the quote by Godwin, we needed to belong so that we can survive and this mentality is
still present centuries later. Wanting to feel like you belong is a feeling that everybody
relates to as having someone to talk about your troubles will make you feel like you are
alone. People find a sense of familiarity with other people if they experience the same
things that they have also felt. It is truly in our nature to feel validated. Having a reliance on
it is a counterbalance to a healthy way of thinking. Having a true and proper balance of each
of the types of validation, is a better way than suppressing your emotions. Suppressing
emotions becomes draining since our mind is full of thoughts that makes our mind
disturbed. Having someone to talk about the overflowing feelings will help us foster a
better connection with ourselves and with other as they feel better that they helped us even
given advice. Having a person you can tell everything to is a healthy way, but don’t let that
relationship be one sided as the person you talk to , like us, experiences hardships to.
Helping one another is a truly beautiful thing to have. Rather than keeping to yourself, we
must understand that nobody is perfect, making mistakes is perfectly normal, and we must
celebrate our strengths. For me, the biggest validation I crave is academic validation. As a
student who has never been taken out off the honor roll, scores are everything to me. A high
student. My parents don’t pressure me to be in the honors but it is me that pressures myself
and the constant need for validation; both external and self. Listening to this podcast
helped me realized that I should not think too harshly pressure myself for grades. In the
end of the day, grades are truly just numbers and I should not let these numbers evaluate
my self-worth. What Jeremy Godwin is doing is doing what benefits him and benefits his
listeners. Motivational podcasts like this is truly helpful to people like us that just need
someone to think and acknowledge their feelings rather than suppressing them.
On the Let’s Talk About Mental Health (Episode 183) 29:49 running time on Spotify
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most perfect-looking people like barbie still feel the need to seek
normal.
the dependency on one type over the other will bring negative
effects when the time when the validation given isn’t enough for
rather than suppressing what you are feeling. “The more you talk
about it, the better you become” a quote by the host of the podcast
which holds true as you will feel better just knowing that there is