Modesty or shyness?

It is still relevant to a large number of believing men and women to confuse the concept of
shyness and modesty. Ang hindi pagkakaroon ng karampatang kaalaman patungkol sa
dalawang usapin na ito ay pumipigil sa atin sa mga bagay na nakakapagdulot ng maraming
kabutihan.

The concern that it will appear immodest prevents many believing women (both Arab and
secular) from achieving self confidence. Here is the example: nahihiya tayong magtanong sa
isang klase dahil may kaklase tayong hindi natin mahram o ang ustadh na mismo ang hindi
natin mahram at natatakot tayo na makafitna ang boses natin. Ito ba ay ang totoong haya?
Ang sagot ay hindi. Ang pagkakaroon ng haya ay hindi naglilimita sa pagtatanong which is
beneficial sa lahat lalong lalo na sa sarili. Ang hukom sa boses ng babae ay malawak na
usapin ngunit sa pangkalahatan, ang pagbabawal lamang sa boses ng babae ay kung iibahin
nya ito ng tono at magsasalita sya ng walang kadignidad.

The modesty itself means a moral that helps a person to avoid ugly actions and negligence
towards others. Ang hayaa ay bagay na mayroon ang mga taong mananampalataya dahil ito
ang daan sa paggawa ng mga bagay na magdudulot ng kabutihan at magpapaiwas ng
kasamaan. Ang hayaa ay nahahati sa dalawa:

Alhayau baynan naas : a modesty between people: this aspect prevents us to do something
which can cause trouble and reprehensible towards others.
Alhaya u bayna allah: a modesty between Allah this type of hayaa indulge the believer to do
acts of worship that draws us nearer to Allah. Alhaya u baynallah also forbid the believer to
do sin because she/he is aware that Allah is watching whatever may circumstance will be.

Being shy refers to a behavior that causes one to withdraw from social situations and feel ashamed.
Shyness can be brought on by a lack of self-assurance and poor social skills. A shy person is prone to
withdrawing, feeling uncomfortable in social settings, and possibly avoiding engaging in social
activities. In conclusion, shyness prevents a person from defending himself or asking his right.

Indeed, shyness is part of modesty, but shyness itself is not modesty.

It is must upon us to ponder our actions if it is done with knowledge and affirmation. Being modest
does’nt provide anything but good as per prophet Muhamad s.a.w said