Personal Development

Quarter 1 – Module 3:
Developing the Whole Person-Evaluate One’s Personality

Lesson 3 Developing the Whole Person

Developing oneself holistically may be the goal of everyone. However, there are times that we lack awareness
of our doings and actions that leads to misunderstanding with others particularly our parents. This can also potentially
lead to self-harm. To know oneself is also quite challenging. To start picking the pieces of ourselves and subsequently
develop our individuality completely to be like an “ideal” person is not easy. Learning and understanding our self is an
advantage in building your personality and stablishing relationship with others. Holistic personality is necessary in
stablishing your career.
Since you have already obtained a clear understanding of yourself as you have done all the activities in the
previous lesson, understanding the competencies included in this module will be easy for you. Thus, you will eventually
use all the skills developing the whole person within yourself. So, get ready to unfold the reality by removing the
barriers toward understanding your true self.

Who would be responsible in developing one’s personality?

Every individual undergoes different phases of development that form his/her individuality. Our personality is
a product of genetic response that we inherit from our parents and from the influence of our environment. This
environment shaped by the people around us, culture and practices that we are being raised and continuously creates
social interactions that build relationships. This interaction contributes to who we are today and how we choose and
decide for ourselves. Personality development is complex administration of thoughts, feelings, emotion and behavior
that influence personal judgement.
As a child, you are dream of a good and satisfying life when you grow up. Your family becomes your helping
hand in nurturing, guiding, and educating yourself. When you reach adolescence, you experience drastic changes in
your physical appearance, cognitive abilities, social relationship, and emotional behavior. At this stage, our
environment becomes part of our development from which we acquire knowledge and collect information to organize
and interpret different life situations.
According to Erik Erikson, adolescence stage of Psychosocial development, also known as “identity vs. role
confusion” is the stage wherein teens need to develop the sense of self and personal identity. At this point, teenagers
start to have circle of friends in which they build their trust.
Teenagers also experience adolescence cognitive empathy, known as “theory of mind” which is described as
having high regards toward the perspective of others and feeling concern for others. Being adolescents, they tend to
foster social cooperation that prevents problems and leads to avoidance of conflicts with peers. Teenagers are very
careful in understanding the emotions of their friends as they start to create deep trust with them. Sometimes, this
leads to misunderstanding with their family, abuse of prohibited drugs, pre-marital sex, cigarette smoking and alcohol
intake. Based on research, teenagers are commonly high risk-takers and impulsive due to incomplete development of
frontal lobe during adolescence. The frontal lobe is responsible for judgement, impulse control, and planning.
That is why they search for their self-identify and independence which requires guidance from their parents,
relatives, and other people like teachers with whom they can share their struggles. These experiences and challenges
are part of a process of personality development that adolescents need to understand.
It is necessary for them to examine all the circumstances and opportunities so that they can dealt with calm.
They have to be open-minded to the opinion and advise of other people in order to shape their future with broader
perspective and self-determination.
You cannot escape life challenges so you should know how your thoughts, feelings, and actions in managing
personal agency should be handled. Being an adolescent, you should be accountable for all your actions because these
power triads (thoughts, feelings, and action) can either make or break your motivation to take charge of life. It is up to
you on how you will handle it. Remember, your judgement is based on your views in life, and it is rooted on your
upbringing.
Thoughts are impression activated by a stimulus in your mind that is evident from the environment that you
are in. This conscious thought occupies emotions that give life to thoughts, and it expressed through feelings.
Sometimes when you are too emotional, you could not think properly because your emotions occupy your thoughts,
this means there is lesser space to analyze the situation because feelings occupy it. Behaviors are bodily reaction made
based on our feelings that result to actions.
There are instances when feelings are faster than emotion and thought. This would result to fast reaction and
realizing the emotion and thought afterwards. Either positive or negative, feelings result to actions. Emotions can direct
and control thoughts that sometimes affect your consciousness. This can also lead to loss of focus. As a teenager, it is
very important to be focused on your goals. A focused thought will lead to high intelligence. That is why if you are
disturbed with your emotion, try to figure out where the emotion is coming from, and it will bring you back to reality.
Teenagers experience enjoyment and daunting times but it is very important to stay focused so that they will
lead you to the route of your goal. It is not easy to achieve the goal but if you have self-regulation that will control your
emotions, thoughts, and behavior it will help you to be successful in life. Learning from mistakes and facing challenges
with confidence and faith in God will give you the power to be successful in life.

Introduction to Personality Boundless Psychology. Lumen Learning.Book.8/11/2021.

https://courses.lumenlearning.com/boundless-psychology/chapter/introduction-topersonality/
Watch : https://www.oercommons.org/authoring/21202-adolesce/1/view

There are a lot of challenges that would help us understand ourselves better. Try answering the activities below
to find out the relationship of thoughts, feelings, and actions to better understand yourself and how to manage conflicts
between you and your family, friends and others. Using the following situation, complete the conflict management
diagram. Write the negative response in letter A and positive response in letter B.

Situation 1: You’re walking alone on the road that is so dark and you heard a whimper nearby.

Situation 2: You’re working on your research paper and you need to concentrate on it, but your brother plays his electric
guitar despite you calling his attention many times.

Situation 3: You are about to enter the door of your house then you hear your father who is drunk shouting sarcastically
at you because it is already past 8:00 pm when you class ends at 3:00 pm.
Situation 4: Your teacher tells you that you that you have been selected as the representative of the school to compete
for a division contest and this is your first time to participate in a competition.

Situation 5: You are the leader of your group but while presenting the concept that you worked on the whole night,
but your ideas fail to impress one of your classmates which upset you.
 Personal Development
Quarter 1 – Module 4:
Thoughts, Feelings, and Behaviors in Actual Life Situations

Lesson 4: Thoughts, Feelings, and Behaviors in Actual Life Situations

While you may notice and feel drastic physical changes within you, it is, too important to know how these
transformations develop you as an individual. Not only does the physical aspect affect your thoughts and feelings, but
this more importantly positively converts your behaviors---toward yourself and the people around you.
In the previous module that you have accomplished, you have understood that every individual experiences
certain stages of life that form his or her being a person. Likewise, you have understood that adolescents tend to
experience “cognitive empathy,” a phenomenon where a person pays high regards to perspective of others and feeling
concerned towards people in the society. In this specific module, you will be able to aptly appreciate the changes within
you that you have evaluated in the previous module: your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Now that you have
enumerated and assessed yourself, it is about time for you to appreciate that understanding these three elements
leads you to better weigh of what is going on around you, making you a keener observer and a more active participant
to the betterment of your personal goals and others’ individual roles in the society.

Read and internalize the poem entitled “I Wandered Lonely as a Cloud” by a notable romantic poet, William
Wordsworth. You may use either your physical dictionary or electronic dictionary for you to understand the words that
may be unfamiliar to you.

Unlocking of Difficulties
WORD DEFINITION CONTEXTUAL EXAMPLE
(from www.dictionary.com)
Daffodil a bulbous plant, Narcissus I really love bright and yellow flowers
pseudonarcissus, of the amaryllis because they make my day livelier.
family, having solitary, yellow, How I love daffodils, indeed.
nodding flowers that bloom in the
spring
Flutter to wave, flap, or toss about Look at the fluttering butterflies in
the garden! They are so happy, aren’t
they?
Jocund cheerful; merry; blithe; glad I have never seen him sad all along.
He has always been jocund.
Oft Often Know what, I often see him pray
when things are getting difficult.
Pensive expressing or revealing Despite the challenging times, they
thoughtfulness, usually marked by remained pensive all these days.
some sadness:
 I Wandered Lonely as a Cloud
by William Wordsworth

I wandered lonely as a cloud

That floats on high o'er vales and hills,
When all at once I saw a crowd,
A host, of golden daffodils;
Beside the lake, beneath the trees,
Fluttering and dancing in the breeze.

Continuous as the stars that shine

And twinkle on the milky way,
They stretched in never-ending line
Along the margin of a bay:
Ten thousand saw I at a glance,
Tossing their heads in sprightly dance.

The waves beside them danced; but they

Out-did the sparkling waves in glee:
A poet could not but be gay, In such a jocund company:
I gazed—and gazed—but little thought
What wealth the show to me had brought:

For oft, when on my couch I lie

In vacant or in pensive mood,
They flash upon that inward eye
Which is the bliss of solitude;
And then my heart with pleasure fills,
And dances with the daffodils.
 The poem that you have just read manifests how a person can be lonely and happy at the same time. Likewise,
an adolescent like you might be able to transform your thoughts and feelings onto a positive behavior. For instance,
like a cloud, you might be alone at times, perhaps left behind by the ones you consider as close and significant to you;
thus you might think and feel (hence the thoughts and feelings) that you are unimportant to them. However, as what
Wordsworth wrote, “A poet could not but be gay,” he did not let the loneliness envelop him, so he found his own ways,
controlling his behavior, to be “gay” or happy even though the situations are against him.
By analyzing the poem and relating this to your everyday life as an adolescent, you can now clearly identify the
connections between your thoughts, feelings, and behavior. As discussed above, the three do not necessarily have to
be of the same succeeding level or intensity that one of them may contradict or control the others. That is the reason
that as a responsible adolescent, it is imperative that you evaluate yourself through self-assessment. Self-assessment
is your own assessment of your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors which is completely necessary for you to arrive to an
informed decision.
However, while decisions may be individual, these are affected by factors like values, goals, and positive
affiliations. In the study of B. Bradford Brown entitled The Psychology of Adolescence, he wrote that the
aforementioned factors are affected by positive family and community context, emphasizing that skills to deal with
anxiety and adversity are also keys. Hence, an individual must be able to assess himself or herself accurately prior to
making decisions as the outcomes of his or her actions can be the reflections of how he or she is raised, chooses peers,
and deals with the community.
Meanwhile, in an online article published in carolinapeds.com entitled “The Connection Between our
Thoughts, Feelings, and Behaviors, the author Courtney Bancroft”, it was discussed that the three are connected with
one another in such a means that when one (e.g. thought) or any two of the three (e.g. thought and feeling) is/are on
negative pole, it may be changed by having the remaining factor/s focused on the positive pole.