HABIT 1 : BE PROACTIVE

Principles : Responsibility and Initiative

SEE

 Believe they are free to chose how to act, regardless of what happens to them.
 Know their future is a product of their own choices.

DO

 Take Initiative.
 Carry their own weather.
 Use proactive language.
 Grow their Circle of Influence.
 Break negative cycles.
 Avoid Addictions.

GET

 The future they want.

 HABIT 1 : BE PROACTIVE Ineffective Students
What they See  I am a product of my
genetics and environment.
 What I get out of life is
mostly a result of luck and
fate.
What they Do  Sit back and let what
happens happen.
 Let other people control
them.
 Use victim language.
 Focus energy on things
they can’t control.
 Allow old baggage from
the past to impede
progress.
 Get pressured into
addictive behaviour.
What they Get  Dreams that stay dreams.
 Out of control lives.
 Increasing stress.
 Crappy grades,broken
relationship, a lame job.
Effective Students
 I am free to choose my
actions and attitudes.
 I am the creative force of my
life.
 Take initiative; make things
happen.
 Carry their own weather;
control their own feelings.
 Use proactive language.
 Focus energy on things they
can control.
 Break negative cycles from
the past.
 Know their risk of addiction
and get help if they are
struggling with an addiction.
 Dreams that become reality.
 Control over their lives.
 Less stress.
 Better grades, better
relationship, better job.
HABIT 2 : Begin with the end in mind
Principles: Vision, Purpose and Meaning

SEE

 Know that mental creation precedes the physical creation.

 Believe they can make a meaningful difference.

DO

 Discover what matters most to them.

 Write a personal mission statement.
 Set meaningful, realistic goals.
 Explore their career options.
 Map out a graduation plan.
 Begin with their future portfolio or resume in mind.

GET

 A greater sense of meaning and purpose.

 A feeling of greater self-worth.
 Accomplished goals.
 Criteria for deciding what is or is not important.

HABIT 2 : BEGIN WITH THE END Ineffective Students Effective Students

 IN MIND
What they See  Are too busy to stop and
make a plan for life.
 Think their parents,
professors, and employers
will let them know what is
most important.
What they Do  Plow forward without an
aim or a plan.
 Allow others to set their
direction.
 Spend a lot of time getting
through college; do it
inefficiently.
What they Get  Aimlessness that leads to
emotional pain and
frustration.
 Increased expenses from
spending too many years
in college.
 A career they never
intended to go into.
 Less effectiveness and less
efficiency.
HABIT 3 : Put first things first
 Know that everything is
created twice - first
mentally, then physically.
 Want to live a life of
purpose.
 Get clear on what is
important.
 Write a personal mission
statement.
 Set personal goals.
 Find their voice - what
they love to do and are
good at.
 Create a graduation plan
for completing college on
time, if not early.
 Start thinking about what
they want in their portfolio
or resume from Day 1.
 Begin research papers with
a clear end in mind.
 A compelling “why” for
going to college.
 A sense of meaning and
purpose.
 Less cost getting through
college.
 Better grades.
 The satisfaction that
comes with setting and
completing goals.
Principles: Integrity and Focus

SEE

 Put effectiveness first, then efficiency.

 Focus on importance first, then urgency.
 Prioritize relationship first, then schedules.

DO

 Live in Quadrant 2.
 Plan weekly.
 Adapt daily.
 Organize their stuff.
 Dive into the courage zone.

GET

 More productivity.
 Less stress.
 Greater life balance.

HABIT 3 : PUT FIRST THINGS Ineffective Students Effective Students

FIRST
What they See  Believe everything urgent  Focus on the important,
 is important.
 Thrive on crises and
putting out fires.
What they Do  Prioritize their schedules.
 Devote much of their time
to Quadrants 1 and 2; they
are slaves to the urgent.
 Respond to every urgent
request.
 Avoid planning.
What they Get  Neglect important things.
 Stressed, burnout.
 Are less effective and less
efficient.
HABIT 4 : Think Win-Win
Principles: Mutual Benefits, Courage and Consideration
not the urgent.
 Schedule their priorities.
 Keep relationships first,
then schedules.
 Live in Quadrant 2.
 Plan weekly.
 Adapt daily.
 Organize their stuff.
 Dive into the courage
zone.
 Have a sense of meaning
and purpose.
 Have more time and
space.
 Have a better life balance.
 Are more productive.
SEE

 Thinks “It’s not all about me.”

 Trust that there is plenty for everyone.
 Know that it’s possible to win in a way that others win too.
 Believe that no one has to lose.

DO

 Balance courage with consideration.

 Feel happy for the successes of others.
 Share credit and recognition.
 Make deposits in other people’s Emotional Bank Account.
 Look for opportunities to partner and collaborate.

GET

 More shared wins.

 Faster, better solutions to problems.
 Richer, more lasting relationships.

HABIT 4 : THINK WIN-WIN Ineffective Students Effective Students

What they See  Win-lose  Win-win or No deal
 Lose-lose  Abundance (There is
 Lose-win plenty for everyone.)
 Scarcity ( The pie is only so
 big.)

What they Do  Think of themselves first,  Balance courage with

or play the role of victim consideration.
or martyr.  Feel happy for the
 Get jealous and frustrated successes of others.
when others do well.  Share credit and
 Hog all the credit when recognition.
things go well.  Make deposits in other
 Make more withdrawals people’s Emotional Bank
than deposits. Account.
 Look for opportunities to
partner and collaborate.

What they Get  Victories at the cost of  More shared wins.

integrity and personal  Faster, better solutions to
contribution. problems.
 Loss of the friendship and  Richer, more lasting
respect of others. relationships.

HABIT 5 : Seek first to Understand, then to be Understood

Principles: Empathy and Clarity
SEE

 Know that listening first allows them to understand the problem.

 Believe that their own opinion is important too, and worth sharing.

DO

 Avoid poor listening habits.

 Practice empathy by listening for content and feeling.
 Present ideas from other people’s point of view as well as their own.
 Give and receive helpful feedback.

GET

 Better relationship with others .

 Solutions to tough problems.
 Mutual understanding.

HABIT 5 : SEEK FIRST TO Ineffective Students Effective Students

UNDERSTAND, THEN TO BE
UNDERSTOOD
What they See  I want to seek first to be
understood; If there’s
time, I will seek to
understand.
 I must seek first to
understand before trying
to be understood.
 I need to diagnose before I
  I will prescribe before I
diagnose.
What they Do  Listen with the intent to
reply.
 Present ideas only from
their point of view.
 Give insensitive feedback.
What they Get  Emotionally draining
relationships.
 Surface-only solutions.
 Long delays in getting to
issues.
 Misdiagnosis
HABIT 6 : Synergize
Principles: Diversity and Collaboration
SEE
prescribe.
 Avoid poor listening
habits.
 Practice empathy by
listening to content and
feelings.
 Present ideas from other
people’s point of view as
well as their own.
 Give and receive helpful
feedback.
 Greater influence with
others.
 Understanding of complex,
emotional problems.
 Faster problem solving.
 Strong relationship.
 Believe “together is better.”
 Value differences because they create opportunities.
 Think “We can create a better way that is better than yours or mine.”

DO

 Value differences.
 Build complementary teams.
 Go for the 3rd Alternative.
 Remove barriers to synergy.

GET

 New and better ideas.

 Excitement and passion for the project.
 Better relationships.
 Greater learning.

HABIT 6 : SYNERGIZE Ineffective Students Effective Students

What they See  It’s my way, or no way;
alone is better.
 Different points of view
are wrong.
 My way is the only way.
 Together is better.
 Differences create
opportunities.
 We can create a higher
way that is better that
your way or my way.

What they Do  Do it their way; go to it  Value differences.


What they Get
HABIT 7: Sharpen the Saw
Principles: Renewal and Balance
SEE
 Know they must continuously renew their body, mind, heart and spirit to be healthy and happy.
 Believe they are doing all right but can do better.
alone.
 Disregard people’s
opinions that are different
from theirs.
 Shut their office doors.
 Go for compromise.
 Compromise at best.
 Negative synergy.
 Increasing problems.
 Frustrated team members.
 Build complimentary
teams.
 Go for 3rd Alternative.
 Remove barriers to
synergy.
 Effective solutions to their
problems.
 Excitement and passion for
the project.
 Better relationship.
 Greater learning, and
appreciation for the
wealth of diversity in the
people around them.
 Believe balance is best.

DO

 Stay fit and healthy.

 Build rewarding relationships.
 Keep their mind sharp.
 Make their life meaningful.

GET

 Physical endurance.
 Richer relationships.
 Lifelong learning.
 A life filled with meaning.

HABIT 7 : SHARPEN THE SAW Ineffective Students Effective Students

What they See  I am so busy, I can’t stop
to Sharpen the Saw.
 I will Sharpen the Saw
later.
 I must continuously renew
my body, heart, mind and
spirit to stay current.
 I am doing all right, but I
can get better.
 Balance is best.

What they Do  Neglect their health.  Stay fit and healthy.

 Fail to maintain  Build rewarding
friendships. relationships.
  Fail to update their  Keep a sharp mind.
knowledge and skills.  Make life meaningful.
 Live a meaningless life.

What they Get  Illness, lack of energy.  Better health.

 A list of former friends.  Lasting relationships.
 Outdated skills and  Lifelong learning.
knowledge.  A life of contribution.
 Lack of meaning.