IF you WERE IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP, YOU COULD COUNT ON US.

1) READ THE TEXT. IT IS A REAL TESTIMONY OF A GIRL IN A TOXIC REALATIONSHIP.

TRUE STORY:“How I Finally Realized I Was In An

Emotionally Abusive Relationship” BY MELISSA WONG / JANUARY 26, 2018

It’s easy to tell if your partner is physically abusive, but would you know if he was hurtful ? Here’s how Natalie*, 33,

realized her man’s true nature before deciding to walk away from him

“ In the beginning of our relationship Aaron was kind, loving and supportive, but as time went on, he
changed in the way he spoke to me and treated me. It took me another year before I realized that I was in an
emotionally abusive relationship”

“When I was with Aaron, my self-esteem always took a hit. He would jokingly criticize what I wore or the way I did my

hair and makeup, saying things like, ‘Were you asleep when you got dressed this morning?’ and ‘Your eye shadow and

lipstick colors make you look super-old’.At the time I just thought he was trying to be funny.

“Once, I told Aaron about a job I was interested in applying for. Instead of encouraging me to go for it, he said, ‘There’ll

be lot of people trying for that position and they’re probably more qualified than you. If I were you I wouldn’t bother’.

When I asked him why he didn’t want the best for me, he blamed me, saying that he was just realistic. ‘You’re not a

hardworking or competitive person’, he said.

“Aaron often put me down in front of my friends, too. He told them that I was lazy, messy, disorganized and

undisciplined. After a while, I began to dread having my friends around because Aaron rarely had anything positive to

say about me. But then, he said that he was just kidding and ask why I couldn’t take a joke.”

2) -Separate the following words into POSITIVE and NEGATIVE:

violence, protection, peace, chaos , happy, convince, self-centered, secure, confident, abuse, respect

family, freedom,. control , belittle, stupid, safe, annoy, possessive, toxic, friends, love, guilt

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 Positive Negative

LOOK AT THE TWO SENTENCES HIGHLIGHTED IN THE TEXT.

.If I WERE you I wouldn’t bother’.

. IF he CHEATED ON her, she would leave him.

Would you know if he was hurtful?

Would you come with me, if I invited you?

He would support her, if he really loved her.

If Laura was confident, she wouldn´t think he is with other chick.

The structure of the second conditional is:

IF + + (PAST SIMPLE) , + WOULD + INFINITIVE VERB

WOULDN´T
could

3) – If you were in a toxic relationship ……..

Form the conditional part. (you can practice it orally)

Eg : If I was in a toxic relationship, he would enhance my life and my spirit.

He /She enhances your life and your spirit

He/ She makes you feel guilty of his / her own actions.

He/ She makes you feel confident

He / she manipulate you emotionally.

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 You have a sensation of being trapped

You feel safe

You are afraid for your life

He / She support your projects

He/ She tries to be nice with your friends

He / She tries to create discord among your family.

The person gives you compliments

4) Watch the video. Don´t confuse love and abuse

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1L6HB97lbrQ

5) True or false
a) He was supportive
b) He wanted to show his strength.
c) He was generous
d) He was always proving that he was better than her
e) He chose her cloths and her friends
f) She couldn´t concentrate
g) He gave her time for her own
h) He made her feel insecure.

6) Complete and translate.

a) IF I ……………………………………(STUDY) , I …………………………………….(PASS) THE SUBJECT.

b) IF WE ……………………………….(BE) ALONE, WE …………………………………(TALK) ABOUT US.
c) IF CARLOS …………………………….(BE) A PROFESSIONAL, SHE …………………………(INTRODUCE) HIM WITH HER FRIENDS.
d) IF WE …………………………………..(NOT SPEND) MUCH TIME WITH HER FAMILY, WE ……………………..…(BE) HAPPIER.
e) I ………………………………..(LOVE) YOU MORE, IF YOU ………………………..(DO) WHAT I SAY.
f) HE ……………………………..….(TAKE ) HIM OUT ,IF HE …………………………..(NOT ACT) SO HOMOSEXUAL.

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