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Coping With Self Harm Brochure 08 2020
Coping With Self Harm Brochure 08 2020
Coping With Self Harm Brochure 08 2020
Coping with
Patient information awards
Highly commended
Help for parents and carers Help for young people
Professional Help: Mind (over 18s only) Professional Help:
GPs www.mind.org.uk
self-harm
GPs
School Nurses Rethink School Counsellors
Counsellors/Therapists www.rethink.org School Nurses
Helplines and Online Harmless Child and Adolescent Mental
Information/Support:
YoungMinds
www.harmless.org.uk
Royal College of
Health Services*
Adult Mental Health A Guide for
Parents and
www.youngminds.org.uk Psychiatrists Services*
YoungMinds Parent www.rcpsych. *Usually through referral by GP or
Helpline: ac.uk/healthadvice/ other professional
0808 802 5544
(Mon-Fri 9.30am-4pm)
Samaritans
parentsandyouthinfo/
parentscarers/self-harm.
aspx
Helplines and Online
Information/Support:
www.youngminds.org.uk
Carers
116 123
Childline – 0800 1111
www.samaritans.org
www.childline.org
Further Reading: “The Parent’s Guide to Self-Harm” Samaritans – 116 123
by Jane Smith, Oxford: Lion Hudson. www.samaritans.org
www.harmless.org.uk
For more information on the experiences
of other parents and carers, go to
http://www.healthtalk.org/self-harm
or scan this code:
This guide summarises independent research funded by the National Institute for Health Research (NIHR) under its Programme Grants for Applied Research
Programme (Grant Reference Number RP-PG-0610-10026). The views expressed are those of the author(s) and not necessarily those of the NHS, the NIHR
or the Department of Health.
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Don’t give up
Explain to other children and close family
from self-harm may be a long process, so try
that your child is going through a difficult
to find time for relaxation. Pay attention to
time – you do not need to give details
Siblings may feel angry or that their sibling
the physical signs of stress, such as stomach
aches, difficulty sleeping, or depression.
on your child
who is self-harming is being selfish and Take time for yourself when you are upset. Trying to help your child may sometimes be
causing distress in the family Do things you enjoy, such as going out with frustrating. However, when they push you
You are still the parent: don’t be afraid to friends, exercise, hobbies, etc. away is often when they need you the most.
set boundaries on your child’s behaviour Learn to identify and accept your own Remember, most young people who self-
(e.g., how they treat siblings) feelings. It may help to write them down. harm will stop sooner or later.
Remember your other children need your Find an outlet for your emotions, such as
attention and support as well talking to a friend, relative or therapist. You
may find other emotions coming out as anger
Try to help them manage their feelings
– be careful that your child does not think
Watch for similar behaviours in your other this is directed at them.
children
Give yourself permission only to do things
emind them of other ways to cope:
R that really need doing and don’t worry about
e.g., talking, relaxation, sports or art less important tasks. Take time off work if
Listen to them and remind them that you you are able, and accept help from family
love them and friends.
“Don’t ever be ashamed he wider family may or may not under-
T “I see the future as like a
of talking about self-harm… stand why a child would self-harm, so you
contour map - she will
I guarantee there are fifty and your immediate family will have to
continue to get better and
other people in the same she will have long periods
think about how they might react and how
boat.” where life is good”
you want to manage this
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