Attitude while chanting

We all know that good things happen to positive people. Let's imagine you're sitting in front
of the Gohonzon, praying for something important. As Ikeda says, "When you decide to be
victorious, every nerve and cell will orient itself towards your success. But when you think,
this is never going to work out, then every cell is defeated and gives up the fight."
I've been chanting since 2019. Whenever I chant, I feel a strong connection to the Gohonzon,
and I naturally focus on improving relationships. Before that, I used to pray mostly for my
family's financial problems. I prayed hard for my son to get a better job and for my court
cases to go well. It took time, but my prayers were answered when my son got a good job in a
nice company.
Now, I'm dealing with some relationship karma. Daishonin states, “Our parents, partners,
siblings and children are all part of the environment in which we find ourselves, and we are
bound to them through karmic ties we cannot escape from our reality.” I believe that our
family members are connected to us through strong ties, so I've been chanting for stronger
bonds within my family.
As Ikeda reminds us, “If you practice faith while doubting its effects, you will get results that
are at best, unsatisfactory.” “On the other hand, when you stand up with strong confidence,
you will accrue limitless blessings.”
Even though I feel some negativity sometimes, I know I need to work on improving myself.
I'm inspired by people like Shin’Ichi Yamamoto, who never gave up despite facing struggles.
So, I'm determined to keep chanting and working towards a better life guided by Buddhist
principles of courage, wisdom, and compassion.
Although my prayers haven't been answered yet, I trust in my connection with the Gohonzon,
and I'll keep chanting and striving for positive change.
we often tend to think our karma is something outside of us. However, someone else's
behaviour is not your karma. our karma is that we don't know how to deal with their
behaviour. we can't handle their behaviour. we respond in the wrong way to their behaviour.
That's your problem. our behaviour is our karma. Sometimes we may think that we are a
terrible person if we have someone in our environment who is a terrible person. That's not
true. They are a terrible person in their own right!
So, why are we suffering? we have the karma to be with that person, but they were going to be that
way anyway. You didn't make them that way. Ask yourself why you are unable to deal with that
person. Why does that person make us angry? Why do we let that person make us unhappy? in such
a case, we have the karma to be unable to handle these things in our environment. That is our
problem.

When we chant daimoku to be able to handle that person, to be able to grow and be stronger than
that person so that we are no longer unable to deal with that person. Why does that person make us
angry? Why do we let that person make us unhappy? In such a case, we have the karma to be unable
to handle these things in our environment. That is our problem.

When we chant daimoku to be able to handle that person; to be able to grow and be stronger than
that person so that we are no longer affected, then it no longer affects us. we've transformed our
environment."

Guidelines for chanting for relationship karma

1) Chant for the person’s happiness and to attain enlightenment

2) Chant for them to solve their problems
3) Give words of encouragement, appreciation, respect, understanding and acceptance.
4) Have heart to heart sincere dialogues.