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Preface
Annotated Bibliography
About the Author
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Acknowledgements
coming into Julie’s and my lives many years ago, for opening
our minds to ideas about the spirit dimension and guardian
angels, for loving me and Julie with his whole heart, for
supporting me through all the heartaches of Julie’s illness
and her untimely passing, for helping me heal and grow,
and for being a loving and joyful partner in receiving and
celebrating Julie's precious messages of love, magically given
to us across dimensions.
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Preface
But each time she beat the disease, it came back in a more
virulent form until my beloved child could not fight it any
more. We prayed desperately and hoped for a miraculous
reprieve, but were eventually forced to accept the reality.
We said goodbye with aching hearts and Julie promised to be
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our little angel, always watching over us. Little did we know
then what exactly this would entail.
meet, and how they will all help each other achieve their
planned goals. (Dabholkar, Departed Loved Ones Are
Guardian Angels, 13; Dabholkar, Life Review: God’s Perfect
Plan, 20.) Earl, Julie, and I agreed that the complexities of
such planning (across generations) were beyond our limited
human ability; but we knew our souls were capable of such
intricate thinking in the spirit dimension (or heaven) where
they would be at a much higher level of consciousness (that
is, knowledge, understanding, and abilities).
Section I
Chapter 1
What Julie Was Like
Tall and slim, with long, wavy, dark hair, soft brown eyes,
and a huge smile that lit up her face, Julie attracted people
instantly. Once when Earl, Julie, and I were out, a young man
approached us and politely asked me if he “could date my
daughter.” He said he had watched us interact for a while
and in all his life he had never seen such a glowing spirit as
Julie. He told us he was a medical student and came from a
respectable family. I was at a loss as to what to say and
suggested he ask Julie himself. She charmingly declined.
After the stranger left, looking rather sad, she told us that
this happened to her all the time. Young men she did not
know often asked her out, and some half-jokingly even
proposed marriage as their opening line. I thought that was
scary, but Julie viewed it as a funny and nice compliment.
Here is a photograph of
the two of us (when Julie
was four and a half),
dressed in Indian clothes
that my mother brought
for us. Later, on a visit to
my mother in India when
Julie was a teenager, we
visited a school for blind
girls. Julie and I were very
much moved by these girls
who were energetic and
happy despite their
enormous handicap,
mostly caused by
malnutrition. Julie thought
of them literally until her
dying day, as I relate later.
But Julie took it further than most people do. She tried to
imagine vividly what the victims of abuse must have gone
through because she thought that was the way to truly
understand their pain. I believe she sometimes took this
exercise too far, and I tried hard to convince her that it was
not a positive way to help them or herself. Together, we tried
to figure out how all this suffering might be part of a soul
plan, but it was not easy. I suggested that these souls might
receive their reward some day for what they had endured.
One way that Julie watched out for me, in turn, was when
we ventured into water. I always felt completely safe in the
water when Julie was with me. She was a natural swimmer
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from the time she took lessons at age six. I called her our
enchanting mermaid. She loved to swim and frolic in the
water as a little girl and as a teenager. She was strong and
graceful as she moved in water, whether in a pool or in the
ocean, so that “mermaid” was truly an apt name for her.
i am so sorry
i love you so much
i thank god for you....
Then one day she came home after her classes and
grocery shopping and found three messages in her voice
mail. Eager to know who her new friends might be, Julie
listened and found to her growing disappointment, mixed
with amusement, that the messages were all from me. She
decided to take it in good humor and left me a very funny
voice mail at work, as she knew I would already be asleep
given the time difference. I saved the recording and still love
listening to her infectious laughter as she recounts this story.
She soon made some good friends and enjoyed the honors
program as well as many outdoor adventures in Oregon.
Julie’s emails were full of stories about her experiences, but
always sprinkled with love:
hello
how are you?
i just wanted to write you a little message to tell you that i
love you
i had a lovely lunch today
it was so good
it made me think of home....
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Julie wrote many emails about how she loved talking with
Earl and me, especially about “life lessons, decisions, and
challenges.” Also, as related in the Preface, the three of us
agreed that we were all soul mates who had planned to be
together in this life, and that my father’s spirit was watching
over us as our guardian angel. Julie had never met my father,
but she called on him one day in Corvallis during her early
days there. On that particular night she could not sleep and
felt terribly lonely and sad. Julie told me she felt instant
peace and love as she gazed at the stars from her window
and talked to my father, and was able to sleep soundly right
away. I was delighted with Julie’s initiative and grateful to
my father for helping combat her sadness.
did not know this and was delighted to hear of it. She said
this too was an example of our amazing synchronicity.
On one of our
long walks in
the English
countryside,
I wanted to
capture our
shadows and
suggested that
Earl count to 3
before taking the
shot and that all of us should do something odd on “3.” Earl
was so focused on counting and taking the shot that he
forgot to do anything odd. I did something that looked only
mildly unusual in a shadow. But Julie went whole hog and
made an incredible pose. I love that the photo captures her
creativity and her innate joy in every moment.
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She told us she had friends whose parents had not been to
college and they looked up to their children and frequently
learned new things from them. She admitted having mixed
feelings—she loved our animated discussions on a large
variety of topics and joked about how these talks helped her
with papers for school and college. Yet, she always felt it
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Chapter 2
Julie’s Illness and Her Courageous Forbearance
It was only in the last few weeks that we knew there was
very little hope, and still we prayed for a miracle; we so
wanted our beloved child to survive—physically. Only in
Julie’s very last week on earth, did we switch our prayers to
asking for a peaceful transition to the spirit dimension for
her, and for eternal peace and joy for her soul.
But Julie did not have this instinct. As a child, she knew
well about the horrific effects of smoking, talked openly
about them with me, and warned me if she saw smokers
approaching us. It still seems incredible to me that despite
her early defensive attitude against smoking, Julie took up
smoking at the young age of 15 to fit in with her “cool”
friends. Studies show that nicotine is terribly addictive
especially at a young age and that women in particular are
less able to give it up.
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The first such dream she had was at age 15. She dreamed
that I had baked a huge birthday cake for her, one that she
could walk through, and once inside she could see pictures
of her life ahead, but they stopped at age 20 or so. I did not
even know at that time that she had started smoking, so my
interpretation of this particular dream was far from the
obvious one. I thought the dream just ended prematurely.
I did not at all understand its true significance.
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She insisted that dreams are figurative, not literal, and the
hospital scene simply signifies troubles or low points in our
lives. She thought it was a nice dream that showed that I
would always be there for her when she had problems. The
full impact of this “literal” dream hit us when she got
dangerously ill very abruptly two and a half years later. Julie
did admit to me then, as she lay in her hospital bed, that this
particular dream had been literal after all. Unbelievably, she
still did not connect it with her smoking.
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Soon after the start of her junior year, Julie had sudden
uncontrolled bleeding during menstruation. She was very
scared and called me at a conference I was attending. I urged
her to seek immediate care, which she had planned on doing
anyway, but had called just to let me know what she was
going through. She called me back after seeking medical
care, and said she was given medication to stop the problem,
which was caused by stress, and that she was fine now.
Earl and I wanted to visit her at once and make sure she
was indeed okay but she insisted all was well now and that
the stress was work-related and no longer relevant. When
I insisted we see her, she flatly said she did not want us to
visit as she had too much work, and that she would instead
visit us in the break as we had planned. We were hurt by her
refusal to let us visit her, and worried about her health.
But all I saw at this time was the dream’s main message.
I said, “The dream is a dire warning, Julie. You need to quit
smoking RIGHT NOW—or it’ll be too late.” I was shocked by
her defensive reaction. She said, “Mom, you have only one
interpretation for all such dreams. Why is this one about
smoking? Maybe I’ll be in a car accident. The dream is about
dying but it says nothing about smoking. I’ll just be extra
careful driving.”
longer share such dreams with me. She kept her word sadly,
and only during her last month on earth confided to me one
night in the hospital that she had some more terrifying
warning dreams in the last few months before her illness
was diagnosed. She was too tired and weak to share them
and I was too heartbroken to ask.
But soon after this, Julie had one more relapse following
one more recovery. Now finally, she was angry at the cancer;
and angry at herself as well, perhaps for not fighting it with
all her heart so far. She summoned a sudden burst of energy
from her frail body while lying in the hospital bed, and
kicked like a karate expert at this invisible killer for several
minutes. I cheered her with all my love, and hugged her as
she lay back exhausted. I hoped against hope that this would
do the trick. But sadly, though we did not know it yet, it was
already too late. The killer had a vicious grip on my beloved
child, just as the panther did in my dream.
I tried to do the same for Julie but could not. But I knew
I was transmitting positive energy to Julie, when I lay next to
her and held her, or massaged her poor, sore body. I was not
conscious of an energy flow, but I did feel her body relax and
grow peaceful when I touched her, and rightly assumed that
energy, or love, was flowing from me to her.
I laughed and agreed about the love but tried to tell her I
was not worried; after all, I knew she was going to recover.
Julie opened her eyes, looked straight at me, and said, “Your
energy doesn’t lie, Mom, you’re very stressed.” I confessed
that I was indeed stressed and worried about her pain and
suffering—that it hurt me a lot to see what she was going
through and that I felt helpless that I could not do anything.
I tried very hard to be calm but the only times Julie said she
could sense that I was peaceful was when I was holding her
or massaging her. If I sat at a distance from her, especially
when there were other people in the room, Julie told me
later that she could feel my enormous love flowing to her,
but it was still mixed with pronounced anxiety.
weeks. Julie was shaken to the core as were we, but we tried
to hold on to our firm belief that she would beat all odds and
recover. Julie (and we) agreed to the new treatment but
privately Julie insisted I repeat to her that I understood this
may actually be her last couple of weeks on earth.
When Julie woke up, I saw her looking around a bit but
she did not mention it and later seemed to forget it. I wanted
to tell Julie that it would be okay—she could correct any
wrong impressions she had given to people, and those who
loved her would still be her friends. But I knew she would
be furious at herself and at me that I had seen and read the
note, and I wanted to prevent any unnecessary stress for
her at such a critical time. I did say something similar in a
roundabout way to reassure Julie that all would be okay,
but it was too circumspect to get the point across.
And then she said, “I can’t really talk about this, but please
forgive me for all the lies. I didn’t mean to hurt you.” Much as
this puzzled me, it obviously related to the note she had
written during the night a few weeks ago. I still had no idea
what she meant, but my heart ached for her. I told her not to
worry and that I forgave her. She seemed greatly relieved.
But in the year after Julie’s transition, I got a hint here and
there through her friends as to what the “lies” Julie referred
to may have been about. It sounded distressing and I decided
not to pursue this, but to focus on Julie’s love and wisdom in
the spirit world and on our eternal love connection.
I also grasped what the healer was trying to tell us. She
may have sensed a resistance from Julie at the spirit level to
whatever healing she tried, and yet she could sense that Julie
was a higher-level soul. Based on this and her experiences
with other dying people, she shared an insight with us,
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and others are happy. It is the true essence of the person that
emerges when inhibitions are gone.
Chapter 3
Julie’s Transition, Our Grief, and Starting to Heal
would come to meet her and I told her I had no doubt of that.
Julie also asked a caring nurse if she thought it would be easy
to find the divine Light, and the nurse wisely replied, “Julie,
the Light will come find you—you are so good.”
In those last sad days, Julie was not awake for very long
each day, but she used that time to plan her memorial and all
such details that no one wishes on a young person, least of
all your own child. She gave careful consideration to
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she would meet her in heaven when it was her time. She told
me she was sorry she had caused me so much pain through
her suffering and from the loss of my beloved daughter. She
admitted she could not imagine what that was like but
assured me she would always be with me. She repeated her
earlier promise, saying, “I’ll be your little guardian angel,
always looking over your shoulder.” Earl promised Julie he
would take good care of me. She absorbed that quietly for a
moment, and then uncharacteristically asked him to repeat
it. He did, and she smiled, satisfied.
Later that day, as I sat next to her and stroked her head,
Julie suddenly turned around, looked directly at me and said,
“I want you to think about my life, why I was here, and what
my being here meant to you.” I kissed her and promised to
do so. It was an easy promise to make. I knew instinctively
that I would, even without Julie’s asking, ponder the full
implications of these issues for the rest of my life.
But at another level, the answers were easy. What was the
essence of her life? She touched so many people with love and
caring. Everyone she knew loved her, in their own way. She
did a great deal of good for many in her short life. Why was
she here? She was here to touch all these lives, but mainly
mine. Despite all the worries she caused me by her smoking,
she brought me so much happiness and abundant love, that
I am filled with joy just thinking of her. What has her being
here meant to me? Someone once said that I talked so well on
so many topics but my eyes really lit up when I talked about
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and come flooding back to him, filling him with love and
peace. Earl was truly moved by the experience. Although
the whole thing was beyond my perceptual comprehension,
I was greatly touched to hear of it as well.
Alone with Julie, I lay beside her and held her close. I
prayed for her soul to be with the divine Light and to always
be happy and peaceful. Then I steeled my heart and gently
whispered, “Julie, it’s okay to leave.” To my consternation,
Julie got quite perturbed and started moving about and
moaning. I instantly said, “Darling, I don’t mean this minute.
You decide when you’re ready to go. It’s just that I’m now
saying goodbye from my heart.” Julie was peaceful at once
and her whole body relaxed. I was grateful to see how calm
she looked, and sat next to her for a while. Then I lay down
close to her, but in my hospital chair-bed as I wanted to give
her space to do what she needed to do.
Someone told us that this was not just a night of the full
moon, but a special night when all the planets were aligned.
Apparently a full moon with perfectly aligned planets is a
rare event, considered extremely auspicious in India and
celebrated throughout the country. This information,
together with the idea conveyed to us by the American
healer that departing souls find the full moon to be a
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Section II
Guardian Angels and Early Signs from Julie
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Chapter 4
My Father as Our Guardian Angel
Soon after Earl and I met, I shared with him some strange
near-accidents I had, where I was mostly unhurt. I would get
into situations in which normally one would be terribly
hurt—but escaped unscathed. Twice, I had gone flying over
the handlebars of a bike after hitting a rock, and both times I
had the sensation of gliding and landing unhurt. Once, Julie
had witnessed my falling hard at home, and as she excitedly
reported, something seemed to catch me when I was very
near the floor and land me gently.
I did fall at other times and got hurt like anyone else. It
was only when something awful could have happened, that
it did not. Julie too was accident-prone but always escaped
serious injury. I considered both of us unusually lucky.
Earl’s mailbox and they could not fix it. Several women had
called to complain that they were unable to leave a message
for this ad; but the newspaper editor could not figure out
what was wrong. He offered to connect Earl to these women
in a different way if he agreed. But Earl told him the ad had
served him well and he had already met his soul mate.
She was often hit hard with a ball, a bat, or something else,
but very closely avoided severe injuries every time.
coast, Julie and I had set out one day to visit a state park with
a beautiful waterfall. We took a detour on the way that
promised lovely views. While the views were wonderful,
there were many forks in the road without any signs or
street names and after a while I knew we were lost. My cell
phone was out of range and I wondered what to do. There
were no other cars or people to be seen. All of a sudden I felt
a burst of confidence, and drove decisively, taking one turn
after another without any rationale, sometimes to the left,
sometimes to the right, just trusting my instinct, and we
came out on the main road right near the falls entrance!
Only on recognizing his role as our guardian angel, did we
understand that my father had guided me through that maze
and brought us safely to just where we needed to be.
receptive to the idea at the time that her dreams were about
smoking or that smoking was seriously harming her.
Chapter 5
Early Spirit Communications from Julie
Then there was just a soft glow of light for the third
verse. The voice finally sang out “Say hello” and I was at
peace. I understood that I did not have to wait to die to be
with Julie. For one thing, she could connect to me through
dreams. I also comprehended that the reason Julie did not
use her own voice in this “dream song” is that the singer was
supposed to represent my feelings about Julie. So she created
a different, angelic voice. Moreover, repeating “Here you are”
(which referred to Julie) in every couplet brought home to
me with shining clarity that Julie was always “here,” with me,
even though I could not see her physically, and that she
would connect with me in a myriad different ways.
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After coming home from school one day, little Julie had
hugged me and fluttered her eyelashes on my cheek, making
me laugh. She told me it was a “butterfly kiss.” I thought it
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was an apt name for that caress. This was the start of many
“butterfly kisses” between us. Never did I dream then that it
would come to have such a poignant meaning.
she saw the full moon peek from behind clouds as she had
experienced before and knew Julie was saying hello. But
for some reason, at this particular time, it did not lift my
mother’s spirits. She wondered if the peeking moon was
really Julie’s gift. To her amazement, the very next instant,
she saw a startlingly clear image on the clouds—it was the
exact drawing I had made on Julie’s hospital chart a few
days before her transition—a picture of a girl with flying
hair riding a horse (see Chapter 3). It lasted for more than a
minute. Gazing at it, my mother felt flooded with peace and
knew she did not have to worry about Julie’s well-being.
Chapter 6
My Spiritual Journey
Soon after, when Julie had only a few days left on earth,
she asked me whether my father would meet her on her
transition, and how she would know him. I assured her he
would meet her and she should not worry because he knew
her. That comforted her. I did not realize at the time that
although Julie had not seen my father in this life, she already
knew him from the spirit dimension before our current lives.
After all, we are all eternal soul mates. Much later, it also
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(Boylan, Thy Son Liveth, 29, 35, 40.) Reading this book
reinforced many things I had learned from Julie about the
spirit dimension and also added other ideas to my
knowledge, which I share later in this book.
But there was more to come. Later that day, while I was
checking emails, the computer screen suddenly moved to
incoming emails from some years ago. I almost re-set it to
new emails but stopped when I spotted an old email from
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Chapter 7
Guardian Angels
Guarding Us on Trips
Our angels have also kept us safe on road trips in the U.S.
We took two long journeys with our car vibrating, not
realizing that this meant that the outer rim of a tire was
peeling off and could cause a serious accident. Our guardian
angels kept us safe throughout until we finally figured it out.
The people at the tire shop could not believe we had driven
as much as we did with that tire without experiencing a
blowout.
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Valarino, On the Other Side of Life, 202, 225.) This may clarify
why the content of angelic messages, especially long ones,
may sometimes get a bit garbled in transmission.
she did have her seatbelt on, she recalled feeling held tightly
to her seat by what felt like arms. She knew her parents’
spirits had saved her life. (Browning, Feathers Brush My
Heart, 121-122.)
before. The daughter was delighted that the mother was able
to help her father as soon as she transitioned. (Browning,
Feathers Brush My Heart, 120.)
I end this chapter with an incident that could fit with the
earlier section “Guarding Us on Trips,” but I include it here
because of its extraordinary nature. On one particular road
trip we took with my mother, something flying out from
under another car hit our car. I asked Earl what he thought
and he said everything seemed fine. After that, several times
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Section III
Chapter 8
Telepathic Messages to Help
Telepathic Alerts
The fact that the exam was in her backpack indicates that
it was not just forgetfulness, but I let it go because Julie had
stepped in and avoided a security issue. Since then I made it
a rule that only one student at a time could approach my
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Making Us Smile
Inspiration
with Julie while writing it. In fact, she inspired much of the
plot on a trip to Jekyll Island while I was resting and Earl
was driving. After dozing for about fifteen minutes, I shared
plot solutions with Earl for sections we had been struggling
with and he loved them. Interestingly, it was as if I was
thinking aloud and hearing it at the same time as Earl, so
we were even more convinced it was Julie’s inspiration.
Chapter 9
Spirit Visitations
Visions
arm, others feel their hair being tousled, a hug, and some
even feel a kiss. Sometimes the physical touch is precisely
what the departed soul did in his or her physical life to say
hello, for example, a pat on the shoulder, an arm around the
back, or a pinch on the cheek. A woman grieving for her
mother felt a hug when she was sitting alone on a sofa and
knew her mother’s spirit was telling her she was fine.
Another woman felt her husband’s spirit kiss her every night
right before she fell asleep. (Guggenheim and Guggenheim,
Hello From Heaven! 45-54; Browning, Feathers Brush My
Heart, 88; Devers, Goodbye Again, 16, 75, 79.)
mother was telling her she was okay and wishing her a
happy birthday in a way that was meaningful for the two of
them. (Browning, Feathers Brush My Heart, 176-177.)
opened the door, no one was there. The next day she found
out that her friend had died at the exact time she heard her
voice and footsteps. (Martin and Romanowski, Love Beyond
Life, 65-67.)
In the first few years after Julie’s transition, both Earl and
I heard each other’s voice saying, “Honey?” when the other
person had not said it, was not in the room, and sometimes
not even at home. This happened many times. Julie was
telling us she was with us, but thoughtfully using our voices
to say something familiar, so we would not be startled by
suddenly hearing her voice near us.
Chapter 10
Dream Visitations
“They seem like real visits because they are real visits.”
(Martin and Romanowski, Love Beyond Life, 48.) Unlike
typical dreams that may be forgotten, dream visitations can
be recalled accurately. Unlike other dream experiences, hugs
are vividly felt in dream visitations. The reality aspect of
dream visitations extends to the actual passage of time in the
dream, the sensation of touch, and to clear thinking unlike in
a typical dream which can be illogical or muddled. The
departed spirits sometimes look like themselves on earth
and at other times they look angelic or like beings of light.
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Later, the same mother grieved that she never saw her
baby grown up. She had another dream visitation, this time
with her daughter grown up and very beautiful, with
features just like her father’s, wearing a long, white robe, and
bathed in a beautiful light. The mother finally realized that
her daughter’s soul was grown and that she was always with
her. (LaGrand, ADC: Final Farewells, 148-149.)
flowers. Her mother said she loved her, that she was fine,
and asked for forgiveness. The daughter woke up, finally at
peace. (Martin and Romanowski, Love Beyond Life, 187.)
too could still feel the hug when she woke up. (Guggenheim
and Guggenheim, Hello From Heaven! 137-138.)
on a little girl’s grave and that it was facing the wrong way.
(Guggenheim and Guggenheim, Hello From Heaven! 252-
253.) Interestingly, the mother assumed that the son saw his
name backwards because the tombstone was facing the
wrong way, instead of recognizing that communications
from spirits can get slightly mistranslated in transmission
(see my own experience in Chapter 7). The son probably did
say the tombstone was backwards but the mother “heard” it
as the name being backwards. The important thing is she got
the essence of the message.
Dream Visitations to Us
Earl had two dream visitations from Julie. The first one
was in the early years. In that dream, he and little Julie were
hugging each other and Earl was very happy. The second one
was many years later. In this one, grown-up Julie and I were
embracing, and he was watching us, overjoyed to know Julie
was still so closely connected to us, and especially to me.
“Why don’t you go for 6 days? The dates are available.” I was
most surprised that a stranger was suggesting this but I
agreed. Also, we were using all the free miles we had left but
I knew there was a tax to be paid on each ticket. However,
when the booking was done, the agent wished me a good trip
and hung up. I was sure she would call back to get credit
card information for the tax but she did not.
Chapter 11
Angelic Contacts through Objects
Not only did Julie time this little miracle for me to witness,
but the speed with which the hair was changed and shaped
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but the girl said she would open it when she was stronger.
Sadly, she passed away the next day and the parents put the
bottle in their living room. A few days later, the cork popped
open precisely at midnight, despite being held by wire and
foil. (Guggenheim and Guggenheim, Hello From Heaven! 180-
181.) It was their daughter’s clever way to let her parents
know that she was now strong enough to do this.
Electrical Devices
Telephones
After losing his wife and son within a few months, a man
started getting text messages with no return number, and
using phrases only his wife would have used. The woman
had been addicted to her cell phone and ironically had
been buried with it. Although the online news article that
reported this case obviously doubts the story, the man is
convinced that his wife is contacting him. (Fruhlinger,
Joshua, “Contact Via Cell Phone,” switched.com)
Making an Imprint
The writer does not explicitly say this, but there are other
beautiful messages interwoven in this ADC. The footprints
indicate the mother’s freedom from the confines of her
wheelchair; the twirl in the center suggests that her spirit is
dancing joyously; and the disappearance of the footprints
after the twirl expresses her rise to the soul realm. Indeed,
every ADC has meanings at many different levels for those
left behind. Understanding all these meanings can hasten our
healing and increase our comprehension of the spirit world.
angels who we do not recall in this life). So, the message “III”
meant “3 angels are with you.”
Chapter 12
On the Wings of Love
Another special bird that Julie used in her early ADCs was
the female hummingbird. For some reason I thought the
male with its bright red band across its neck looked rather
harsh, and Julie seemed to know this. We had a feeder for
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My mother, who also had never seen baby birds in all her
life, saw them on returning home after Julie’s transition. Blue
songbirds built a nest at eye level in a potted tree on her
verandah and my mother was thrilled to watch the babies
being fed in the nest. It did not occur to her to connect this
with Julie, but when we told her of our own experiences with
baby birds and our conviction that these were Julie’s gifts to
all of us, she was happy and grateful.
knew it was the little boy’s spirit arranging this to tell them
he was okay. She remembered that incident her whole life
and was grateful to know her brother was fine.
after the accident. It sat on his finger for a long time, which is
very unusual behavior for a hummingbird. The couple knew
without a doubt that their sons were assuring them of their
loving presence and also wishing their stepfather on his
birthday. (LaGrand, Messages and Miracles, 52, 115-116.)
house and the family sensed she was telling them her soul
was free. Then, at her funeral, a flock of geese flew overhead
as the ceremony ended. Also, when the family installed a
bench in her honor instead of a headstone and gathered
there to say prayers, a flock of geese flew over them.
(Browning, Feathers Brush My Heart, 130-131.)
Chapter 13
Butterfly Kisses to Dolphin Magic
Butterfly ADCs
Ladybugs
Other Wildlife
Once when I was ill and Earl was worried about me,
he wandered into the kitchen and saw two deer in our
backyard, staring intently at the bedroom where I was
sleeping. He instantly felt peaceful, taking it as a sign that
angels were watching over me. On a different occasion,
when both of us were working in our respective offices at
home, I sensed that Julie was telling me to go quickly to the
kitchen. So I called out to Earl and we sat at the kitchen table,
gazing at the backyard, not knowing quite what to expect.
The next moment, eight deer appeared from one end of the
backyard and ran through the other end. We had never seen
so many deer at once ever before, and would have missed
this magical moment had I not felt Julie’s urging.
Others have had ADCs with deer as well, and for one
woman it was the first sign from her son. He had loved deer
and even wore a deer pin. Early in her grief, the woman had
pulled over to the side of a road and was praying for a sign
from her son. Suddenly, a female deer and a fawn appeared
close to her and stared at her for a long time. The woman
knew her son was telling her that he was okay. (Guggenheim
and Guggenheim, Hello From Heaven! 200.) The authors do
not discuss this explicitly, but the choice of a female deer and
fawn together as a sign further conveys that the son was not
just okay; he was with his mother even though he was in the
soul dimension.
Julie has also used rabbits to say she is with us and knows
what we are thinking. A good example of this happened one
winter when we had a thick layer of snow on the ground.
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Dolphins
Last, but not the least, among our wildlife sightings are
Julie’s dolphin gifts. In addition to the instinctive joy most
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Chapter 14
From Roses to Rainbows
so I kept the rose with its little vase and cherished Julie’s
thoughtful gift. I still use that vase whenever I find any tiny
flower or leaf marked with Julie’s “message” (as described
later in this chapter).
A man often gave his wife a single red rose. On the day of
his funeral, on a bitterly cold day, his widow found a single
rosebud blooming on the rosebush outside their bedroom
and knew her husband was reassuring her of his love.
(Martin and Romanowski, Love Beyond Life, 106.)
woman that her parents were telling her they were together.
Neither plant ever bloomed again. (Browning, Feathers
Brush My Heart, 51-53.)
with love and joy, and put them with great care in a cut-glass
vase. And as soon as they wilted, the little girl would gather
more of them for her beloved mother. After her mother’s
passing, the woman has found dandelions everywhere she
goes, even in the cold of winter and in rocky places with little
vegetation. She feels blessed to know her mother is always
with her, expressing her love in this unique way. (Browning,
Feathers Brush My Heart, 224-225.)
The Moon
could both see no matter how far apart they were. Many
years later, when she was sorely missing her grandmother
who had just died, the woman was blessed with the shining
full moon, despite it being a rainy night. (Miller, Lewis, and
Sander, eds., Heavenly Miracles, 11-13.)
Sunlight
Sunsets
Rainbows
Special Clouds
Chapter 15
Unusual Spirit Communications
did in this picture. The very bright light enhanced this effect
to make it all look golden. I could not possibly explain all of
this on the dedication page. Besides, the best fit for this
instance was under synchronous ADCs.
A widow, who could not find a tax bill that was due,
berated her departed husband for leaving her, especially
because she had never handled the family finances. Before
her eyes, his appointment book fell open to reveal the tax bill
in it. (Guggenheim and Guggenheim, Hello From Heaven!
183.) In a similar case, after her husband’s funeral, as a
school teacher sat grieving, her geography book fell off the
table. It was opened to the chapter on Spain, where the
couple had been planning to go on vacation. (Devers,
Goodbye Again, 20-21.)
I will share one more complex ADC from Julie here. Years
after Julie’s transition, Earl had a most unusual dream. He
saw a sequence of faces; some were of people known to us
who had passed away and others were of those who were
still here as far as we knew. The faces seemed to be in no
particular order. When he shared the dream with me, I
immediately responded that the dream had to be from Julie
and she was trying to tell us something. Earl wondered why
she gave the dream to him and not to me. I did not know but
asked him what he thought the dream meant. He said he felt
that someone we knew had died. This resonated with me.
But if one person had died, why did Julie include other
faces of people who presumably were still here? That was a
mystery. Moreover, we looked up obituaries and did not find
any for these people. And yet, we both still felt that Julie was
trying to tell us of someone’s passing. So as I was getting
ready to sleep that night, I said to Julie in my mind, “Can you
please give me a follow-up dream?” Just as I started to think,
“and please give me a clue,” Julie responded telepathically,
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I did not know what she meant and laughingly said to her
in my mind, “What do you mean? Am I supposed to see what
the initials spell?” Then, just to test this idea, I thought of all
the initials in the sequence that the faces had appeared to
Earl. I was astonished that they spelled out the name of
someone I had known. I was amazed at Julie’s arranging this
complex dream and her confidence that I would figure it out.
her this was not necessary. Ignoring the voice, the daughter
chose the flowers anyway, admitting to herself that she had
to do this to keep up the appearance of being a devoted
daughter. To her surprise she found that she did not have
enough cash at the counter and the store did not take credit
cards, so she was not able to buy the flowers after all. She
realized then that her mother was serious about her
message. (Browning, Feathers Brush My Heart, 121.) It seems
the mother was telling her that she should focus on her love
for her parents and not on appearances. Her mother may
have also tried to convey that her spirit was not in the
cemetery but anywhere she wanted to be.
Illusions
plant bobbed its top leaf, like an angel head nodding, saying,
“I’m here and he is okay.” I was flooded with relief. I was also
amazed at how quickly Julie chose this most appropriate
plant to convey a special message to me.
Section IV
My Reflections on Spirit Communications
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Spirit Communications Are Real
card for his widow. It was one of many ways he could let
her know he was okay and that he loved her.
should trust your own instincts and the loving spirits who
communicated with you.
Valarino, On the Other Side of Life, 89; Ring, Lessons from the
Light, 66; Dabholkar, Departed Loved Ones Are Guardian
Angels, 16-20; Martin and Romanowski, Love Beyond Life,
38.) Reductionists insist that all spiritual phenomena (such
as NDEs and ADCs) are delusions or drug-induced. But it is
the reductionists’ own inability to understand the soul
realm, which stems from their severely constricted
viewpoint and lack of an innate sense of the spiritual.
about departed loved ones, only about how they can “get on
with my life with that essential person missing.” (Kenneth
Ring interview in Valarino, On the Other Side of Life, 145.)
Chapter 17
How Spirit Communications Enlighten Us
Both NDEs and ADCs can enlighten us. Most NDErs realize
after their experience that our lives are eternal and that the
earth life is a very small part of this. (Berman, The Journey
Home, 55-56; Ring, Lessons from the Light, 17.) It is also
clear to the majority of NDErs that spiritual advancement
continues in the soul realm. (Cox-Chapman, The Case for
Heaven, 181.)
Some ADCs come from little children who have died but
the message seems to be from a mature soul. (Guggenheim
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Guidance
that his feelings were perfectly fine, that she loved him, and
that he should choose the path that felt correct for him. A
woman who felt guilty for having forcibly put her addicted
daughter in a recovery center was visited by her husband’s
spirit who assured her that she had done the right thing and
that their daughter would now recover. A man despondent
over his divorce and job situation felt his mother’s spiritual
presence and recaptured the will to turn his life around.
(Guggenheim and Guggenheim, Hello From Heaven! 90-91;
Devers, Goodbye Again, 138.)
ADCs can teach the recipients a great deal about the soul
dimension. Some people, who did not believe in anything
beyond the physical world before their ADC experience,
changed their views radically. Others said that ADCs
completely altered their ideas about God and heaven.
Contrary to what they had been taught in religion, namely
that good souls have moved on to heaven and so cannot be
“here” anymore, they realized that good souls can continue
to be connected with us after death. These people explain
that the ADCs made them understand that “maybe there and
here are the same place.” (Devers, Goodbye Again, 100-101.)
In fact, the soldier killed in World War I, who communicated
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with his mother through Morse code, told her that “Our use
of the terms ‘here’ and ‘there’ is misleading. We are not
separated from you.” (Boylan, Thy Son Liveth, 65.)
about the spirit world and eternal love connections; and that
this knowledge will allow them to make positive changes in
their lives in line with their soul purpose.
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Chapter 18
Being Open to Spirit Communications
likely you will receive an ADC given freely and out of love
when your angel thinks it appropriate. My father watched
over us for decades without any contact. It is likely that some
souls may prefer to do that. It is better to simply accept this
situation and be thankful that everyone has guardian angels.
For those who have not received ADCs but are open to
them, it is important to accept any evidence that the
departed loved one has contacted someone on earth. In
Section III, there are many examples of ADCs given before
the receiver knew of the person’s death. These cases include
clocks and watches coming on and the individual finding out
later that their loved one died at that exact moment. Or
people got phone calls and then discovered that their loved
one had passed on precisely at that time. Some illustrations
were of seeing a vision, feeling a touch, or hearing the voice
of a loved one, and only afterwards learning that the person
had passed on. There were also instances of dream
visitations before knowledge of the person’s death. All these
examples should be viewed as ADCs not only by the receiver
of the message, but by others grieving for the person who
had passed on. They do not have to wonder if the ADC was
real; the fact that it was given before the receiver knew of
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the death should give the ADC extra validity in the minds of
people who may have doubts about the phenomenon.
But the fact that the brother’s spirit did not interact with
the sister or even look at her and was focused on re-enacting
his past behavior fits Stevenson’s description of a ghost
rather than a spirit offering an ADC. Although the sister said
she found comfort on seeing this apparition engaged in his
past behavior, one hopes it was only his sudden death that
had the brother stuck at this low level and that he was able
to move beyond this phase and go to the Light.
and the direct ADCs and loving guidance a year later show
that the mother’s spirit had reached a much higher level.
Another woman, who had always felt that her mother had
not appreciated her musical talents, had been hurt deeply by
this. Her mother’s spirit explained to her telepathically that
she had not singled her out so as to avoid competition and
jealousy among the sisters. Valuing the close relationships
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she had with her sisters, the woman concluded that this was
her mother’s gift to her. (Devers, Goodbye Again, 128.)
It is possible that all of these souls had not yet had their
life reviews when they interacted thus in giving ADCs. If they
had, one would think they would have a better perspective
on these issues. (Dabholkar, Life Review: God’s Perfect Plan,
7-9.) But whether or not they had been through the life
review, they were not yet enlightened.
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have any trouble making her favorite fudge when she [the
mother] had passed on. Indeed, after her mother’s death,
the daughter’s fudge turned out perfect every time and
she knew her mother was helping her get it just right.
(Browning, Feathers Brush My Heart, 25-27.)
souls, who are already in the Light, and are both guiding and
guardian angels to those left behind.
to the soul realm. (Wambach, Life Before Life, 53, 56, 63, 99-
112, 123-150). So, the most likely angel who gave her the
vision would have been the spirit of the baby, who was
obviously one of her closest soul mates. Recall that children’s
souls are mature and eternal, just like the rest of us. That
spirit was reminding her (through the vision) of their eternal
love bond and the plans they had made together in the soul
dimension that he would come to her as her baby.
Attig writes that signals from our departed loved ones tell
us they are in a good place and “they want us to hold them in
our hearts” with lasting love. (Attig, The Heart of Grief, 285.)
Other authors agree that it is important “to embrace and
treasure ADCs” and to remember and honor departed loved
ones. (Martin and Romanowski, Love Beyond Life, 15, 24.)
gifts that are sent to us… [we] don’t trust that first intuitive
burst of [knowledge]…we brush it off or chalk it up to our
imaginations and in so doing we cheat ourselves out of some
of the best gifts we will ever have.” (Browning, Feathers
Brush My Heart, xv, 267-268.)
Annotated Bibliography
Attig, Thomas. The Heart of Grief: Death and the Search for
Lasting Love, New York: Oxford University Press, 2000.
Professor Attig encourages the bereaved to build loving
relationships with departed loved ones by sustaining their
memories and staying connected instead of letting go.
The writer clearly does not believe in ADCs and wrote this
just to amuse readers. The posted comments show the
readers to be even lower in their understanding about the
spirit world and in compassion. Nevertheless, it is a good
example of an ADC through an object and “rings” true.
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