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How Anxiety Traps Us, and How We Can Break Free
How Anxiety Traps Us, and How We Can Break Free
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by Sabina Nawaz
January 02, 2020
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Summary. It’s normal to occasionally experience anxiety — when we’re faced with
a high-stakes meeting, a stressed-out boss, or a conflict with a colleague. When
we’re anxious, we tend to trap ourselves in false or limited ways of thinking. These
thought patterns create a debilitating negative spiral that can take over our lives by
Zulfi, a coaching client of mine, is the envy of many of his peers.
As the general manager of a large, successful business, his work is
one of the CEO’s core priorities. He does good work and is well-
loved by his team.
If one or more of these thinking traps has a hold on you, try these
strategies I’ve used with my coaching clients to overcome them.
While I’m not a psychologist or a medical professional, I do have
experience helping my clients adjust their behaviors, change the
way they think, and increase their effectiveness at work. These
suggestions do not replace the need to consult mental health
professionals for possible diagnosis and treatment for anxiety, but
they can help you break your negative thought patterns, gain
control over your anxiety, and allow you to listen to the chatter
that really matters in your daily work.
Name the trap. Give your pattern a name, whether it is one of the
traps listed above or something you come up with yourself.
Naming converts the vague threat to something concrete. You
regain power by realizing you’ve encountered it before — and
survived. You can fine-tune your mitigation strategy based on the
specific trap that’s ensnared you. Zulfi, for instance, had a better
sense of the steps to take once he’d named his patterns and could
distinguish between catastrophizing, mind reading, and fortune
telling.
Separate FUD from fact. Create a two-column list. On one side
list all your fears, uncertainties, and doubts, or FUD. The second
column is for verified facts. Being able to compare the two can
quell your fears and bring you back to reality.
Walk your talk. Ask yourself what you’d advise others to do.
When my clients are anxious, I ask them what counsel they would
give a friend or team member in a similar situation. People who
felt clueless a moment before are immediately able to provide
sound guidance. If you find yourself saying, “I feel stuck,” “I don’t
know what to do,” or “There’s no way out,” ask yourself, “If a
colleague came to me with my predicament, what would I tell
them?” This pause allows you to become more objective and
loosen the thinking trap that has you in its hold.
While all of these strategies can help in the moment when you’re
panicked, plans are hard to remember, much less execute. Write
these tactics down and take them to your high-risk meetings.
When you notice that familiar change in your heart rate or
dryness in your throat, glance at your note and try one of these
strategies to calm yourself.