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Friendship Challenges and Conflict
Friendship Challenges and Conflict
2 ‘You should not forgive someone unless they say sorry and
really mean it.’
End of lesson review: add your new reflections about friendship challenges and how to overcome them based
on your learning in the lesson.
Resource 2: Friendship and communication ©PSHE Association 2023
Forms of communication
Attacking: Open:
• Tries to have power over others. • Tries to speak truthfully about what the person wants
and is open to other people’s ideas.
• Might criticise, blame or humiliate, be threatening or
rude. • Willing to truly understand the other person’s point of
view and prepared to change their mind if good ideas
• Often happens in the moment when emotions are
or points are made.
strong.
• Has an open mind and wants the best outcome for
• Involves ‘you’ statements that blame the other person,
both people.
such as: ‘You are being unreasonable’, ‘You are so
sensitive.’
Uniting:
• Does not include much listening and there is a lot of
interruption. • Tries to reach an outcome that both people will be
satisfied with.
Evasive: • Finds similarities in people’s goals, even if the way they
want to reach that goal is different.
• Tries to avoid the issue or deny there is an issue at all.
• Involves listening and expressing feelings respectfully.
• Could involve outright lying (lying without needing to).
• Focuses on ‘I’ statements, such as: ‘I feel that this is
• Could involve defensive lying (to protect themselves).
hard because…’, ‘I feel upset about this because…’.
• C
ould involve withholding information (avoiding
certain topics because they don’t want to have to say
something they know about it).
• Can limit deeper connections with others because of a
lack of honesty.
Informing:
• Tries to explain what someone wants to happen but is
not direct.
• For example, ‘It’s too noisy in here with the door open’,
means, ‘Please can you shut the door’.
• Sometimes communication in this way can feel
confusing and frustrating as it is unclear. The intended
result may not happen, meaning people can feel
ignored.
Resource 3: Overcoming friendship challenges ©PSHE Association 2023
1. Messaging on phones:
Resource 3: Overcoming friendship challenges ©PSHE Association 2023
3. Breaktime at school:
Breaktime at school, Jules feels like Owen has been avoiding her for
a couple of days. Two days ago, Owen overheard their other friend
criticising Jules to a group of other people in their year and they
were laughing. Owen doesn’t want to get caught in the middle.
Resource 3a: Talking through friendship challenges ©PSHE Association 2023
Open
Being open and direct about Owen doesn’t want to get caught in the middle of two
what they want. friends. Jules is a really good friend but another friend
has been criticising her a lot and Owen is trying to keep
out of it.
Jules: Hey Owen, I’ve hardly seen you this week, where
have you been?
Owen: I’ve been here, don’t know what you mean.
Jules: Yeah, you’ve been here but we haven’t been
Uniting hanging out. I can tell you’re not telling me something!
Trying to find solutions that Owen: No! Everything is fine!
work for everyone. Jules walks away.
Resource 4: Conflict management strategies ©PSHE Association 2023
Compromising • This is when neither person gets the exact outcome they want but it is acceptable for
both.
• It can be effective when both people are more concerned about their relationship
than the cause of the disagreement and are able to empathise with each other.
• It also helps people to move past a disagreement and the tension that comes with it.