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Resilience Boosters
Resilience Boosters
Resilience Boosters
Building the resilience muscle of our children to help them bounce right back
UNDERSTANDING
RESILIENCE
As parents, we hope to strengthen the social
and emotional skills and positive beliefs of
our children so that they develop the
resilience to persevere and adapt positively
in the face of challenges. It is not impossible
to build resilience in our children.
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The ability to thrive despite challenges arises from the skills of resilience.
The good news is that resilience skills can be acquired and nurtured.
Create a Home Environment that Promotes Building resilience in your child is a unique journey where you need to
Resilience-Fostering Interactions use your knowledge and understanding of your child to guide him/her.
BELIEFS
•• Is
Is open
open to to setbacks
setbacks and
and
learns
learns from
from them
them
•• Believes
Believes thatthat failure
failure is
is
not
not permanent
permanent
•• Is
Is hopeful
hopeful
PERSONAL
CHARACTERISTICS
• Has a sense of humour
• Is determined
• Has self-control and emotional
management
• Finds different ways to handle new or
difficult situations
• Knows one’s strengths and develop ways to
improve one’s weaknesses
RESILIENCE-FOSTERING
I NTERACTIONS
Give our Children S.P.A.C.E to grow
S UPPORT
• Provide positive feedback
• Be willing to listen
P ROBLEM
SOLVE
• Reflect on setbacks together
• Guide your child to develop alternate plans
A FFIRM
• Affirm strengths and efforts
• Use of effective praise
C HEER
• Cheer your child on for every effort
• Celebrate all successes, even small ones
E MPOWER
• Let your child make decisions
• Encourage your child to voice his/her
ideas, and carry out the plans made
PROVIDE PROVIDE
ADEQUATE CHALLENGE HIGH SUPPORT
• Stimulating Environment • Responsive Environment
○ Provide opportunities for challenges ○ Know your child’s needs
○ Nurture your child’s talents ○ Be present
• Structure • Role Modelling
○ Set consistent and realistic expectations ○ Role model social skills
○ Maintain daily routines with clear boundaries ○ Be consistent in teaching and setting examples
○ Assign responsibilities
• Reassurance
(e.g. household chores)
○ Encourage your child regularly
• Supervision and intentionally
○ Monitor your child’s ○ Tell your child
progress “I believe in you”
○ Look out for signs of
distress
Recognise Common
T iredness
R ebellious streak
S ulkiness
A RESILIENT CHILD
SETS GOALS
and knows how he can
CONTRIBUTE
POSITIVELY
Your Child
Knows...
“Who I am”
“What my strengths are” Tips for
“What I am passionate about” DEVELOPING A
“What I am here for and how SENSE OF
I can contribute” PURPOSE
in Your Child
• Set and work towards goals
together
• Expose them to new
experiences (e.g. places,
hobbies, occupations) to let
them discover their interest
and passion
• Affirm their unique talents
and qualities
• Provide opportunities to
contribute to society (e.g.
participate community
activities)
Tips for Guiding Your Child in Small Steps
Remember
L.I.F.E
LIFE SKILLS as Goals
Set goals for developing skills for life. Goals can include social skills, interests, or habits your child
wants to pick up or improve in.
F
Guiding Questions Examples
S.M.A.R.T
Can you put in numbers to help you see
MEASURABLE your progress over time and know when
you’ve achieved your goal?
Learn to swim 200 meters freestyle within ten minutes
as a Guide ACHIEVABLE Do you have the ability to do it? What skills, Learn to swim 200 meters freestyle with the help of a board
strengths or resources can you rely on? within ten minutes
Identify the Explore 2 to 3 Think of the Think of the Select the overall
Rosa, J. (1973). Helping Students Solve Problems: The SODAS Method. Retrieved Dec 2015 from http://www.pki.nebraska.edu/studentinfo/simp/mentoring_guide/SODAS%20Text.pdf
‘s
CHARACTER STRENGTH
Encourage your child to know his/ her Tap on your child’s strengths,
character strengths and to use them regularly. especially in coping with adversity
and overcoming obstacles.
Compliment your child for his/ her character E.g. Tap on your child’s sociability to find
strength that you have observed.
social support during challenging times.
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Child sees friend joining other friends for recess... After rationalizing…
Sue is ignoring
me. She doesn’t Sue may not have
like me anymore. seen me, and maybe
thinks I’m not around.
E NGLISH
I’m such a failure. I can do better for this
I’ll surely fail all
my other subjects MOTHERE test next time. I’ve
also not received the
too and be retained
this year.
T ONGU other test results.
H UMANITIE
S MATHEMATICS
Child’s sibling is a star CCA performer in school... After rationalizing…
Brother is good in
certain areas while
Brother is good at
I’m good in others.
everything while
Mum and Dad love us
I’m not. Mum and
for who we are.
Dad will not love
me as much.
Tips for Building Positive
STRENGTH BOOSTER
What am I feeling now/ today? A safe space for me to be at when I need
to feel okay is:
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