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Stern, D. The Present Moment. CH 5 The Intersubjective Matrix (75 - 96)
Stern, D. The Present Moment. CH 5 The Intersubjective Matrix (75 - 96)
PRESENT MOMENT
In Psychotherapy
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Chapter 5
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handing over the dish. Lee ( 1998) has devised elegant models
(tau theory) to describe how this kind of dyadic coordination
and synchrony could occur.
The need for such a mechanism is evident when one thinks
about the extraordinary temporal coordination human beings
and animals are capable of. Think how easy it is for us to kick
a moving soccer ball while we are running or catch a fly ball
on the run. In interpersonal interactions the problems of tem-
poral coordination may be even more complex because we
alter trajectories more rapidly and unpredictably than moving
balls do. Even so, when two people move their heads together
for a kiss, even for a first-time, sudden, passionate kiss, they
rarely end up breaking their front teeth. There is usually a soft
landing.
Other recent work on phase synchronization and large scale
integration in the brain promises to throw more light on these
phenomena at fundamental levels (Varela, Lachaux, Rodri-
guez, & Martinerie, 2001).
The essential point is that when people move synchronously
or in temporal coordination, they are participating in an aspect
of the other's experience. They are partially living from the
other's center.
So far, all of this evidence is applicable to one-way inter-
subjectivity ("I know what you are feeling."). But what about
two-way, or full, intersubjectivity? An apparent redundancy?
("I know that you know that I know what you are feeling, and
vice versa.") This requires another step. Could the mechanisms
previously described be sufficient? At least two "readings" of
the other are required for two-way intcrsubjectivity. The first
is to know what the other is experiencing. The second is to
know how the other is experiencing your experience of him
or her. There is a recursive or reiterative reading going on. The
role of context is crucial here. The presence of one-way inter-
subjectivity is the determining context in which the second
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Developmental Evidence
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and preverbal. Then, as the infant reaches the second year and
is capable of new experiences, such as, for example, the
"moral" emotions of shame, guilt, and embarassment, these
emotions are drawn into the intersubjective marrix as some-
thing he can now experience within himself and in others.
Intersubjective richness expands again with the advent of
more developed cognitive capacities during childhood. And
again, at each phase of life course development. the intersub-
jective matrix grows deeper and richer.
The work of Hofer ( 1994) provided a son of neurobiological
analogue for the intersubjective matrix. He found in the
mother-pup relationship among rats that tbe nwther\ behav-
iors (e.g., licking, touching, vocalizing) play a crucial role in
regulating the infant's physiology (e.g., heart rate. bCld, tem-
perature, digestion, hormone levels). What is mosr surprising
is the specificity of which maternal behavior re~ul.ates which
physiological mechanisms. These findings are am1lognus in the
sense that the rat pups developing physiolosical homeostasis
might appear under the control of their 1)wn re~w!awry mech-
anisms-a one-rat biopsycholog~·. Instead. ihey ,,re also under
the control of the mothers oven behavioc,-,-:. i\\ ci-rat bio-
psychology. In a similar fashion for intersubjecti,'it,·. the inten-
tions and feelings that are laid clown in the deve!op1ng human
baby are strongly regulated and subject 10 1he inflL:ence of the
mother's expressed experience.
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in whole for some cases or in part for others, the result is the
same. The human world is not treated as special, and "like
them."
There is a massive failure of intersubjectivity. They appear
to be "mind blind." It is this that make autists often appear
odd, or from "another world," as Sacks put it when he
describes Grandin as "an anthropologist from Mars" vvho
struggles to understand the other humans that surround her.
There is no intellectual impairement here, she is a Ph.D. and
world-renowned in her speciality. Yet she has to remember to
ask if someone is hungry or thirsty because it does not come
to her directly, empathically, but rather as a logical probability
given the circumstances. One of the human events that most
mystifies her is watching children play. She doesn't understand
what makes them suddenly laugh or fight. She does not engage
in intimate social friendships. They are too complicated and
incomprehensible.
Indeed, many of the educational efforts with high-
functioning autistic people are directed at social interchanges
of the most instrumental kind, such as when to say "thank
you," "you're welcome," "would you like to sit down," and so
on. Normally, such responses flow directly from participating
in another's experience.
Bra ten ( 1998b) provided an illuminating clinical anecdote
on this point. When a mother puts up her hands, palms for-
ward, her normal infant is likely to also put up his hands so
that their palms touch (preliminary to pat-a-cake games). Is
that an imitation? Yes, in the sense that the infant has done
what the mother did. Yet the infant is seeing his mother's
palms, not the back of her hands. Why doesn't he put the back
of his hands against the palms of her hands, and in that way
be able to see his own palms just as he saw hers? That is just
what many autistic children do. Normal infants have imitated
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Supportfrom Phenomenology
I had hoped to find a god or goddess from antiquity who
held the gift of mindreading (not future-telling) and could offer
it to a human. This gift would make others' minds transparent.
I have yet to find such a deity. My colleagues knowledgable in
such matters assured me that my search is in vain. At least in
Western antiquity, the mind was not confined to and impris-
oned in the head or in the heart of one person. The mind
circulated more freely, constantly receiving input from nature
and the gods. It did not belong to someone as secret, private
property. There was little need for the gift of making other's
minds transparent.
Historically, we, in the modern, scientifically-oriented West,
have isolated the mind from the body, from nature, and from
other minds. Our experience of our body, nature, and other
minds has to be constructed privately and perhaps quite idio-
syncratically within our own mind. Until recently this view has
been dominant and largely unchallenged except by philoso-
phers.
We are now experiencing a revolution, not back to the views
of antiquity, but closer to them. This revolution has been
inspired largely by the work of the philosopher of phenome-
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