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Counseling Skills and Process Final Paper
Counseling Skills and Process Final Paper
Counseling Skills and Process Final Paper
Prof. McManus
1 May 2023
Helper: “It is good to see you again, how has everything been?”
Client: “Likewise. It could be better. My girlfriend and I seem to be having some trouble
Explanation: I used a door opener as an invitational skill in hopes the client will discuss their
situation further, which can help the helper to understand. A door opener is a “noncoercive
invitation to talk. The door opener signals availability on the part of the listener and encourages
exploration and discussion” (Young, 2021, pp. 89). Here the door opener is “Can you say more
about that”, which is just one of the many simple but effective phrases you can say to a client.
Client: “Sometimes when my girlfriend is in a bad mood, I try to ask her what is making her feel
that way but she rarely ever expresses to me what it is. She just responds with “nothing.” She
resists the help I offer her, and then continues to complain about how she feels.”
Helper: “You want to know why your girlfriend is upset, but it is difficult for her to tell you.”
Explanation: This is an example of a paraphrase reflection, which I used so the client can
understand that I am listening. Furthermore, “reflecting shows the client that the helpers
understands what the client is going through. Frequently, the client doesn't agree with the
helper’s reflection, but a reflecting statement, even if it is inaccurate, can allow the client to
clarify the experience to others and to oneself” (Young, 2021, pp. 102). I took a few key aspects
of the client's statement and put them into my own words to show I was listening, I understand,
Client: “That is just it. It is rather frustrating for me whenever this happens. I want her to be
happy but her not telling me prevents me from helping and ultimately making her feel better.”
Helper: “You feel infuriated as well as stuck when she does not open up to you.”
Client: “Exactly!”
Explanation: Above I chose to use a feelings reflection as it helps the client become aware of
their own emotions toward the situation. The skill of “reflecting feelings tells your client that you
recognize the emotional background of the story. An accurate reflection of feelings has the
almost magical power to deepen the relationship between the client and helper” (Young, 2021,
pp. 117-118). It is similar to paraphrasing but it focuses on the emotions of the client. I used
emotions that were a little more complex when reflecting in case the client wasn’t exactly sure of
how they were feeling. There could be emotions that are deeper than the ones that are just
expressed.
Helper: “I see and how do you respond when she continues to complain about how she feels
after offering help and not telling you why she is feeling the way she is?”
Helper: “I am confused. On one hand, you are trying to help her feel better and get her to open
up, but on the other hand, you lay into her when she doesn’t accept the help or tell you what is
shows how the client may be contradicting themselves. For instance, “Confrontation points out
discrepancies in clients' beliefs, behaviors, words, or nonverbal messages. As a result of
resolve them” (Young, 2021, pp. 168). As the helper, I was confused about the client's feelings
and actions toward the situation, so I appropriately confronted them by pointing out this
difference.
Client: “It doesn’t make much sense to me either as to why I do this. I am sure that it doesn’t
Client: “I suppose changing the way I approach the situation. Making sure she knows that I care
about why she is feeling this way and that I want to understand what is causing her to feel like
this could be a good start. Thinking before I talk is another action that could help.”
Helper: “These all sound great to me. So these are some goals you would like to work toward?”
Client: “Yes!”
Explanation: Trying to get the client to turn something negative into a positive is an important
aspect when it comes to creating goals. Also, “Clients who set goals have better outcomes than
those that do not. Identifying and achieving goals help the client gain confidence even if the
objectives are rather modest. Goals help us to know when the helping relationship should end”
(Young, 2021, pp. 205). This process should be done collaboratively, as expressed above when I
asked the client what they thought would help them, as well as confirming with them if these
Helper: “I think it is important that we discuss techniques that will help you prepare for meeting
Helper: “If you are comfortable with it, we could perform the technique of role-playing during
Client: “This would be fine with me! I think it could be a very good method of intervention to
Helper: “Great! Next session we can go over how it works exactly and try it out!”
Client: “Awesome!”
Explanation: I used role-playing as a technique for intervention because it allows the client and
helper to perform a “mock” scenario that can help the client feel more comfortable in obtaining
their goal. “Role-playing is a change technique commonly used by helpers for social skills
training and in helping clients face situations they are avoiding. It involves practicing a behavior
in a contrived situation with the helper playing an auxiliary or observer role” (Young, 2021, pp.
238). I asked the client if they had any ideas that could help them, but they didn’t. So I suggested
role-playing as a starting point for intervention, making sure they were on board.
Additional Paragraph: After taking this class and learning all of these skills which are essential
to the counseling process I was happy with the knowledge I walked away with. Learning how
advice isn’t always the best thing, and that listening is a HUGE component of counseling made
me aware that a lot of the skills I learned in this class can be applied to everyday life. I recognize
that I sometimes interrupt but learning the significance of letting someone talk until they are
finished and using minimal encouragement has led me to be more focused and attentive. I
struggle a lot with confrontation, and people who I surround myself with at times need to be
confronted. Learning how to do this positively and appropriately has led me to feel like I can go
through with confrontation now and not be as worried about it. Nonetheless, much of these skills
can be applied to personal and social life which can have benefits such as understanding people
more, allowing people to feel heard, and hopefully helping as best as possible!
References
Young, E. Mark. (2021). Learning the Art of Helping: Building Blocks and Techniques. Pearson,