PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

Core Subject

Class No.: _____ Date: _______________________

Name: _________________________ Module 6 – 2nd Quarter – SY20212022 Grade and
Section: _________________ Teacher: Mr. Emerson C. Ang

I. Title: LESSON 5: PERSONAL AND SOCIAL RELATIONSHIP IN MIDDLE AND

LATE ADOLESCENCE

II. Objectives:
After accomplishing this module, you must be able to:
1. discuss an understanding of teenage relationships, including the acceptable and
unacceptable expressions of attractions,
2. express his/her ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment,
3. distinguish the various roles of different individual’s in society and how they can
influence people through their leadership; and
4. conduct a mini-survey on Filipino relationships (family, school, and community).

III. Material/s:
1. Video - Healthy Vs Unhealthy Relationships
2. Video – 10 Differences Between Good Friends and Toxic Friends
3. Journal, writing and art materials
4. For reference/s, you may visit our LMS for PowerPoint presentations, videos, and
other classwork.

IV. Time Frame: Week 6 Days 2, 3 – Week 7 Days 1, 2 V. Concept:

In the previous modules, we discussed the learner’s strengths and limitations,

stages of development and challenges, stress management, mental and emotional
development. Thus, in this module, we shall talk about the person’s relationships with
significant persons in his/her life.

The concept of relationship is very broad and complex. However, we will define the
relationship as a close connection between people, formed by emotional bonds and
interactions through communication. These bonds often grow from and are strengthened
by mutual experiences. Besides, relationships are not static; they are continually
developing, and to fully enjoy and benefit from them we need skills, information,
inspiration, practice, and social support.

Moving forward, let us now define a personal relationship. A personal relationship

is the type of relationship which is closely associated with a person and which can only
have meaning to this person. Privacy and intimacy are two characteristics that define a
personal relationship. The personal relationship also involves a degree of commitment to
another person/s.

How does relationships develop? According to Santos (2016), there are three
elements of personal relationship namely: attachment, attraction, love, and intimacy.

Attachment

Ainsworth and her associates (Ainsworth, Blehar, Waters, & Wall, 1978) developed
a technique for measuring the type of attachment style that exists between caregiver and

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 infant, known as the Strange Situation. This procedure consists of a 20-minute laboratory
session in which a mother and infant are initially alone in a playroom. Then a stranger
comes into the room, and after a few minutes, the stranger begins a brief interaction with
the infant. The mother then goes away for two separate two minute periods. With this
experiment, Ainsworth and her associates found three attachment styles: secure, anxious-
resistant, and anxious-avoidant.

1. Secure attachment – is when the primary caregiver is most of the time present and
available and when all the emotional needs of an infant are met, providing a sense of
security to the infant. Chances are, a child who is exposed to this style of attachment
will grow up to have a more secure and stable relationship.

2. Anxious resistant attachment – When the primary caregiver is not consistent in

terms of presence and in meeting a child’s emotional needs. In return, infants give
very conflicted messages, in which they seek contact with their mother, while they
squirm to be put down and may throw away toys that their mother has offered them.
Often a person who experienced this style of attachment in childhood may develop
separation anxieties with a loved one or may have mixed feelings between hesitancy
and commitment when entering meaningful relationships.

3. Anxious-avoidant – It is when the primary caregiver is cold and detached, and even
unresponsive to a child’s needs. The child senses rejection and this often leads to
premature detachment and self-reliance. For example, infants stay calm when their
mother leaves; they accept the stranger, and when their mother returns, they ignore
and avoid her. A person who experienced this style of attachment in infancy and
childhood will oftentimes avoid getting into meaningful relationships.

Attraction

In humans, the attraction system (standardly called romantic love, obsessive love,
passionate love, being in love, or infatuation) is also characterized by feelings of
excitement, “intrusive thinking” about the love object, and a craving for emotional union
with this partner or potential partner (Fisher et al., 2002). There are three stages of falling
in love:

1. Lust – is driven by the sex hormones, testosterone, and estrogen. These hormones
affect both sexes.

2. Attraction – is described as the love-struck phase, which involves neurotransmitters

in the brain such as dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin. This is the stage when
a person loses sleep and appetite over someone, and swoons while daydreaming of
this special person.

3. Attachment – is the stage where long-lasting commitments are exchanged and may
lead to raising a family.

Other reasons of attraction

1. Transference Effect – Sometimes we meet people who we immediately like or

dislike. These people remind us of someone in the past who has affected our sense
of self. Our past relationships can, therefore, affect our current interactions with
people.

2. Propinquity Effect – We often develop a sense of familiarity with people who live
close to us, work with us, or go to school with us, which leads us to like them more.
People whom we are familiar with, makes us feel safe and secure.

3. Similarity – We often like people who we have similarities with, such as social class
background, religious beliefs, age, and education. We are often attracted to
likeminded persons and those who have similar beliefs, and values as ours.

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 4. Reciprocity – We like people who like us back. The more we are liked by someone
we equally like, the more we behave in ways that promote mutual feelings of liking.
5. Physical Attractiveness – Major factor in liking someone, and usually first
impression counts a lot.

6. Personality Characteristics and Traits – Attitudes, behaviors, personality

sometimes produces the attraction.

VI. Activity: Let’s try these!

A. Statements on relationships:
TASK: Identify whether the statements are True or False. Write your answers before
each number.

TIME FRAME: 20 Minutes

1. It is important to work on 8. Using positive methods to resolve communicating our

feelings in conflict will more likely help us relationships. maintain good
relationships.
2. To love someone, we must first 9. Expressing gratitude to our friends love
ourselves. and family help us maintain good
3. Trying to understand where other relationships. people are coming from rather 10.
Significant differences in core than judging them helps us build values and beliefs
never create a and maintain relationships. problem in relationships.
4. Having a good relationship does 11. We are happy in our relationships not
contribute anything to us when our loved ones stay having good health. connected
by spending time with 5. When people listen deeply and let us and letting us know
that they us know that they recognize the love us. feeling behind our words, more
12. Excessive reliance on social likely than not, our relationship is media can be a
cause of tension in doing good. relationships.
6. In our relationships, it is vital that 13. Relationships are static; they are we practice
forgiveness when a unchangeable. loved one has hurt us. 14. Being
compassionate, forgiving,
7. Our loved ones cannot help us and grateful contribute to healthy when we deal with
stress. relationships.

VII. Evaluation: Part 1: Quiz # 2

TASK: Watch the video “Healthy vs Unhealthy Relationships” and “10 Differences
Between Good Friends and Toxic Friends” then answer the guide questions below.

TIME FRAME: 30 minutes Rubric

for Grading:
Your essay will be graded according to the following criteria.
A. Content (3pts) – All of the three guide questions are present and correct.
B. Organization (1pts) – Functional arrangement of content that sustains a logical
order with some evidence of transitions.
C. Conventions (1pts) – Sufficient control of grammar, mechanics, spelling, usage,
and sentence formation.

1 . What is a healthy relationship?

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2. What are the characteristics of a good friend?

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3. How can you be a good friend? What characteristics of a good friend do you

think you should work on?

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VIII. Reflection: Journal Writing

JOURNAL ENTRY # 6: My love language

TASK: Reflect on the different sets of activities given to you. Then, answer the guide
questions as honestly as you can. Keep in mind that open-mindedness is the key to the
success of this course. Take note that a minimum of three (3) sentences is required for
each question.

Guide Questions:
1. How do you express your attraction to someone?
2. How do you show your commitment to this person or persons?
3. Why do you think social relationships are necessary for the survival of adolescents?

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