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Emotional Intelligence Primer
Emotional Intelligence Primer
Emotional Intelligence Primer
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Personal __________
SELF ___________
SELF
Social __________
SOCIAL ________________
RELATIONSHIP
1) ____________
SELF Awareness - Ability to accurately perceive your
emotions as they are happening and to understand your tendencies to
react in certain ways to different conversations.
Strategies: * Paying attention - you get better at it
* Being interested in it
* Knowing who & what pushes your buttons. Ask yourself why? Is it certain people, situations, topics, conditions?
* Get to know yourself under stress. What is your style under stress (silence or violence)?
* What happens to you when you get stressed? What are the indications that you might be stressed? How do you
react to stressful situations?
From Mark - think ahead what you might experience, prepare yourself to feel that.
From Jeremy - Invite feedback, ask friends to circle around later to let you know what they observed in you
2) _____________
SELF
Management - Ability to use self-awareness to react in a
positive or useful way in any circumstance; control your emotions around
situations or people
Not same as bottling up
Strategies: * Every time you think you’re going to blurt out something you shouldn’t
say, take a drink from your drink to give you a minute to think.
* Deep breaths - brain needs 20% of oxygen that comes in, but frontal
cortex gets what’s left over after life support functions.
* Gratitude - get back to a good place. List things you’re thankful for
3) ______________
SOCIAL
Awareness - Ability to read other people’s emotions and
understand what’s going on with them
Strategies: * Training - learning how to discern their body language
* Greet people by name - causes you to look at them, and to increase your awareness of them.
* Testing for accuracy - if you say something, and their body language or tone changes, testing what you think
you perceive, “It seems that …. , is that correct ?”
* Even if you don’t know what’s going on… putting something out there can be helpful to increase
understanding. “It seems like you’re not satisfied with my response. What am I missing?”
4) _________________________
RELATIONSHIP Management - Understanding your
emotions and those of others to skillfully manage a relationship
Strategies: * Understand the position the other person is in, and have reasonable expectations for them
* Appreciate others - express gratitude. Draws people together, creates loyalty. Note, gift, public praise