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Love Language
Jake is a 21-year-old from Stetsonville, Wisconsin. We met the first week of school. It
did not take us long to start dating, but it seems like we have known each other for
years. Jake and I have similar values. We are both practicing Catholics, love our
families, see school as being important, are caring and hardworking individuals, enjoy
helping the community, and are both wrestlers. The first time I met Jake, he was walking
with my brother to the Block Party the community was hosting for the college
newcomers. My friend and I were way in the back of the parade of people and decided
to race for the front. I accidently ran into Jake pretty hard from behind and poof the
magic happened. By taking the love language test, Jake and I are able to identify and
Based on my love language test, my love language is 30% acts of service, 23%
words of affirmation, 23% quality time, 20% physical touch, and lastly 3% receiving gifts.
I was a little surprised that physical touch was only 20%. I love receiving both
welcoming and goodbye hugs and kisses from my boyfriend. He makes me feel wanted.
Other than that, I thought my love language test was pretty accurate. Acts of service
being my first love language makes sense to me. I feel appreciated whenever someone
does something for me. For example, when Jake walks me to my dorm after studying in
the library, he makes me feel safe. When he types up a page of my notes for me, while
I’m typing another page, he makes me feel less stressed. He does not do my homework
for me! At times I can be a clean freak and love being very organized. Every time I visit
Jake’s room it is tidy, his desk is organized, bed is made, and his clothes are hung up
and put away. I am excited to see him and his organized clean space makes me feel
comfortable and calm. Lastly, I was talking about buying a futon for my dorm room, but I
don't have a car. While I was in class, Jake went to Walmart and bought one. Jake is
For my boyfriend, Jake, his love language rankings are 32% physical touch, 29%
quality time, 19% words of affirmation, 13% acts of service, and lastly 6% receiving gifts.
I think his rankings are correct. Physical touch being on the top, adds up, because he
appreciates the times we are together cuddling, giving back rubs, massaging sore
muscles from sport activities, and taking time to work out together. An example of Jake
and I showing both our love languages was when we put together my little brothers’
desk. We were able to do an activity together that involved both physical activity and
service.
It is important for both Jake and I to understand our love language in our
personal and work relationships. Because Jake feels loved when there is physical
activity and touch, it is common to also expect or have a sense of delivering love to
others through the same action. Jake is going to school to be a chiropractor. This career
choice can help give him satisfaction while at work by providing service to his patients
does not like physical touch and activity that could cause that person distress. Same
with me, I feel like I am giving love through service. However, someone who does not
appreciate service may see me as a busybody, a boss who is interfering and just trying
to take over. For example, Jake could care less about me folding his socks, but it gives
show my love by cleaning the house for my mom or doing things when no one tells me
to do the task. I do believe it will be important for me to find a career where I can show
my love for others through my love language of service to feel most satisfied.
Understanding each other’s love languages is beneficial long term. Taking the
love language test was an excellent exercise for us to identify how to support each
other's needs. When I have to leave for a trip, I know it is important to give Jake a hug
or a kiss before leaving and upon returning, before we even say a word. When I return,
Jake might consider helping me unload and unpack my bags, so I can get caught up to
move on to the next activity. By speaking in each other’s love languages, we can
hopefully continue to grow in our relationship and be an example for others to follow.