The idea of work-

life balance is
killing you. It
makes you
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The idea of work-life
balance is killing you.

Why you should think

of the ”four
relationships” instead...
 Nikolas Konstantin
@nikolaskonstantin

Forget the concept of

”work-life balance”.
 Nikolas Konstantin
@nikolaskonstantin

It creates false
expectations:
It makes you feel as if you
failed, if you can't excel in
"life" and "work" equally.

Here is why you should think

of relationships instead.
 Nikolas Konstantin
@nikolaskonstantin

Think of relationships
instead of balance
The quality of our relationships
marks the quality of our lives.

Because, it is not balance that

makes us happy.

It is the resonance, depth and

quality of our relationships.

Your life is made of the

relationships with your...
Work

Loved Ones

Self

Existence
 The four
Relationships in Life

Work Loved Ones

Expertise & Excellence Trust & Connection

Self Existence
Awareness & Self- Wisdom & Wonder
Knowledge
Establishing a deep
relationship with each
of the four domains will
help you live a healthy,
examined life. 


Let ’s u n p a c k t h is
Relationship with
your Work
Measure of progress:

Expertise & Excellence

It is naive to think that you
can do great work without
putting in the work.
Every idea of balance whilst
learning is fiction.

It takes 10.000 iterations to master

a skill.

To become great you need to stand

up early and put in the hours.
Results

Creativit

Contribution to societ

Excellence
 Nikolas Konstantin
@nikolaskonstantin

Relationship with
your Loved Ones
Measure of progress:

Trust & Connection

Nothing is as beautiful as
“earned trust”.

Cultivating deep relationships with your

loved ones does not follow the logic of
“work”. Deepen this relationship by
being present, trustworthy and caring.

Results: Love, Care, Family, Bonds




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 Nikolas Konstantin
@nikolaskonstantin

Relationship
with your Self
Measure of progress:

Awareness & Self-Knowledge

We can only meet others as deep

as we have met ourselves.
From coaching over therapy to meditation cultivating
a relationship yourself is the cornerstone to depth in
all other relationships.

In this relationship you discover what gives your life

meaning. You learn what patterns in your life are
helpful. You will align your life around who you are.
Results: Being creative instead of reactive,
Alignment, Depth, Self-understanding



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 Nikolas Konstantin
@nikolaskonstantin

Dedicating a large
portion of your life on
your relationship with
your self will yield
beautiful answers.

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Relationship
with Existence
Measure of progress:

Wisdom & Wonder

The world is full of magical

answers waiting for your senses
to grow sharper
Contemplative traditions from all over the world
dedicate time prominently on deepening their
relationship with existence.

Using meditation tradition’s toolbox and maps of our

human experience will increase your sense of wonder,
calm, joy and being.



Results: Wonder, an embodied understanding of the

principles and beauty of life, Meaning

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 Nikolas Konstantin
@nikolaskonstantin

An examined life is
a life of bandwidth
and depth. 


h i p n e e d s
r e l a t i o n s
Wh a t r l i f e?
i n g i n y o u
dee p en

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 Nikolas Konstantin
@nikolaskonstantin

Your life is made

of the relationships
with your:

Career

Loved Ones

Self

Existence

nikolaskonstantin.com
 Nikolas Konstantin
@nikolaskonstantin

Establishing a deep
relationship with each
of the four domains will
help you live a healthy,
examined life.

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 Nikolas Konstantin
@nikolaskonstantin

Where do you locate

yourself in the 4
relationships in your life?

Career 0 10

Loved Ones 0 10

Self 0 10

Existence 0 10

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