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Chapter 02
Etiquette Matters
Introduction
Some people argue that etiquette no longer matters, that the rules for good
behavior are old-fashioned and out of date. However, good behavior and manners
are never out of style. Etiquette, like all other cultural behaviors, evolves to match the
times. Without etiquette, members of society would show far too much impatience
and disrespect for one another, which would lead to insults, dishonesty, cheating,
road rage, fist fights, and a rash of other unfortunate incidents.
Etiquette is merely a set of guidelines for politeness and good manners, the
kindnesses with which we should always treat each other.
ETIQUETTE
- Etiquette, the complex network of rules that govern good behavior and our
social and business interactions, is always evolving and changing as society
changes. It reflects our cultural norms, generally accepted ethical codes, and
the rules of various groups we belong to.
- It helps us show respect and consideration to others and makes others glad that
we are with them. Without proper manners and etiquette, the customs of
polite society would soon disappear and we would act more like animals and
less like people.
- Guidelines which control the way a responsible individual should behave in the
society.
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A. BRIEF HISTORY:
B. COMPOSITION OF ETIQUETTE:
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a. Etiquette makes you a cultured individual who leaves his mark wherever
he goes.
b. It teaches you the way to talk, walk and most importantly behave in the
society.
c. It is essential for an everlasting first impression. The way you interact with your
superiors, parents, fellow workers, friends speak a lot about your personality and
up- bringing.
d. Etiquette enables the individuals to earn respect and appreciation in the
society. No one would feel like talking to a person who does not know how to
speak or behave in the society.
e. Etiquette helps individuals to value relationships.
f. Etiquette provides personal security. Knowing how to behave
appropriately in a given situation makes you more comfortable.
g. It protects the feelings of others. Proper etiquette requires that you make
others comfortable and protect their feelings. You do not point out their errors
or draw attention to their mistakes.
h. It makes communication clearer. Etiquette enhances communication by
breaking down barriers, not erecting them.
i. It will enhance your status at work. In any working situation, you are perceived
as more capable, more professional, and more intelligent if you are familiar
with the proper code of conduct for the workplace.
j. It makes good first impressions. The first five to seven seconds after you meet
someone are crucial. Your first impression lingers in the other person's mind long
after you are gone. If you use proper etiquette, that first impression will be a
positive one.
Society and our culture are now changing so fast that it is hard for the rules of
etiquette to keep up. Keep in mind that etiquette is meant to be a guideline, not a set
of strict rules carved in stone. Those guidelines are developed using common sense,
a sense of fairness, politeness, and above all, consideration for others. If you let
consideration for others be your final arbiter, you will be well on your way to being the
kind of polite person who understands the rules of etiquette instinctively.
D. TYPES OF ETIQUETTES
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i. Don’t talk on your cell phone during the meal and if you want to get up
in between, ask to be “excused”
j. Don’t put your elbows on the table
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MANNERS
It is how people are supposed to behave. Good manners mean you are
proper, polite and refined. Manners are similar to laws but there is no punishment for
bad manners other than people may disapprove of you.
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The common courtesies of life are the endless little gestures we make almost
unconsciously as we move through our day. As we go to work and muddle through
our day, we interact with bus drivers, waitresses, people on the street, and countless
others. How we interact with these individuals can affect their day and ours. The
common courtesies of life, from treating a frazzled server with respect to smiling at the
person seated across from us on the bus, should never be forgotten.
Getting through the day can be rough for some of us. If you have a busy
schedule, a grueling day at school, you may have a lot on your mind that puts you in
a foul mood. The people around you may be feeling just as miserable, but you do not
necessarily want their misery dumped on you, so do not share yours with them.
Instead, take the time to be courteous and uphold the small courtesies of life, even
when you feel like you would like to sock someone in the nose. Other people will feel
better and so will you if you keep making the effort to be polite and share a brief smile
or pleasantry.
Whether you are walking, taking a cab or using public transportation, you will
interact with others while you go from point A to point B. Do not act like you are the
only person on the sidewalk or road or assume you have the right of way in every
situation. Etiquette calls for defensive driving and regard for the safety of others in
every situation.
Pedestrians should never cross traffic against the traffic light. It insinuates
you are above the law and have no regard for drivers on the road.
When you are walking, do not avoid eye contact. Look at others and
smile, giving them a brief nod. It may give them a pleasant start to their
day. Do not stare; however, a brief glance and smile are friendly and
appropriate without making the other person uncomfortable.
Drivers should never use their car horn unless it is an emergency and they
are trying to warn someone to get out of the way. When you honk at
someone because you are irritated on a busy city street, you are not
only bothering that person, you are annoying dozens of other people
around you.
If you use public transportation, keep in mind that the person driving is a
professional and should be treated with respect. This person is also going
to be holding your life in his or her hands for the duration of your travels
in that vehicle, which is not something to be taken lightly.
Always greet the driver when you get on a bus or into a taxi and thank
the person when you leave.
If you see someone running to catch the jeepney, let the jeepney driver
know so that she or he can wait if possible.
Any time you are riding on public transportation and see a person who
may be uncomfortable standing for any length of time, offer that person
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Name: ______________________________________
ACTIVITY 2.1 - Reflection Activity on Everyday Manners and Etiquette
Instructions: Identify 10 situations/scenarios that you have been on your random days as a
student or as a part of your family. Think of a scenario wherein there is a need for your
help/assistance, or there is a problem at hand, or when you were confused whether you should
have acted nice or ignored the situation. Write that on the left column. On the right column,
assess yourself, if you think you have acted on the situation acceptably. If you think you acted
terrible, write what should you have done right.
Note: I am looking for your personal experiences, not someone else’s story. Just be honest on
writing your story. Everyone has their own appalling moments.
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