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B - Deepening Your Spirituality1
© Fern Gorin and The Life Purpose Institute 1994-2022 (ver 06.22) Deepening Your Spirituality B - 1
Learning Objectives
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DEFINITIONS OF SPIRITUALITY
Spirituality is your belief in something bigger than yourself.
Spirituality is the quality of being concerned with the human spirit or soul as opposed to
physical or material things.
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THE WAYS SPIRITUALITY IMPROVES YOUR LIFE
1. Give your life purpose and meaning.
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IMPORTANT QUESTIONS TO ASK CLIENTS
These questions are designed for you to understand how to best relate to your
client and understand their specific beliefs, viewpoints, and the way they
communicate about their spirituality.
you about your religion or spiritual path? Are there certain beliefs or practices?
3. What word do you identify with the most? Is it God, Christ, Buddha, Spirit,
10. How have you applied your spirituality to your life in the past?
12. What does it mean to you to bring a spiritual perspective into your life? How
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SPIRITUAL BIOGRAPHY
Doing a Spiritual Biography can bring awareness to someone’s spiritual journey. It
This exercise can be done with an individual coaching client or with partners in a
group.
Write a spiritual biography from the time you were born until now. Include all the
and turning points that brought you to where you are today.
Next, draw a timeline from birth to the present moment on a large sheet of paper.
Mark all of the important moments you listed on the timeline. Spend time
contemplating the timeline to see what you discover. Share what you learned in the
cleansing you, clearing you, releasing any tension or distraction. Allow yourself to
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For right now, let go of what happened earlier today or yesterday. Let go of the
cares and concerns of your life, and let yourself come into the present moment.
Continue taking some nice slow, deep breaths, allowing yourself to become more
We’re going on a journey to strengthen your spiritual connection and feel the
See yourself someplace that you have been or wish to be that is so peaceful, so
to enjoy the wonderful sights, the wonderful sounds, the wonderful feelings of this
place. You’re noticing you feel completely relaxed and content. Ah, it feels so good.
Some people really feel God; really feel their spiritual connection when they’re in
nature. Right now, we’re going to explore your spiritual connection, one that can be
there 100% of the time. When you feel God, Christ, Spirit, your higher self (use their
name), where do you feel that? Is it all around you, is it in you, is it surrounding one
Some people see it as a color like white, gold, or purple. Some people have a symbol
Allow this spiritual connection to speak to you. Open yourself up and notice what it is
Be open to whatever you’re receiving. You’re in a safe place, and you really need this
Tell this feeling, symbol, or voice that is your spiritual connection that you want to
expand it, feel it every day, and feel and experience it 100% of the time in your day-
to-day life.
Ask how you might expand or experience this connection even more. Do you feel,
be this lifetime. As you picture your soul, what are you seeing? What are you feeling?
As you ask God (substitute name) about your soul, what does God want to tell you?
Know that your spiritual connection and soul are with you 100% of the time.
You can keep this peace, this sense of well-being with you 100% of the time.
In a moment, you’re going to gently come back to the room, keeping these images,
You’re going to come back to the room, feeling your feet on the floor, your back
against the chair, feeling refreshed, alert, and oh so peaceful and content. Take your
time coming back. You now feel so wonderful. In a few moments, I’m going to ask
you to come back to the room and draw and write about your spiritual connection
and soul.
Optional, if you’re working in person with a client or group: Have the client draw
or write about their spiritual connection and soul. Hand them paper and crayons or
markers. Have the client draw and write on a piece of paper from an art pad, or
regular paper, the words or images that are representative of their spiritual
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HELPING PEOPLE REMEMBER THEIR SPIRITUAL CONNECTION
Something in the exercise just covered may be an anchor for your client to come
back to and help them tap into their spiritual connection. Perhaps your client
discovered an image, a word, or a feeling. This is powerful for them and helps them
Praying
Doing readings from their spiritual or religious texts (the Bible, the Vedas,
Practicing yoga
Being in nature
Ask your client how they can embrace and tap into their spirituality in the future.
Many of us have spiritual experiences. The key is learning how to be present and stay
in that place of spiritual connection from moment to moment. Ask your client:
What pulls you to get spiritually connected right now and throughout your day?
Bringing a spiritual perspective into life situations can be very powerful for your
clients. To bring that spiritual perspective you might say, “How can you view this
(the situation) from a spiritual perspective?”
A more advanced question might be, “How can you view this more holistically,
that is through a mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual lens?” Your client will
discover how they can look at their spirituality differently.
Perhaps they will discover the experience they are having or the situation they are
dealing with as a path of learning, a test of faith, or an opening for new people and
opportunities to come into their life. They may be learning new things about others or
themselves. It could be the starting point for them to break old habits and patterns,
Keep asking your client about how they could view the situation from a spiritual
perspective. The client will get different viewpoints each time you ask about
an addition to their to-do list. This daunting feeling of doing more turns to frustration
when they can’t still their mind or when they feel hurried while trying to fit it in. A
sense of failure can arise, and coaching tools begin to seem more foe than friend.
A simple tool to avoid this client pitfall is utilizing everyday tasks as meditation.
Start by asking your client some of the following questions to determine which
activities on their to-do list might present as a good start for this mindfulness
practice:
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Once a task is chosen, set a trial time period for the client to begin introducing
meditation into the activity. One week is ideal for the client to get a sense of what
stands out most for them when they stay present. This is important because you don’t
want to frame the experience for the client. It works best when their experience is
Suggest that the client pause and take three deep breaths before beginning the
task. This sends a signal to their brain and nervous system that they are shifting gears,
and it will help them become fully present. Then, instruct them to pay attention to
their breath, along with anything that stimulates the five senses as they complete the
task.
Set a time to check in once the trial is over to discuss what the client experienced.
Client observations will lead you to the best coaching suggestions to take their
meditation deeper.
Client Observations: the sounds of the water, the scent of the dish detergent, the
clink of the dishes, the repetition of moving dishes from sink to dishwasher, the
Coaching Suggestions: focus on the sound of the water to take you deeper, notice
the scent of the detergent with every breath, fall into a rhythm while moving from sink
Other common tasks and how to use them to create a meditative state:
Vacuuming – breathing in and out with the back-and-forth movement of the
vacuum.
breath can be better heard, listening to meditation during the walk, focusing on
Showering – picturing the water cleansing away whatever isn’t for the best and
Drinking water after the task is always recommended to assist the client with
grounding their experience and flushing away what does not serve them.
Meditation does not have to be a special time of sitting in an “om” state while
adding to our clients’ already busy lives. It can be successfully added to established
What exactly is mindfulness? As human beings, our tendency is to ruminate about the
past or worry about the future. Mindfulness is being present in the moment, paying
attention to what you’re doing right now. To be fully conscious and tune into deeper
realms, we need to be able to bring ourselves back to the present any time we
remember to.
On one level, mindfulness is about focusing on what you’re doing in the moment. As
you’re washing the dishes, you pay attention to every spot on the dish as you clean it.
As you’re mowing the lawn, you feel the sun on your face, smell the newly mown grass
This may sound boring, but if you’re fully present, your senses will become sharper
and you’ll notice things that you completely overlooked before and bring a deeper
A classic mindfulness exercise that you can take your client through is to experience
an ordinary raisin. You can substitute a bite of fruit or some kind of nut if you like.
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Look at it closely and see what you observe about it. Notice the colors, the dark and
light parts. Smell it. Then bring it to your lips. How does that feel?
Now, put it in your mouth and explore it with your tongue. Bite into it. Notice the taste
and how the texture changes. When you’re ready, swallow it and see if you can feel it
going down.
Another aspect of mindfulness is staying conscious as you go through your day. Most
of us rush through our day without thinking about it. Have you ever driven somewhere
This is not unusual. We get lost in our thoughts and lose awareness of what’s going on
around us. With mindfulness practice, we stay connected in every moment (as much
Finally, mindfulness is about accepting yourself, your thoughts and feelings, and your
current situations just as they are, without judgment or trying to change anything.
When you’re aware, you can catch those automatic thoughts of self-doubt and self-
criticism and consciously choose to treat yourself with kindness and compassion.
When you’re coming from a place of calm acceptance, you can be more creative in
breathing or even creating a silent retreat for an hour, a day or a week. You can
practice mindfulness from moment to moment, so it doesn’t require extra time in your
busy schedule.
present in your job, in your relationships and with your kids. You’ll become kinder to
yourself and others, and seemingly ordinary moments in life will come alive. When
you’re more connected to your life, you can more effectively reach for those deeper
connections.
HELPING YOUR CLIENT DEVELOP A SPIRITUAL PRACTICE
Spiritual Coaches often help their clients explore and commit to some sort of regular
than themselves.
You might want to help someone develop their spiritual practice if the client:
Feels disconnected from their spirituality in their day-to-day life
Had a practice previously and want to start doing their practice again.
How could you feel more spiritually connected on a day-to-day basis? What other
Some people develop a regular spiritual practices such as daily prayer, meditation,
How could you further (explore, learn about, implement deepen) this practice?
What could you do this week to ____ (explore, learn about, implement, deepen) this
practice?
Note: the client could research what other people do for their spiritual practice.
An important topic at some point is to discuss how the client might grow spiritually.
reading, learning more about and practicing different forms of meditation, etc.
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What is your spiritual practice?
LETTER TO GOD
This exercise is a powerful way to create an ongoing dialogue with your higher
source. (God, The Divine, The Universe, Higher Power. Use whatever your word for
God is.)
To access a higher level of your own awareness, write your own letter to God.
For example, you may wish to address this letter “Dear God” or “Dear Universe” or
"Dear Wisdom."
In your letter, write about situations in your life that are difficult and challenging.
Share from the heart what you are worried about and the feelings that you have.
What is the best choice I can make in this situation for myself and all involved?
End your letter with the following sentence: “Dear God, please write through my pen.
Thank you very much.” Then, proceed to write a letter back to yourself from God.
Address it to yourself from God and allow God's message to flow to you through your
pen.
An ongoing dialogue has now begun. Feel free to utilize this process as often as you
Fern Gorin’s definition: The voice of God, your higher self (your name), guidance,
and inner wisdom. Connecting to all wisdom and resources inside and out.
Einstein said: "The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful
servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the
gift."
Ask your client to remember a time or times they really had a strong intuition about
something. Ask them to tell you about those experiences and how they connected to
their intuition. Did they sense it, hear it, see it or just know it all at once? If they can
identify how they receive their intuition, it will help them have a stronger connection.
INTUITION EXERCISE: Close your eyes and take some nice deep breaths. Allow each
breath to take you deeper, allowing yourself to become completely relaxed. Now,
remember a time when you had a strong intuition about something. Did you feel it as
a knot in your stomach, a warm feeling in your heart, butterflies in your belly, or some
other body sensation? Did you hear or get a sense of a “Yes, that feels right,” or, “No,
this does not feel right?” Did you hear an inner voice, your higher self, (or your name)
talking to you?
Now, we’re going to identify a truth signal – a signal that will clearly and accurately
guide you in the future to know what is a Yes or what is a No. In other words, what is
a “Yes, this feels right, this feels good; this is the direction to go.” Versus, what is “No,
this does not feel right, this does not feel good, this is not the direction to go.” Tune
into your body and get fully present as you get in touch with your intuition.
Now, imagine a favorite flower or a rose. Picture how it looks, the stems, the leaves,
Now, clear away that image and ask your intuition to show you what your flower looks
like when the answer is Yes? Tune into all the details, the petals, the stem, and the
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Now, clear that image and ask your intuition to show you what your flower looks like
when the answer is No? Tune in to all the details, the petals, the stem, and leaves.
Is there something specific you would like to use your intuition with? Think of a yes/no
question. Get clear on your question. Ask it now, “What is my intuition on this?” Be
open to your intuitive signals and whatever information you receive. Notice what you
Remember, your intuition is always with you; you may turn to it at any time. You can
use it at any time to help you in your life as long as you get fully present. It is a
wonderful resource. Now, gently come back to the room, feeling refreshed, alert,
feeling wonderful.
Mixed Intuition
Educate your client that what makes intuition confusing is that it is often not 100%
“yes.” It is 70/30, 60/40, 50/50. It is confusing for us. We then need to ask, “What is
the 70%? What is the 30%? What is the 60%? What is the 40%?”
4. Listen for the client’s priorities. Make sure each priority is stated in a positive
way. Instead of saying, “I don’t like …,” the client needs to come up with what
they do want and do like. Ask powerful questions to draw out positive choices
and priorities.
5. Feedback the client’s priorities and have them determine the order of priority
from 1 on.
6. “Now that we’ve discussed this, what did you discover (or what did you decide)
Client: 60%.
Client: 40%.
Client: I’m really bored and I feel like I’m not getting paid what I’m worth. I would
Client: I know my job is secure, and because I know it so well, I can spend more
Coach: When you say you’re bored, what do you want instead?
Client: Yes.
Coach: So, I heard your priorities are: more challenging work, work that interests
you, more money, job security, time for your hobbies, co-workers you like. Does that
sound correct?
Client: Yes.
Client:
1. Work that interests me
2. Challenging work
3. More money
4. Job security
6. Coworkers I like
Coach: Now that we've discussed this, what did you discover?
Client: I really want to do more interesting work that’s more challenging and pays
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YOUR SPIRITUAL GROWTH ASSESSMENT
On the following page is a handout called “Your Spiritual Growth Assessment”
You can either use this as a resource to hand out to your client, or you can use
On a scale from 1 to 10, how motivated are you to live this way? What’s keeping
What changes would you have to make in your life to get to a (number, e.g., 8)?
Here are some things that might be part of your spiritual growth. Please rate yourself
on a scale from 1 to 10, with 10 meaning you are masterful with that issue. You can
write N/A if the item does not seem to fit with your spirituality. Feel free to add any
Instead of complaining, you come from a spiritual level to make things better
Going to church or a spiritual center or group that helps you tap into your
spirituality
What you do in life matches your positive intentions and spiritual values
Other__________________________________________
Other__________________________________________
Other__________________________________________
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