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Love, Sex and You - The Romance-Boosting Journal For Singles
Love, Sex and You - The Romance-Boosting Journal For Singles
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The romance- boosting journal for singles!
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Love, Sex + You
Journal for Singles
This is the part where I introduce the journal, how it works and why
it's a great tool to help you build a love life that is tailor-made for
YOU.
This is where you use what you've just shared to make a real,
positive difference to your love life.
This journal is the tool I use to take them back to basics, help them
explore what's going wrong in a safe way and get them on the first
steps to creating a love life that works for them.
Every question in the journal is here for a reason. They were all
selected because they each give a slightly different insight into your
sex and relationships, yet together they offer a very thorough picture
of your current situation.
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Part One: The Introduction
Being honest about how you feel and your experiences will create
opportunities for growth. These opportunities are what you're doing
this for, so as tempting as it is don't push these aside, instead USE
THEM.
Following on from the above point, make sure you take care of
yourself whilst going through this process.
Journaling on emotion, experience and desire can take its toll so make
sure you take your time and pack some self-care in around journaling.
You don't have to complete the journal in one sitting, take your time.
Take your time and don't rush to complete the journal in a bid to move
onto the next stage!
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Part Two: The Relationship Q's
Below you will find lots of different questions about you and your
relationships. Some are about your experiences so far, others ask
you to be a bit more reflective on your desires and future
possibilities.
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Lets Summarise!
Before you move onto the intimacy questions, it's important to bring
everything you just reflected on together in a more organised fashion.
This will help you when you're choosing which goals to set in the final
section.
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Are there any overall themes that have popped up during the
relationship questions?
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List below some key things you'd like to consider reflecting on more
in depth (or that you could focus on as goals in future!)
Think about stuff that's standing in the way of you making meaningful
connections; needs not being met that should be a priority; and
potential behaviours that you may need to look at changing.
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Part Three: The Intimacy Q's
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Your genitals
Masturbation
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Lets Summarise!
Before you move onto setting goals, use the space and prompts below
to organise your thoughts around the intimacy questions.
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Are there any overall themes that have popped up during the
intimacy questions?
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List below some key things you'd like to consider reflecting on more
in depth (or that you could focus on as goals in future!)
Think about stuff that's standing in the way of you making meaningful
connections; needs not being met that should be a priority; and
potential behaviours that you may need to look at changing.
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Part Four: Goal Setting
I know it might seem a bit intimidating but this is actually the easy
part. You've already got everything you need to create some real,
attainable targets to get you on the way to a more fulfilling love life.
So, really you could answer the questions just for fun and skip out
on this goal setting section...but nothing will change.
The reason for this journal and the strategy behind the questions, is
to become informed so you can move forward with intention.
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Part Four: Goal Setting
So, out of everything you just shared what could you work towards
right now? What could you create a solid plan to change? What isn't
an intimidating goal?
Or, what makes you feel something in your gut when you read it
back? What is causing you the most stress and needs changing right
now?
Once you've had some time to reflect on what your goals could be,
use the next few pages of specific goal setting guidance to help
you create an actionable plan for each goal.
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Use the next few pages to guide you in setting impactful goals that
will support this aim of long term happiness.
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Part Four: Goal Setting
SMART goal setting is a 5 step process that makes goal setting A LOT
simpler by giving you a roadmap to follow. It guides you in getting
intentional about your goal setting and helps you structure your goals
so they feel do-able, they’re track-able and you’re held accountable
(super important!)
1. S is for 'Specific'
This is where it’s going to help if you put lots of detail into your
answers because a vague goal is an unachievable one.
If you’re not specific enough with what you actually want to achieve,
it’ll always feel half complete and like the target is moving.
2. M is for 'Measurable'
Make sure there are real results involved in your goal- don’t con
yourself out of progression by making goals that are flimsy or don’t
impact your life in any significant way!
Set goals that serve you and then when you actually achieve them
you’ll FEEL it!
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3. A is for 'Attainable'
4. R is for 'Realistic'
Also known as ‘RELEVANT’ this is about assessing how your goal fits
into your life currently. Don’t do yourself a disservice by creating a
goal that you’ll never stick too because although it sounds good on
paper you’re actually not enthused about...
Set goals that are going to make an actual difference to your life-
again this is where your answers are handy because they're evidence
there in black and white of what you actually need to work on!
5. T is for 'Timely'
You need to consider how much time you have and how much you can
realistically achieve in that time. Don't set goals with very long time
frames to begin with because there's every chance they'll become
draining. Quick, impactful wins to start will help you stay motivated.
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Once completed you'll have an actionable plan for each goal and you'll
be ready to start taking steps forward in your love life. Hooray!
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The Goal:
A general outline of what you'd like to achieve
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Think 'measurable'
Questions to consider:
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It needs to be 'attainable'
Questions to consider:
How much time and effort you’ll need to put in to make this goal a
reality?
Where are you now with this specific issue?
How will you get to where you want to be from this point exactly?
What support will you need to achieve this goal?
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Think 'realistic'
Questions to consider:
Is this goal actually relevant to your overall plans/ aims in your love
life?
Is this goal going to make a significant impact to your love life?
Is it worth aiming for?
Why do you want to achieve this goal?
What is the motivation behind this goal?
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