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Expo West 2017-Conscious Conversations
Expo West 2017-Conscious Conversations
Expo West 2017-Conscious Conversations
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Conscious Conversations:
Engaging the Differences that Divide Us
A Workshop with
Sheldon Romer, Executive Consultant
Susan Skjei, PhD
Authentic Leadership Model
Presence SELF-ESTEEM
(Mindfulness, CONFIDENCE
Awareness and
Authenticity)
“I”
Engagement Effective
(Skillful Action
Conversations, (Courage and POWER
TRUST
Group Dynamics) Collaborative EFFECTIVENESS
CREDIBILITY Change)
“We”
“It”
© Susan Skjei
An organization is a network of conversations
Mental Models
”Mental models are the deeply held internal images,
assumptions, and stories which we carry in our minds of
ourselves, other people, institutions and every aspect of
the world.”
- Peter Senge Fifth Discipline Fieldbook
• We can’t not have mental models
• Often helpful
• Our mental models tell us what to pay attention to
• Left unexplored, they can limit us to familiar ways of
thinking and acting instead of embracing differences
We are often captive to our mental models
Advocacy...
Is expressing your view
Effective Inquiry
(Helping others move down their ladder of inference)
Effective Effective Example Ineffective
Be calm, non-provocative and probe for “Help me understand you…” Ask a question when you have
their point of view an answer in mind; disguise
statements as questions
Identify the data they are using “What data of information did you use?”
Ask question in order to avoid
saying what you already think
Make their assumptions and reasoning “How does that data relate to your
explicit conclusion?”
Ask unilaterally, “do you see
what I see?”
Explain why you are inquiring “I am asking you this because…”
Adapted from: Ross, Rick and Charlotte Roberts, “Fifth Discipline Fieldbook, pages 253-259
Effective Advocacy
(Taking people up your ladder of inference)
Effective Effective Examples Ineffective
State your perception “I see it this way…” Speak unilaterally with no
options for rebuttal or
inquiry
Identify the data you used “Here is the data I used…”
Invite others to explore your observations “What do you think about what I just said?
and reasoning. Do you see any holes in my reasoning?”
Refrain from being defensive. Instead “Thank you for your comments.”
move to inquiry.
Adapted from: Ross, Rick and Charlotte Roberts, “Fifth Discipline Fieldbook, pages 253-259
Left-Hand Column Exercise
• Recall a conversation that did not go well. Ideally, a recent
one.
• Draw two columns
• What was actually said? – Write in right hand column
• What were your private thoughts and feelings? – Write in left
hand column
Purpose:
• Increase our Awareness
• Discover other options to
take when we get stuck
Ian Webster
Left-Hand Column Exercise
What I was thinking What we actually said
and feeling but didn’t
say
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