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Leaving a Religion
Contents
1. Introduction .......................................................................................................................................... 4
2. Why People Choose to Leave Their Religion ......................................................................................... 4
3. Leaving Religion Can Be Full of Emotion and Challenges ...................................................................... 5
4. Adopting a New Belief System .............................................................................................................. 6
5. Defining Purpose and Meaning in Your Life .......................................................................................... 8
6. Building a Support Network .................................................................................................................. 9
7. Practicing Self-Care and Mindfulness.................................................................................................. 10
8. Assessing the Need for Professional Help ........................................................................................... 12
9. Summary ............................................................................................................................................. 13
References................................................................................................................................................... 13
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1. Introduction
There are thousands of religions in the world and there are many reasons why people
choose to leave theirs. Leaving a religion is a deeply personal and sometimes
challenging decision that can have a significant impact on a person’s life. It can be
difficult, traumatic and, in some parts of the world, even dangerous.
Religious leaders and their zealous followers often consider leaving religion to be sinful,
a betrayal of their beliefs. But every individual has a right to their beliefs, including
whether to change their beliefs and whether or not they belong to a particular religion. In
1993, the United Nations Commission on Human Rights adopted the following:
“The freedom to "have or to adopt" a religion or belief necessarily entails the
freedom to choose a religion or belief, including the right to replace one's current
religion or belief with another or to adopt atheistic views, as well as the right to
retain one's religion or belief. Article 18.2 bars coercion that would impair the right
to have or adopt a religion or belief, including the use of threat of physical force
or penal sanctions to compel believers or non-believers to adhere to their
religious beliefs and congregations, to recant their religion or belief or to convert.”
This pamphlet is intended to provide guidance and support for individuals who have
made the choice to leave their religion. It offers potential coping strategies to help
navigate the possible emotional, psychological and social aspects of the transition to a
non-religious life, helping to find fulfillment outside of a religious framework.
When leaving a religion, one can often experience a wide range of emotions, which
include the following:
• Relief – Some people actually feel a sense of relief when they leave a religion, a
resolution to the doubts or conflicts they experienced with its teachings and
guidelines.
• Doubt – It shouldn’t be surprising that one might feel doubt about their decision
to shed their long-held beliefs, wondering if they made the right choice or will be
missing out on something important.
• Guilt – People sometimes feel guilt or shame when they leave their religion,
especially if their former religious community or family members view their
decision as a betrayal. This may lead to feelings of disappointment or struggling
with being harshly judged by others.
• Anger – Anger is another common emotion sometimes felt when someone
leaves their religion. The anger may be directed at the religion itself or the
leadership of the religious community.
• Loss and Loneliness – For those who have been deeply involved and invested
in their religion, leaving their religion may result in feeling a loss of identity,
community and purpose. Individuals may feel a void in their lives as they try and
adjust to the absence of religious rituals, traditions, and the social connections
they were a part of. They may feel isolated and alone, missing the sense of
belonging and support that were a part of their religious affiliation.
• Fear – Leaving a religion can be accompanied by fear of the unknown, i.e., what
will happen next and how to adjust to life without religion. Individuals may also
worry about the potential consequences, such as losing the support of family and
friends, facing social stigma or even, in extreme cases, fearing violence for
renouncing their religious beliefs.
• Freedom and Empowerment – For individuals who felt restricted or oppressed
by their former religion, leaving that religion can provide a newfound sense of
freedom and empowerment. They may embrace the opportunity to define their
own set of beliefs and guidelines for living.
It’s important to note that the emotions experienced by individuals can vary greatly,
depending on their personal history, experiences and the specific circumstances
surrounding their departure. It is also important to understand that an individual leaving
a religion is not alone. Many people have made the same or similar decisions in the
past and many more will do the same in the future.
9. Summary
Leaving a religion can be an emotional undertaking. Emotions can be both good and
bad, sometimes causing great stress and even trauma. But leaving religion behind can
also be a positive development in a person’s life. Where leaving is difficult, there are a
number of coping strategies that an individual can leverage to make the transition to a
new life and a new set of beliefs and supportive community that can support that new
life. Such strategies take time to implement and the benefits will not be realized
overnight. But the result can be a better, more fulfilling life that is accompanied by a
positive outlook full of purpose and meaning.
References
Harris, Sam (2014). Waking Up: A Guide to Spirituality Without Religion. Simon &
Schuster.
Sockolov, Matthew (2018). Practicing Mindfulness: 75 Essential Meditations to Reduce
Stress, Improve Mental Health, and Find Peace in the Everyday. Althea Press.
Smith, Emily Esfahani Smith (2017). The Power of Meaning: Crafting a Life That
Matters. Crown.
Winell, Marlene (2007). Leaving the Fold: A Guide for Former Fundamentalists and
Others Leaving Their Religion. Apocryphile Press.