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Overview

By completing this 30-Day Challenge, you will:

• Get at least 7 phone numbers from new women that you approach and meet.
• Begin dating at least 1 new woman.
• Make new friends.
• Improve your social skills, confidence, conversation skills and ability to approach
women.
• Become more attractive and appealing to women.
• Have sex with a new woman.

Getting Started

We recommend that you listen to 21 Great Ways to Meet Women

before completing this Challenge.

Listen closely to the flirting and conversation examples that we

provide during the 7.5 hours of audio, as they will help you during
the Challenges. Imagine yourself interacting with women in the
ways that we do and picture yourself getting what you want with
women.

Once you have listened to 21 Great Ways to Meet Women, you are then ready to complete
each of the missions in the 30-Day Challenge.

We recommend that you attempt to complete all of Challenges in the required timeframe.
Completing the Challenges quickly ensures that you get maximum results in minimum time.
You will find that many of the Challenges can be worked in and around your daily life.
However, if you are too busy, try to fit in as much as you can – as soon as possible and simply
make it a 60-Day Challenge.

One thing is for sure: The sooner you get dating, the better – I’m sure you’d agree!

Increasing Difficulty of Challenges

The 30-Day Challenge has been set up to start EASY and then become more and more
difficult as you progress.

You’ll notice that you are not required to actually get a phone number until the
10th Day of the Challenge. We’ve set this up purposely to ensure that you build your
confidence and skills gradually, rather than having you potentially fail on Day 1 and then give
up.

By following the path of the Challenge properly, you will end up with at least 7 phone
numbers, 1 date with a new woman and plenty of new friends. Chances are, you might even
have sex with a new woman before the Challenge is over – anything can happen…and it
usually does!

Our best advice on this Challenge is to follow it through and complete it properly. You will be
absolutely amazed at how much your life with women will improve if you do.

6 Advanced Missions

Once you have completed the 30-Day Challenge, you

can then attempt the 6 Advanced Missions.

If you’re quite new to approaching women, you

probably won’t succeed with the Advanced Missions
until you’ve completed the initial Challenges...because
the Advanced Missions are, well – advanced!

Pace yourself, stay on course and follow it through

until the end. If you can promise yourself to do that,
then you will go from Dateless to Dating in 30 Days or
Less.

Good luck and let’s begin!

Cheers
Dan, Ben & Stu
Day 1 – You’ve got style.

The Challenge

Chat to a clothing store assistant, break her out of ‘transaction’ mode and
then find out something personal about her.

Background

When you walk into a clothing store, you will usually be greeted in much the same way every
time, “Hi, how are you doing? Are you looking for something in particular?” ...or a variation
of that.

Women who work in these stores need to be in ‘transaction’ mode with you (i.e. you are a
customer and they are a sales assistant) so they can do their job. It doesn’t mean that the
woman isn’t interested in you - she is just doing her job. Her focus will be on making sure
you purchase something in the store and little else.

To break her out of transaction mode (so you can find out something personal about her,
such as: What she does outside of work, if she went out and partied last weekend, if she has
seen the latest movie), you need to switch her into ‘interaction mode’. Only then will you be
able to have a real conversation with her and find out something personal in order to
complete this first Challenge.

Preparation

This is one of the most BASIC Challenges and simply involves you being relaxed and casual
when it comes to striking up conversations with girls. Once you are able to do this, the
remaining Challenges will become easier and easier and you WILL begin getting ‘end results’
with women (i.e. phone numbers, dates, sex, relationship).

The key to this Challenge is to break the sales assistant out transaction mode and into an
interaction with you.

You are not required to get a phone number. In fact, we recommend that you don’t even try
to get a phone number.
 21 Ways Quotes
Simply use the opportunity to get the ball rolling for yourself as “Approach a girl during a quiet
well as improving your conversation skills and confidence around time of the day...usually before
lunch or after lunch.” Ben
women.
“It’s turning everyday
transactions into friendly,
natural conversations…You need
Remember: This is Day 1 of the Challenge. You are not required to break her out of that
(transaction mode) and
to get a phone number at all. communicate to her that you’re a
friendly guy who she can talk to
on a personal level and not on a
On Day 27 of the Challenge, you will be required to get a phone customer level.” Stu

number in this situation. So, for now, just focus on improving “You need to have playful,
teasing conversation…and avoid
your skills and preparing for all the fun you’ll soon be having hiding the fact that you’re
flirting with her.” Ben
with women.
“You’re being light-
hearted...you’re being
cool...you’re not standing there
Completing the Challenge trying to pick her up.” Dan

• Enter the store with the goal of browsing for at least 10

minutes.
o This may involve you buying a shirt, a pair of
shoes or something similar. However, you
shouldn’t buy something if you don’t want to.
• Take your time and be relaxed.
• Break the assistant out of transaction mode and into an
interaction with you for 30 seconds to 1 minute.
• Find out something personal about her, unrelated to her
work.
• Leave the store.
• Challenge complete!
Day 2 – Yes, Chef!

The Challenge

Sign up to an evening course and get to know at least 50% of the people
(women and men) there. Note: Get this booked in for yourself today and
then move onto Day 3 of the Challenge.

Background

Evening courses present a great way to learn something useful, while also meeting new
people. Women often attend these courses alone, which will make it easier for you (i.e. her
friends won’t be around to slow you down).

There are many courses that you can do for free, or you can pay to learn from specialized
training centers.

Preparation

The internet, your local newspaper or the ‘pin-up boards’ at your local community center will
advertise loads of courses for you to choose from. It shouldn’t take you long to find
something that you’d like to attend.

If you’re cooking isn’t quite up to scratch, then it may be worth while taking a cooking
course. If you’ve got two left feet, then try Latin dancing. Other options include art classes,
massage classes, public speaking, holistic wellbeing (e.g. aromatherapy, herbal medicine) or
any type of learning that will improve your life – just find the one that you’ll enjoy the most.

At the course, introduce yourself to guys and girls. Get to know at least 50% of the people
there. Talking with guys on the course will not only help you potentially make more friends,
but it will also show everyone that you’re not there just to ‘pick up women’.

You will be getting phone numbers and dates later in the Challenge (from Day 10 onwards),
but for now – just focus on being more social, confident and talkative in these environments.
Trust us: It will help you greatly later in the 30-Day Challenge.
Warning: Don’t fall into the trap of going after one girl and spending
all your time and energy trying to talk to her. If you spend too much 21 Ways Quotes
time focusing on her (and ignoring almost everyone else), people will “Find a good balance between
socializing and learning.” Stu
notice your ‘pick up attempt’ and potentially resent you from then on.
“If you can be that guy that
Opt instead to be one of the popular guys – that usually solves comes in and helps relieve the
tension across the board by
everything. helping people connect with each
other ...the influence and
reaction that will have on
Completing the Challenge women will be amazing.” Ben

“You need to take your time…you

need to establish and build a
• Find the right course for you and sign up. relationship.” Dan

• Get to know at least 50% of the people attending the course.

• Talk to the women, without trying to pick them up.
• Help people have a good time and feel comfortable around
each other.
o Do this by being cheerful and positive and by including
people in discussions.
• Attend the full course.
Day 3 – Speedster!

The Challenge

Attend a speed dating event and get at least two ‘Yes’ matches. Note: Get
this booked in for yourself today and then move onto Day 4 of the
Challenge.

Background

Speed dating is the perfect way to put your social skills to the test in a fast paced
environment and get the ball rolling in your dating life.

Speed dating is great if you’re not that good at approaching women yet, because you don’t
actually have to ‘approach’ any women. You just sit down and both of you start talking to
each other.

Another good thing about speed dating is that it speeds up the process of you developing the
advanced, alpha male mindset of “Is this girl good enough for me?” rather than the usual
“Am I good enough to get this girl?” That simple mindset switch will have a dramatic impact
on your self-confidence and results with women...and this Challenge is a great way to start
practicing it!

By the way: A ‘Yes’ match is when both you and the woman select ‘Yes’ about each other, on
your ‘tick sheet’ that is provided. When you hand in your tick sheet, the event organizers will
give you the contact details of the women who said ‘Yes’ to you.

Preparation

Speed dating events can be found in local newspapers and on the internet. Type ‘speed
dating’ and your location into Google. For example: Speed Dating New York. You should get
a good list of results consisting of a mixture of organizations that specialize in speed dating
events and local groups that might be doing one off events to raise money for charity.

The key to success with this Challenge is to stand out from the crowd. This requires you to
demonstrate self-confidence, personality and a good sense of humor. Refer to 21 Great Ways
to Meet Women to hear Dan demonstrate 7 different examples of how to 21 Ways Quotes
start the interactions with women in a confident, funny way. “You want to be giving relaxed
eye contact with a subtle cheeky
smile...” Dan
You must create a good first impression and keep it rolling for the
“The quicker you can make the
entirety of each date (usually 2-5 minutes depending on the size of the girl feel comfortable, generally
the better your success is going
event). to be with women...” Ben

“Avoid the interview questions a

all cost…” Stu
Use what you’ve learnt so far in the first 2 Challenges and work on
keeping the date fun AND light-hearted. Don’t be too serious about it all,
but do approach it seriously. If you take it too seriously, the woman will
smell the ugly odor of desperation and select “No” next to your name.

If you’re not interested in some of the girls, still keep up the fun element
as it will impress the other women and spark their interest in you.

Completing the Challenge

• Research and sign up for a speed-dating event.

• Use the conversation and interaction techniques from ‘21
Great Ways to Meet Women’ to create a great first
impression.
• Ensure that each girl enjoys her date with you.
• Get at least two ‘Yes’ matches.
Day 4 – Computer Genius

The Challenge

Set up an online dating account and get at least one phone number or
date from it, within the next 30 days.

Background

The internet is becoming an increasingly popular place to meet women. While online dating
means that you don’t actually have to ‘approach’ women in the traditional way, don’t be
fooled: It isn’t as easy as ‘click and get a girlfriend’. Online dating still presents its own
obstacles to success (or else EVERYONE would use it and almost no-one would go out).

The trick to succeeding with online dating is to make your profile stand out from the crowd
in a fun and charming way. From there, you need to spark the woman’s interest when you
contact her, so she wants to reply to you.

Preparation

Enter the term ‘dating’ into Google and it will provide you with a lot of different websites.
You need to be selective and take the time to find one that suits you. Try to choose one that
does in some way limit how many women a guy can contact. Why? This ensures that the
woman:

1. Isn’t being bombarded by messages from 1,000s of guys each day.

2. Knows you’re not just contacting every woman on the site.

From our experience, the sites where you have to pay to contact are way more effective
because women aren’t being spammed by 1,000s of guys per day. However, if you can’t
afford it at the moment – just practice on the free sites.

• Set up an attractive account that explains what kind of women you are looking for. Be
light-hearted about it, but the more specific you are about what kind of woman you
want – the better.
• Make sure that your profile includes pictures of you with other people, especially
women.
 21 Ways Quotes
o Never, EVER put up photos of you alone, holding the “Make sure you are really
camera back and taking a photo of yourself. specific on the types of girls you
like because then you’ll increase
o It’s okay to be alone in a photo on holidays, or doing your chances of getting with
those kinds of girls” Ben
something, but not when you have taken the photo
“You don’t want to communicate
yourself. in a feminine way” Ben

• Tailor your contact message based on the girl’s profile so you’re “Put up great pics that show
that you’re a cool, social guy”
not sending some generic message that the girl will have Ben
received a hundred times before.

Completing the Challenge

• Find a suitable dating website.

• Create an attractive profile.
• Contact women using personalized messages to start
conversations.
• Get the woman’s phone number.
o You can simply copy what Ben said in his example in 21
Great Ways to Meet Women.
• Talk to her on the phone.
• Arrange a date.
• Enjoy!
Day 5 – Friendly Competition

The Challenge

Take up a mixed sport and get to know everyone in the team while being a
confident, fun and socially outgoing guy.

Background

Mixed sports present a great opportunity to mingle with new people, improve your fitness
and have fun all at the same time (it also gives you something interesting to talk about if a
woman asks, “So, what have you been up to lately?”)

Like some of the previous Challenges, this will involve researching local sports clubs on the
internet and in local newspapers to find something you’d like to pursue. Most recreational
teams are based at sports centers and so if you contact your local one, they should be able to
give you a list of sports organized there.

Mixed sports that you might consider include: Indoor volleyball, indoor soccer, baseball,
tennis, 10-pin bowling, archery, badminton or fencing.

Preparation

First and foremost, this Challenge is about fun rather than joining a team to beat everyone
else and behave like John McEnroe when you lose. As you may realize, doing so will put
people off you quickly...however, don’t go to the other extreme and act like a goof who can’t
play!

The key is to be competitive, but easy-going at the same time.

Unlike the Challenge on Day 2, this time around you will need to get to know everyone (not
just 50% of the people there) and ensure they are having fun being around you.
Completing the Challenge

21 Ways Quotes
• Find out what mixed sports teams are available in your
area. “Most people join a mixed sports
team in order to meet people.”
• Sign up for the one that interests you the most. Stu

• Introduce yourself to everyone when you first start. “You’re not under pressure to
meet and get a phone number
• Gradually get to know every member of the team on a from a woman in five minutes,
ten minutes, half an
more personal level. hour…you’ve got time on your
side and you can really be
• Lead by example and have fun when you play. relaxed about it and really enjoy
yourself along the way.” Stu
o This will help ensure others have fun and enjoy
your company.
• Play to win, but be light-hearted about it.
• Flirt with the women on the team and in the venue when
you have the chance.
Day 6 – Time for Coffee!

The Challenge

Chat with a waitress in a café.

Background

For this Challenge, the focus is still on being fun and sociable (rather than trying to pick up),
as we return to the ‘woman working at her job’ theme. This time it’s the waitress in a café.

The key to this Challenge is recognizing the difference between a waitress being nice to you
as a customer and being nice to you because she likes you. Learning to distinguish between
the two is one of the many important skills needed to become super successful with women.

Preparation

Like with the clothing store assistant Challenge on Day 1, you will want to go into the café at
a time when it’s not too busy. The waitress is not going to be comfortable have a lengthy chat
with you if there are 10 people behind you waiting to place their order.

When talking to her, make sure that you engage her with an upbeat, lively attitude. If she
responds immediately then you can start chatting, quickly complete the Challenge and then
leave. The goal is to get her feeling comfortable with you as soon as possible and to break her
out of transaction mode (i.e. so she is talking to you as a person, rather than a customer...and
you are talking to her as a person, rather than just a waitress).
Completing the Challenge
21 Ways Quotes
• Engage a café waitress in conversation. “A lot of waitresses will take the
job because they want to meet a
• Break her out of transaction mode. guy, they want to meet people”
Dan
• Make her feel comfortable.
“It’s being cool, being relaxed
• Try to chat for 1-5 minutes, depending how busy the café is. and then helping her get
engaged with and get involved in
the interaction in a fun,
interesting way” Ben

“Just because you’re talking to a

girl and she’s not responding
well, doesn’t necessarily mean
the fault lies with you…A lot of
guys are very quick to blame
themselves…it can be the girl’s
fault” Stu
Day 7 – You’ve Earned a Break!

Take a Day Off

Congratulations on getting this far in the Challenge.

If you’ve been completing the Challenges, then you will feel a big boost in confidence.
Success with women is just around the corner!

Today is your opportunity to take a breather from the Challenges and reflect on what you’ve
achieved so far. Think about what you did well and what could have been done better. If you
have time, go back and listen to 21 Great Ways to Meet Women again and you’ll notice that
you learn new things that you missed the last time you listened.

The Challenges will continue to get more difficult. However, as you keep up with the advice
given, you should find that each additional level of difficulty is actually only a small step up
from the previous one. By the time you reach the end of Day 30 you will be amazed to see
how much improvement you have made with women.

Many of the skills you are now learning can be adapted for use in other scenarios for meeting
women. In fact, you will NEED the skills when you attempt the Freestyle advanced mission
after completing the 30-Day Challenge.

For now it’s back to the Challenges and we’re heading to the gym!
Day 8 – Iron Man

The Challenge

Sign up to a gym and start building relationships with women and making
new friends with the guys there.

Background

While its main purpose is for fitness and muscle-building, most people are surprised to learn
that the gym can actually be a very social place. Once you know ‘the rules’ of how to interact
with women in the gym, it can also be a great place to get more dates.

Preparation

If you are joining a gym, take advantage of an introductory session with an instructor to help
you set up a regime. He or she will also let you in on the culture of the place, so you know
what people are like there.

It’s important you start building your social status in this new place quickly. The best way is
to take the time to get to know the staff so that woman can see you’re confident, fun and
sociable before you even approach them.

A lot of people maintain a routine around their gym workouts, going at the same time each
week. Take advantage of this and get to know different women over the course of a few weeks
by going at the times they do (if you can).

You are not required to get a phone number yet. This will happen from Day 10 of the
Challenge onwards. However, if you hit it off with a woman at the gym – go ahead and get
her number.
Completing the Challenge 21 Ways Quotes
“You need to have very short
• Sign up to a gym. interactions with her
initially…and you’ve just got to
• Get to know at least two of the gym staff. throw these in at particular
occasions when you’re walking
• Begin chatting with at least three women on a regular basis. around the gym.” Ben

“Don’t try to criticize their

technique in any way…keep it
very playful and the things I’d
talk about would generally be
things from outside the gym.”
Stu
Day 9 – Extend Your Social Circle

The Challenge

Invite some friends out and encourage them to bring other people with
them.

Background

What you invite people out to do is completely up to you in this Challenge but examples
might be:

- Go out to a great bar and have some drinks.

- Have a BBQ at your house or one of your friend’s houses
- Go to a comedy club.
- Go to a sports event.

If you’re running low on people to invite, try inviting people you’ve met at the previous
Challenges. From our experience, most people are interested in meeting new people and
doing fun things, but are simply shy (yes – even the ones you think are confident), so it may
take a little push to get them to come along.

Preparation

The goal of this Challenge is to meet new people - especially women – through your existing
social network. Completing this Challenge now will help you on Day 24 of the Challenge
when you organize a house party.

If you meet a woman that you find attractive at this outing, don’t hone in on her and spend
the whole day/evening chatting to her. Make sure you spend time chatting with all your
friends. The ability to maintain friendships is very attractive to women and will reflect better
on you. If there is a woman at the event (who is outside your group) talk to her, but don’t
forget about your friends.
Completing the Challenge 21 Ways Quotes
“Show an interest in
• Invite your friends out somewhere. everyone…look involved while a
conversation is going on.” Stu
• Encourage them to bring friends and people they know.
“One of the best social skills to
• Chat with as many people as you can. develop is to take a genuine
interest in other people. If you
• Arrange to meet some of the new people you’ve met again. can do that, it’s mostly done for
you.”Dan
o You may want to mention that you’ll be having a
“One of the most unattractive
house party soon. (It’s on Day 24 of the 30-Day qualities is a guy who speaks
and expects everyone else to
Challenge). listen and then, when it’s his turn
to listen, just switches off.” Ben

“Nobody wants to go and talk to

the guy who’s sitting alone and
waiting for people to come and
talk to him” Stu
Day 10 – A Good Book

The Challenge

Strike up a conversation with a woman in a bookstore and get her phone

number.

Background

This is a slightly different Challenge to those you have completed so far. While women are
quite likely to be approached in a bar, it is fairly unusual for a guy to approach in a
bookstore.

This is also the first Challenge in which the goal is to get a phone number. It is of course
likely though that through the first 9 Challenges you may have already gotten a phone
number. Either way, you deserve a big congratulations for getting this far!

Note: No matter how good a guy is with women, he often needs to approach several women
in a bookstore environment before he gets a phone number. Don’t see that as a rejection,
because it’s not – it’s normal…not every woman will be single and looking.

Put it this way: If you can get a phone number in a bookstore, you are GUARANTEED to get
a phone number in a bar, or at a house party. So, go ahead and test your skills with this
Challenge. It’s an amazing feeling to just start talking to women in this environment, even
though everyone else is just keeping to themselves (out of shyness, fear and social
conditioning).

Preparation

To calm your nerves, go to the bookstore with a few books in mind that you want to check
out. That will give you something to do while casually looking around for some women to
chat to.

Once you see a woman that you find attractive, just casually walk over and start a
conversation with her. Make sure you don’t approach and stand directly in front of her, or
face her completely when you start the conversation. You want to 21 Ways Quotes
have more distanced body language until she opens up, otherwise it “The reality is that it does not
matter how good you are with
will be too confronting in this environment. women, if you approach a
woman in a bookstore, many a
time, they will sort of freak
out…people don’t usually talk to
Try some of the tested conversation starters discussed in 21 Ways,
each other in that
such as, “Hey, I was just walking past to check out the environment…you just need to
understand that going in.” Dan
__________ section and saw you and thought – stuff the books
“You just need to be able to be
for a second, I’m going to come over and say hi, I’m __________ comfortable, stand there, be
relaxed and continue.” Dan
what’s your name?”
“The best approach is to be
honest, slightly playful and
chilled out. As opposed to being
Completing the Challenge
intense and high energy.” Dan

“In that situation, you do need to

• Casually walk over to a woman in a bookstore. move things forward a lot
quicker…take a risk; give it a go”
• Strike up a short conversation with her in a casual, relaxed Dan

and slightly playful way.

• Either invite her to join you for coffee in the bookstore café,
or get her phone number and leave.
Day 11 – Bus Tour

The Challenge

Organize a bus tour with friends that will happen within the next couple of
months.

Background

In 21 Great Ways to Meet Women, we talked specifically about a winery tour but you can use
the techniques we discussed on any bus tour.

Bus tours are usually associated with fun as they’re an opportunity to hang out with friends,
go to new places and meet new people. You’re all going to do something fun and can enjoy
each other’s company on the way there and back.

Preparation

Again, trusty old Google will help you find what you need here. Type in things like ‘Bus tours’
or ‘fun bus tours’ followed by your location.

You’ll find that there will be things like: Interstate tours, trips to theme parks, national parks
and reserves, sightseeing tours, wineries, breweries, distilleries, historical places, haunted
houses, pub crawls and fun places to go.

Come up with a list and then get friends involved in choosing which one to do. On the way
there, make sure everyone is having fun without overdoing it. Vary your conversations
between something everyone can have a good laugh about and normal conversations. Take
the opportunity to find out what everyone’s been up to.

At the destination, take an interest in what you’ve come to see/do.

Note: Usually you will get some single girls attending the tour at the same time, but you
should definitely rally some up just in case. Use Dan’s trusty method: When out meeting
women in bars, mention the upcoming event and inviting them along. Then, get their e-mail
or Facebook details to invite them later.
Completing the Challenge
21 Ways Quotes

• Organize a bus tour for your friends. “On the bus, get everyone talking
• Get each of your friends to invite as many people as they can. to each other. Include people
who are being left out.” Dan
• Ensure that plenty of women will be on the tour.
“On the way home, don’t refine
• Lead the way by being in a fun, positive mood on the trip. yourself to one seat…so move
around…get the phone number
• Let the sexual tension build while on the trip between yourself when you’re nearing the drop off
point at the end of the day.” Dan
and a woman you like.
• Move things to a physical level with a woman, or just get her
phone number.
Day 12 – Strangers on a Train

The Challenge

Sit next to a woman on the train (or on some other form of public transport)
and start a fun conversation with her.

Background

People often comment on the bizarre social situation that exists on public transport; almost
everyone avoids talking and making eye-contact with each other.

You’ve probably been in a situation where you’ve seen an attractive woman on public
transport, but felt unable to chat to her because of the ‘social pressure’ you felt in this
situation. This Challenge is about breaking through and being one of the rare guys who can
charm women in this interesting situation.

Preparation

This Challenge requires a more delicate approach than usual, because most women don’t feel
comfortable talking to people on public transport. It’s best done by using a newspaper and
pointing out a funny article to the woman you’re sitting next to.

Newspapers often have a good fluff piece of news which you can laugh about with a total
stranger. Something stupid that someone has done, something funny or best of all something
interesting a celebrity has done.

To succeed with this Challenge, you need to be relaxed and casual. Enjoy the tension that will
exist in the air, rather than getting freaked out about it. This is one of the times where you
need to let the conversation progress slowly, in between pauses and silences. Coming on too
strong will freak a lot of women out, because – yes – they too feel anxiety and social pressure
in these situations.

You may also need to ‘acknowledge the obstacle’ when talking to her. For example: Casually
and light-heartedly acknowledge the fact that most people don’t talk to each other on public
transport, because it can be a pretty tense environment.
Completing the Challenge 21 Ways Quotes

“When you’re sitting next to a

• Sit next to an attractive woman on public transport. girl, you’re both neutral, you’re
both facing forward, you’re not
• Use a prop to start up a conversation. actually facing her so it’s a very
relaxed, comfortable position to
• Acknowledged the obstacle. start a conversation with
her.”Ben
• Have a relaxed, but playful conversation with her over the
course of your journey. “You need to be relaxed…you
don’t want to be leaning into her
• Get her phone number about 1 stop before you have to get too much; you don’t want to be
fidgeting.” Dan
off.
“Don’t see silences as awkward
silences, they’re just what has to
happen in those situations.” Dan
Day 13 – Let’s Talk Shop

The Challenge

Approach and chat to 3 different women in a shopping mall, over the course
of 1 hour. Note: We’ve set this time limit to get you to take action quickly.
You should time yourself and get right into it.

Background

Continuing along the theme of meeting women in places ‘outside the norm’, let’s go into a
major shopping mall near you.

Beautiful women walk around shopping malls all the time. Usually they are alone and have
never (or rarely) been approached in this environment. When approached in shopping malls,
most women are flattered by the attention – as long as you do it right.

Shopping malls are a great way to meet women, but most guys don’t know how to do it – so
today you will be embarking on a journey that most men fear and avoid. As you will discover,
it can be a lot of fun and can lead to getting phone numbers quickly and easily.

Preparation

The 3 most important things to remember when undertaking this Challenge are:

1. How you conduct yourself in terms of body language.

- Be confident, relaxed and open.

- Smile, make relaxed eye contact.
- Don’t dart your eyes around.
- Don’t look apologetic for approaching.

2. Acknowledging the obstacle’.

 - Light-heartedly mention that you realize most people
don’t talk to each other in these environments, but you
thought you would stop for a moment and say hi.
3. Putting the woman at ease.
21 Ways Quotes
“By acknowledging the
obstacle…it helps set her mind at
ease, it helps set your own mind
at ease and it does demonstrate
a lot of social intelligence.” Ben

“Avoid being too intense and

- You need to make each woman feel at ease and to do serious…I’d be very relaxed, laid
back, light-hearted and happy”
this you need to be casual, confident and relaxed. Stu

- Like in the bookstore Challenge, some women simply

won’t be confident and relaxed enough to talk to you.
Don’t take it as a rejection – just talk to the next
woman.

Completing the Challenge

• Approach 3 different women in the shopping mall, over the

course of 1 hour.
• Light-heartedly acknowledge the obstacle in each case.
• Engage each woman in a brief, interesting conversation.
• Invite at least one to get some coffee or juice with you right
then and there.
Day 14 – Challenged Yet?

Take a Day Off

Now that you’re almost halfway through the 30 Day Challenge, it’s time to
take another break and reflect on what you’ve learnt and how you can do
things better.

So far, you should have seen the following improvements in yourself:

- Becoming better at making conversation with random women.

- Displaying more confident, relaxed and attractive body language.
- Increasing self-confidence and feelings of control over this area of your life.

You may have also:

- Gotten a phone number or two

- Had fun in some new places and situations.
- Made some new friends.

At this point we recommend going back and having another listen to 21 Great Ways to Meet
Women. You will find that you sometimes hear what we say in a completely different way.
New meanings will emerge from some of the passing comments we made in the recording.

As you listen, pay attention and give yourself a ‘pat on the back’ when you come across things
that you’ve done right. When you come across things that need improving, give yourself
another pat on the back and use a bridging mindset like, “This is great! I’m getting better and
better at this. I know what I need to improve and I know how to do it!”
Day 15 – Half Way There

Take Another Day Off

The upcoming Days in the Challenge are going to be a lot of fun – you’ll be
going to a bar, a party, finding out how to take advantage of your lunch
break and increasing your popularity at work (or university).

You’ll be getting more dates and will soon need to invest in a diary to keep track of your
social life.

However, even the most sociable guys need time to get their laundry done and pay their
electricity bills. So, take a break today then get back into the 30-Day Challenge tomorrow.
You’ll be Mr. Popular in two weeks time.
Day 16 – Everyone Likes Lunch

The Challenge

Get to know everyone in the shop where you buy lunch (or some other cheap
item) regularly.

Background

No doubt, you buy lunch or food at the same places every now and then (possibly even
daily)…but do you take advantage of this seemingly mundane task as a way to meet women?

Like most of the ways of meeting women that you’re learning about, most guys don’t take
advantage of the opportunity. This means there is less (or often NO) competition for the girl
from other guys, which makes it so much easier.

It’s a good time when you walk away from a store with some food and a phone number. It’s
an even better time when she comes over to your place and cooks some dinner with you on
your 2nd date. But, we’re getting ahead of ourselves here! Let’s prepare for this Challenge and
make sure you succeed…

Preparation

This Challenge will involve separating yourself out from the crowd in a shop that may see
100’s of customers each day. By doing so, you’ll have the opportunity to get a phone number
from a woman who works there, or from a customer. Customers will see you interacting with
the staff and will be much more open to talking to you after that.

Whichever way you go with it, this is about building relationships with the staff over the
course of 2 to 3 weeks. You don’t have to go and buy your lunch there every day but two or
three times a week would be good. Each time, aim to strike up a conversation, make an
impression and find out something personal about the staff (or share something personal
about yourself).
That way, on a subsequent visit, you can enter with something along
21 Ways Quotes
the lines of ‘Hey Mary, how’s the marathon training coming?’ or “Hey
Mary, I bombed out on the marathon – I only ran half off it…how was
“You want to try and time it so
your weekend?” you’re buying lunch after the
rush.” Ben

“Girls look for approval from

This can have a tremendous effect as it shows that you’re capable of their peer group to a great
taking an interest in other people and that you have a life of your extent…she’ll want her peer
group to approve of you as
own. Make a point of remembering a woman’s name and using it (we well…you need to talk to her
friends on the same level so they
can’t stress the importance of this enough). develop respect for you as well.”
Stu

“Choose your moments to

Completing the Challenge interact but make sure you do
build rapport and connect with
these girls over a period of time.”
• Start buying lunch (or some cheap item) from a shop on a Ben

regular basis.
• Get to know all the staff there on a personal level.
• Try to have longer conversations (1-2 minutes) with the
women who work there when it’s not busy.
• Chat to female customers that are open to talking to you.
• Eventually get a phone number from one of the women
working at the store. Or, from a female customer.
Day 17 – Cocktail

The Challenge

Chat with a female bartender. Break her out of transaction mode and into
an interaction. Get her phone number.

Background

Bartenders are in the centre of the social world when working in popular clubs and bars, so
getting their attention tends to be more difficult than in other scenarios. However, you have
already practiced ‘Transaction/Interaction’ in previous Challenges, so this shouldn’t be too
difficult for you now.

Dan worked in the hospitality industry for a number of years in his early 20’s. He discovered
that a lot of women get jobs in this industry to meet people. Many of the women he worked
with, although beautiful, were often lonely and looking for a boyfriend.

Preparation

In this Challenge, you have to stand out from other guys who hit on her in pretty much the
SAME way every time, “Hey, can I get a beer…and you’re phone number?” or “Hey, you’re
beautiful…do you have a boyfriend?”

It almost never works.

Your approach will be radically different, so you’ll have a lot more chance of getting her into
a conversation over the course of the night, building up the sexual tension and then getting a
number.

This Challenge also represents a good opportunity to hang out with some friends (and invite
some of your new friends that you met while doing previous Challenges) and have a good
time. Female bartenders pay attention to how you behave around your friends, so focus on
being the confident, cool guy that you are and everything will be fine.
Completing the Challenge
21 Ways Quotes

• Make a great first impression with a female bartender.

“If you can establish a unique
• Break her out of transaction mode. connection, you’ll be able to
develop a relationship between
• Build sexual tension through flirting. you a lot quicker.” Stu

• Find out her name. Tell her yours. “Have fun with the girl behind
the bar but don’t take up her
• Use her name the next time you order a drink. time…Interactions with her are
going to be 15-20 seconds tops.”
• If she’s showing lots of signs of interest, call her aside and get Stu
her number.
o If she’s too busy, come back during a quieter time on
another night, chat to her and then get her number.
• You may even want to invite her to your upcoming house
party.
Day 18 –9 o’clock Lecture (or “Relax it’s Friday!”)

The Challenge

If you’re a university student: Get to know a girl in your class and get her
number after a maximum of 3 lectures.

If you’re not a university student: Invite your work colleagues out for a drink after work and
get to know one of the women you find attractive and get her phone number (or get her to set
you up with a female friend of hers).

Note: The work example is totally your call. If you think it will get you in trouble, you can
skip this one.

Background

University is an easy way to meet women. You basically just need to build your social status,
talk to women and move things forward.

If you’re doing this Challenge at work, then you need to ensure that dating a colleague is
acceptable. If it’s not, try getting one of your female colleagues to set you up with one of her
friends.

Preparation

In the Challenge, you will be using the group-interaction skills that you’ve been honing in
previous Challenges. You should be feeling a lot more confident and socially outgoing in
these situations.

Lecture theatre: Don’t overdo it and start chatting to the girl constantly as you’ll interrupt
the lecture and probably come off as quite needy. Use short interactions over the course of
the lectures.

After work drinks: Keep in mind that you want to be engaging with everyone. It will look
weird to your colleagues if it seems that you’ve just invited them out so you could hit on one
girl.
Completing the Challenge

University Student 21 Ways Quotes

• Start chatting to a girl in one of your lectures. “It’s important to not single out
one girl particularly on, it’s very
• Get to know her over the course of 2-3 lectures. important to socialize with other
people.” Stu
• Get her phone number.
• Invite her to catch up with you outside of the university. “A few harmless little quiet,
quick interactions can be fun.”
Stu

Non-University student “There’s already a little bit you

have in common…more than a
stranger off the street.” Stu

• Invite your colleagues out for a drink after work. “I would definitely avoid talking
about work.” Stu
• Chat with all of them.
• Get the phone number of a colleague you particularly like, or
get her to set you up with one of her friends.
Day 19 –Life of the Party

The Challenge

Attend a party and try and drum up the sexual tension between you and a
woman with as little direct contact as possible.

Background

Along with bars, parties are the most traditional of testing grounds for your social skills. In
this Challenge you are going to do better than you’ve ever done before and use what you’ve
learnt so far to drum up sexual tension between yourself and a girl. You need to make her
want to be with you with as little direct contact as possible.

Preparation

Once you arrive at the party, you first want to touch base with the people you know by seeing
what they’ve been up to and how they’re doing. If you don’t know anyone, look around for
people who aren’t really chatting and go over and introduce yourself to them. Mention how
you know the host of the party and ask how they know him/her.

As soon as you see a woman you find attractive, your goal is to interact with her in a series of
short chats over the course of the night, which include some flirting and humor from you.
The impression you want to create in her mind is that you’re a fun, confident, sociable guy
who is going to be a challenge for her to get.

Between interactions with the woman you want to be chatting with your friends and – most
importantly - other women. Every now and then you can glance over and see what she’s up
to.

As the night goes on the sexual tension should build and build until something happens and
you’ll have a relatively easy chance to get her phone number or, perhaps, take it even further
that same night. That part is up to you.
Completing the Challenge
21 Ways Quotes
• Attend a party.
“Take an active interest in quite
• Meet up with people who you know and chat with them. a few people there that you
actually don’t know.” Ben
• Start an initial interaction with a woman you like.
“You are part of the party there
• Have several short interactions with her over the course of and you’ve got to accept that and
get involved.” Dan
the night, while also chatting with friends and other women.
“It’s important not to become a
• Build up the sexual tension through flirting.
spectator…you slow the party
• Get her phone number at the end of the night (or take things down and people have to go out
of their way…to come and talk to
to a sexual level). you.” Stu

“Throughout interacting with

her you will get some of the
details about her, about her life
and share some of the unique
things about you, so you can
actually have a small connection
there which can serve as a basis
for moving things forward later
in the party” Ben
Day 20 – Make New Friends in New Places

The Challenge

Arrange to go on a short holiday by yourself, or with a couple of friends to

build relationships in a new place.

Background

This can be a short weekend away or a week off to a neighboring country to party or trek
around – it’s up to you and your budget. Like with the cultural event Challenge later on, the
goal is to meet women in a scenario you might not be used to.

As well as providing a new place to meet women, this Challenge also gives you the
opportunity to have some adventures and have interesting things to talk about when chatting
to the new people in your rapidly increasing social network.

Preparation

Obviously it takes time to book a holiday so to complete this Challenge you only need to book
the holiday, but bear in mind that you do still have to do all the other parts listed below.

The aim of this Challenge is to get you making new friends in new places, as well as having
sex with women you meet. When women are on holidays, they are more open to having sex
on the first day/night they meet you – so go somewhere where there will be tourists.

One of the main things you should do on this holiday is ensure that you turn as many
transactions into interactions as possible. That means talking and having interactions with
every receptionist, waitress, store assistant, hotel clerk. You will be surprised at how it often
leads to you partying or meeting up with the women working in these jobs.
Completing the Challenge 21 Ways Quotes

“People in general and

• Book in a short holiday for yourself, or with a few friends. especially women are in a
different frame of mind when
• Go to a tourist destination, so you will meet women who are they go on holidays.” Ben
more open to casual sex.
“It doesn’t really get any easier
• Use your social skills to meet lots of new people and have a to start a conversation than
talking about the holiday that
great time. you’re on.” Ben

• Turn as many transactions into interactions as possible. “You don’t really have the luxury
of getting a phone number…and
• Meet and get to know at least 2 people who you will contact going through that whole
process…You can’t get lazy with
when you get back home. the situation, you do need to
move things forward.” Ben
Day 21 – Take Stock

Day Off

Well done on making it through the first 21 Days of the Challenge. You’ll
now be getting into your stride when it comes to chatting with women, and
you will no doubt have noticed that it’s getting easier and easier.

This will stand you in good stead as you continue through the 30 Day Challenge, because the
final part is the hardest. Continuing to take small steps in line with this Challenge will get
you success far quicker than trying to do too much and falling on your face.

Take stock today and count:

- How many women you’ve chatted to.

- How many women you’ve approached on your own.
- How many phone numbers you could have got.
- How many phone numbers you actually got.
- How many dates you’ve been on.
- How many kisses you’ve got.
- How many new women you’ve had sex with.
Day 22 – Hi, Can I Help You?

The Challenge

Make an attractive first impression with 3 receptionists in different places

and break them out of ‘transaction’ mode on each occasion.

Background

Have you ever sat in a reception room waiting for a meeting or an appointment and wished
you could go and start flirting with the receptionist?

Well, in this Challenge you’re not just going to do it once, but 3 times! After this Challenge
you’ll never have to sit there wishing you would do something, because you’ll know how to
make the right impression and get chatting.

Note: If you don’t find the receptionist attractive, we recommend that you still use it as an
opportunity to practice your skills and see if you can make her attracted to you. Then, just
enjoy the special treatment she gives you from then on.

Preparation

This is another example of a scenario where you need to get the girl to see you as a fun guy
rather than just a customer. By now you should have developed some different ways of doing
this and know a bit about which approach works better.

The point of this Challenge is to introduce variety – try a different approach with each
receptionist and see where your skills need improving, what works for you and what doesn’t
work for you.
Completing the Challenge
21 Ways Quotes

• Created a strong first impression with a receptionist. “Not all receptionists can stand
there chatting to a customer who
• Engage her in a fun, relaxed conversation. is chatting them up – you’ve got
to be careful that you’re not
• Get her to start flirting with you, instead of just treating you going to get her in trouble.” Dan
like a customer. “Use transaction-
• Repeat all of the above with 2 more receptionists. interaction…You also want to
make sure that you’re being
attractive.” Dan

“With the receptionist you can

be playfully demanding…it sets
up the right dynamic between
you and her.” Ben
Day 23 – Coffee Addict

The Challenge

Get chatting with a waitress in a café and get her phone number.

Background

This is really the follow up to the Challenge on Day 6 and continues your streak of getting
phone numbers in places ‘outside the norm’. By now you’ve got at least 2 phone numbers,
but if all the Challenges have gone well you will have gotten more.

Once you’ve completed the 30-Day Challenge, you’ll find that the skills you’ve developed
along the way will allow you to enjoy every month of the year just as much as this one. Your
social life will certainly never be the same again and you’ll find one key difference is that
when someone asks you whether you’re available on a particular day, you won’t be lying
when you say you have to check your diary.

Now it’s time to get that 3rd phone number (if not the 10th!).

Preparation

Take a look back at the Challenge on Day 6 to refresh your memory of how you went about
chatting to the waitress. Done?

The focus today is on following through and getting her phone number. Remember to be
discreet; you don’t want to get the girl into trouble with her boss for spending more time
socializing than serving coffee.

There are plenty of napkins in the café so the girl can write her number down on one without
it being too obvious. If you want to help her out, try making it look like you’re ordering
something so she could just be taking an order to anyone observing her. Just make sure that
you’re ordering something to go, because you don’t want to get her number and then
continue to sit in the café – it’ll make things awkward.
Completing the Challenge
21 Ways Quotes

• Engage a waitress in conversation.

“Women tend to respond to guys
• Break her out of ‘waitress to customer’ mode. that are a little bit demanding
and a little bit difficult in a fun
• Make her feel comfortable by being comfortable yourself. way.” Ben

• Chat for at least five minutes, depending how busy the café is. “One of the reasons that women
are attracted to guys who are a
• Discreetly get her phone number so you can arrange to meet little more demanding…is that it
can translate into the guy’s
elsewhere. ability and behavior in the
bedroom.” Dan
Day 24 – Party Time!

The Challenge

Arrange a house party for all of your friends (new and old) and spend the
time making sure everyone has a great time.

Background

Everyone enjoys a good house party and these days there aren’t enough of them being held.
If you can be the guy who has great house parties, you’ll have a waiting list of people wanting
to be your friend and you’ll have women offering themselves to you.

At this party, you’re the host. In the previous 23 days of the 30-Day Challenge, you’ve met
lots of great new people so now it’s time to invite them all over for some fun. Remember to
invite all of your friends from before you started the 30-Day Challenge.

Preparation

When organizing the party, take care of these essentials:

1. Arrange the party at a time when you’ll get a good turnout, like a Friday or Saturday
night.
2. Invite your neighbors so there won’t be anyone to complain about the noise.
3. Tidy your place up.
4. Stock up your fridge with a few drinks and a bit of finger food if you can afford it.
5. Get a good mix of music to play and have someone take care of making sure music is
playing all night.

The goal of this Challenge is to get you circulating, chatting to everyone and getting everyone
involved. By the end of the night, you will be reaping the benefits as your increased social
status will draw women to you. Take advantage and be sure to build up some sexual tension
with attractive women during the night.
Completing the Challenge
21 Ways Quotes

• Invite all your new and old friends over for a party. “In a house party
environment…it’s a lot more
• Set the party up for a good night. relaxed and you can take more
time to get to know each other.”
• Ensure that you speak to everyone properly throughout the Dan
night. “Share yourself around amongst
the group of people.” Ben
• Ensure that everyone is having a great time.
• Getting a phone number, kiss or sex is optional during this
Challenge.
Day 25 – Let’s Talk

The Challenge

If you’re a university student: Become an active member of your tutorial

group and involve 3 people into the discussion who usually keep quiet.

If you’re not a university student: Start up a discussion at work and get everybody involved,
including the people who usually keep quiet.

Background

A significant portion of your time each day is spent at work or, if you are a student, in
lectures and tutorials. You should therefore be making use of this time to further your social
development and to meet more women.

Starting discussions in the office or in a tutorial is obviously something that everyone does,
but bringing other people into the conversation is something few people do. Not only will it
win you new friends and allies, but women will be impressed by your leadership ability.

Preparation

Establishing relationships with people in your work or study environments is one of the most
important things you’ll ever work on to become more successful in life.

Make a list of the people you interact with on a regular basis and decide that you will put in
20% more effort to getting to know them better. Decide also to take an active interest in who
they are, without expecting anything else in return.
Completing the Challenge
21 Ways Quotes

• Engage a number of people in your work/study environment

“If you’re sitting in the corner
in a lively, fun and interesting discussion. not talking, not being involved,
then you become an outsider.”
• Involve at least 3 people who would not have otherwise Stu

contributed to the discussion. “Be the guy who’s not afraid to

have people’s attention on him
• Put in 20% more effort getting to know people that you see or because he wants to contribute
something to the group.” Stu
have the chance to interact with on a regular basis.
Day 26 – Cultured? Sure, I’m Cultured...

The Challenge

Attend a local cultural event and spend 20 to 60 minutes with a woman

there. Get her number.

Background

Events celebrating people’s cultures are popular the world over and are a great place to meet
women. This Challenge involves you going to an event that you might not have gone to
otherwise and meeting women of a particular culture.

What kind of event you go to is up to you but for the sake of this Challenge - the bigger, the
better. To find out what’s on in your area it’s back to the local newspapers, Google or just
adverts around your town. Once you’ve found one you like, it’s time to get on with the
Challenge.

Preparation

These events are all about being social and learning about other cultures, so your main focus
on the day is to be interested in what is going on/being displayed.

Use this opportunity to find out a few things you didn’t know, while also meeting a new
woman or two. Once you’ve found a woman and started chatting to her, take her with you to
explore the rest of the event.

In a way you’re taking her on a ‘mini-date’ that starts immediately, so this tends to help
things move forward a lot faster. When it’s time to leave at the end of the day, you’ll have
spent enough time with her that getting her phone number will be almost a certainty because
she will feel comfortable around you. Remember to keep it relaxed and like it’s no big deal
when you get the number.

If possible, continue the date after the event by going somewhere relaxing nearby (e.g. a
nearby café for a coffee, or a restaurant for a bite to eat).
Completing the Challenge
21 Ways Quotes

• Find a cultural event to attend.

“Immediately there’s something
• Go to the event alone or with a friend. in common; you’re both there
…to learn a little bit more about
• Start chatting with a woman you find attractive. the culture of whichever country
you’re looking at; simply chat
• Explore the rest of the event with her, for about 20 to 60 and expand on that.” Ben

minutes. “Find out what cool things will

be happening on the day…if you
• Get her phone number. do meet some women, then you
can lead the way.” Dan
o Or, progress to a nearby café or restaurant when you’ve
“Talk about cool things you’ve
both had enough of the event. seen at the event and ask the
woman what she’s liked the
most.” Dan
Day 27 – Shop ‘til They Drop

The Challenge

Get a clothing store assistant’s phone number.

Background

You’re on the home straight now! Today, we come full circle and return back to where we
started – in a clothing store! The women in these places are often beautiful and open to
dating, so get ready to move things forward to a phone number.

By now you will have achieved many new things with women. After completing this
Challenge, you’ll notice how much you’ve improved since Day 1.

Preparation

The same things are needed for this Challenge as were needed for the Challenge on Day 1.
The only change is that we’ve moved the goalposts to match your improved skills with
women.

You’ll need to be discreet about getting her phone number, so make sure you listen to the
section on meeting women in clothing stores in ’21 Great Ways to Meet Women’ to hear what
to say.

You may need to approach a few women in different stores today. Not because you’ll get
rejected, but due to the fact that not all women are single. However, if you want to date, have
sex and enjoy a relationship with hot women like these – you need to actually meet them!

You’re doing so well with this Challenge. Don’t let yourself down today. Some of the hottest
women are in these stores…and many of them just need a few minutes of conversation before
they hand over their number!
Completing the Challenge
21 Ways Quotes

• Enter the store with the goal of browsing for at least 10 “She had a couple of work
friends that were in hearing
minutes. distance… and it just put her on
the spot and she felt awkward.
o This may involve you buying a shirt, a pair of shoes or Needless to say I didn’t get the
phone number” – This shows the
something similar. However, you shouldn’t buy importance of being discreet and
being aware that she may have a
something if you don’t want to. manager or colleague there
when you’re trying to get the
• Take your time and be relaxed. number.”Ben
o We sometimes spend 30 minutes or more in the store to
“You can get the phone
get a phone number. So be prepared to do some serious number…by getting her to flip
over the receipt and doing it or if
browsing. you do get a quiet moment with
her…you can pull her aside and
• Break the assistant out of transaction mode and into an ask her what the number
is…you’ll have to experiment to
interaction with you. see which one works the best.”
Ben
• Chat with her for a few minutes.
“Find out her name and use her
o If she is busy in the store, keep browsing and have name.” Dan
‘mini-conversations’ with her when she’s not busy.
o If she isn’t busy, try to stand there and talk to her as
long as possible.
• Find out something personal about her, unrelated to her work.
• Share something personal about you (e.g. what you’ve been up
to lately).
• Get her phone number.
• Leave the store.
• Challenge complete!
Day 28 – The Last Break

Take a Day Off

Take this Day off to prepare for the 2 most difficult Challenges.

With all the experience you have gained over the last 27 days, it should feel
like a natural progression for you to take things to this level. You’ll soon have the complete
set of skills required to meet women and get their phone numbers in any scenario.

You have now amassed a number of new friends, phone numbers and possibly dates with
women you really like. As a result of completing the first 28 Days of the 30-Day Challenge,
you will have reached the standard of a guy who is confident with women and can get a
phone number from a woman most of the time.

From here, it’s about being better than the rest – finish the Challenge and you will have your
pick of women from here on in your life. There simply won’t be any more asking yourself
“Am I good enough?”

Who knows what will happen when you have the skills to get a woman’s phone number
anywhere and at anytime? Complete the last two Challenges and you’ll have the opportunity
to find out. Quit now and you’ll miss out on the level of success that entitles you to the best
women, whatever they are to you.
Day 29 – Wild Thing

The Challenge

React to a girl as you’re driving along and strike up a conversation.

Background

This Challenge adds to the skills you’ve developed for meeting a woman in a shopping mall.
The only difference is that you’re sitting down and have a few motoring laws to be aware of!

This Challenge will also improve your ability to act on instinct, which is a key trait of alpha
males.

Preparation

This Challenge can open your life up to a whole new way of meeting women. At the very
least, you will get a few smiles and laughs from women, who feel flattered by the attention.

The trick is to not come across as though you’re yelling out obscenities from your car
window, like a lot of young guys do for fun sometimes. It’s about seeing women you’re
attracted to, then starting an interaction with them in a very unusual way. When done right,
the woman will feel as though her life is like a romantic movie.

The best way to do it is how Ben explains in 21 Ways. Variations of this include an approach
where you see her, make eye contact, smile and wave and then drive off slightly. Then, put
the car in reverse and roll back with your window down.

Then, use one of the conversation starters provided in 21 Ways for this specific way of
meeting women. For example, “Look, I know this is really, really random…but, I just had to
stop and say hi…my name’s __________ - how are you going?”

This Challenge is designed to be done on a quiet road, or a car park.

Remember: You are demonstrating a great deal of self-confidence just
21 Ways Quotes
by carrying out the Challenge so you don’t need to overdo it. Just be
cool and upbeat and engage her in a quick interaction. “It’s a matter of seeing your
opportunity to do something like
this and taking advantage of it.”
Ben
Completing the Challenge
“For this to work, you need to
drive past the girl, stop, and
reverse back….it was actually
• Drive past an attractive woman. quite funny, it wasn’t stalker-
like.” Ben
• Make eye contact, smile and wave.
“You need to acknowledge the
• Reverse back to talk to her. obstacle when you’re talking to
her almost immediately.” Ben
• Acknowledge the obstacle.
• Strike up a conversation that last no more than 2-3 minutes.
• Explain that it’s time for you to be on your way.
• Optional: Get her phone number.
Day 30 – The Final Challenge

The Challenge

Go to a strip club and get a stripper’s phone number.

Background

To someone who hasn’t gone through the Challenges you’ve completed, getting a stripper’s
phone number will seem almost impossible. However, this is not how you are thinking – you
have got phone numbers off a host of different women, chatted to even more and you now
have the self-confidence to pull it off.

Strippers have to put up with guys acting in all kind of ways to impress them, so they are
wary about giving out their phone numbers to guys who secretly see them as a ‘big score’.
Like you’ve done in many of the previous Challenges, you need to break the woman out of
transaction mode and get her into interaction mode.

Preparation

The key to this Challenge is showing that you’re different from all the other guys who go into
the strip club to get cheap thrills. This means no touching and no paying for lap dances. Both
of these actions will solidify your image as a customer in the girl’s mind, which is the
guaranteed path to not getting her phone number.

Going to the strip club with some of your mates will make this Challenge far easier. To get
you in the right mindset, just picture yourself as going to a regular bar with your mates and
act appropriately for that scenario. Only in this scenario, the beautiful women will come up
to you.

It may also help to imagine her wearing jeans and a t-shirt, so you’re not being blown away
by her physical beauty and finding it hard to concentrate. From there it’s simply a matter of
using the skills you’ve learnt to chat to her like any other girl.
Then, when it’s time to get her phone number, remember to be discreet. 21 Ways Quotes
Most strippers get in trouble for handing out their phone numbers (the “Be respectful but be bold at the
owners want them to be working and dancing for paying customers, not same time.” Stu

finding a boyfriend). “If the stripper does start talking

about sex, I would just start
talking with her about it on an
even keel…just be cool, calm and
Completing the Challenge talk about it like you’d talk about
anything else.” Stu

“Be genuine. Don’t ever pretend

• Visit a strip club. to be something you’re not.” Stu
• Chat with a stripper in a relaxed and casual way.
• Break her out of transaction mode, so she treats you as a guy she
might date, rather than a customer she might get paid to lap
dance for.
• Get her phone number.
Congratulations!

You’ve reached the end of the 30 Day Challenge!

By now you will have developed a wide range of skills for meeting, attracting and dating
women, made plenty of new friends and become a more sociable, outgoing person. With the
skills learnt, you can now strike up a conversation and get a phone number from women you
find attractive in a wide variety of situations.

Where to from here?

Now that you’ve finished the 30 Day Challenge, you’ll no doubt be thinking “What next?”
There are 3 options from here:

1. Continue using your newly acquired skills on a daily basis and perhaps work on any
Challenges or scenarios that you weren’t completely comfortable with.

• You may have skipped one or two Challenges for other reasons. Go back now
and see if you can complete them.

2. Develop your skills even more by completing the 6 Advanced Missions.

• You will notice that there is no help with the Advanced Missions, because you
now have the skills and know-how to complete them all.
• If you get stuck, refer back to 21 Ways for more insights and inspiration.

3. Learn more from The Modern Man, by purchasing other products that will help you.

• We have created a wide range of products to tackle the different areas that
guys need help with.
• Each product contains new techniques, advice and insights in particular
areas.
• When you get a Modern Man product, you are investing in yourself and your
future with women.
Bonus - 6 Advanced Missions

When you have fully completed the 30-Day Challenge, you can attempt these 6 Advanced
Missions.

Attempting these before completing the 30-Day Challenge may result in failure and loss of
confidence. If you haven’t completed at least 15 of the individual Challenges, go ahead and do
so now.

When you’re ready to get started, have a go at these:

1. Hit the books hard – Chat to 20 different women in bookstores and get at least 5
phone numbers.

2. Favorite regular – Over the course of a few weeks, get to know the bar staff at your
favorite bar well and get the phone number of the female bartender you like.

3. Playing favorites – Use your favorite scenario and try to get a girl’s number in your
fastest time yet.

4. Speed demon – Attend another speed dating event and get at least 50% “Yes
matches”.

5. Playboy – Go to strip clubs and become known as a ‘regular’ who doesn’t pay for lap
dances. Get a stripper’s phone number and start dating her.

6. Freestyle – Take a risk and try and get a girl’s number in the most imaginative way
you can think of.
Learn More

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We can’t wait to teach you everything we know about success with women!

Cheers
Dan, Ben & Stu