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Man and Family - TMS Virtual Class For YPCMF 2023
Man and Family - TMS Virtual Class For YPCMF 2023
MAN AND
FAMILY –
Preparation for
Family Life
Harrison Mahinda BBAM, BD, MPsy, MaLD (Ongoing)
Introduction
Harrison Mahinda is the Director and Lead Trainer at Hamory Solutions Ltd. He has
also served as the Project Manager at SIM (Serving in Mission) International for the
Bible – Based Response to COVID-19 Project 2020-2023. Harrison Serves as an
Ordained Elder and an Evangelist at PCEA Kahawa Sukari
He is the developer and author of the Transformed Men Series Manual which was
Harrison K Mahinda
adopted by PCMF as a mentorship tool across the PCEA Church. He has also authored
the Peer Educators Toolkit for Compassion International.
Transformed Men Series
WORDS TO REMEMBER
Gordon B. Hinckley
• Introduction
• God and Family
• Research on emerging concerns
• Journey to a marriage life
• Tips for a successful marriage
• The role of a man in a marriage
•Conclusion
From Research According to various statistics, the increase in social upheavals can largely
be attributed to fathers’ absenteeism in a family set-up.
In America
Here in Kenya
Former president Uhuru Kenyatta expressed his concern over the rising
cases of single parenthood terming it a threat to our traditional values and
the family.
From Research The former head of state went on to highlight the dangers associated with
single-parenthood-led families adding that if unchecked, the trend would
destroy the fundamental character of Kenya and cause untold harm to
our children.
Fifty-nine percent of children living in urban areas live with both their
parents compared with 50% in rural areas
23%
live with their mothers as their fathers
live elsewhere
Here in Kenya
The research was carried out between April and September 2019.
CASE ONE
For instance, in the case of Joseph Juma Odhiambo aka Yusuf, one of the three terror convicts
who escaped from Kamiti Maximum Prison fell into delinquency after his father rejected him
thus seeking solace and belonging in the wrong company.
CASE TWO
Victor Odede Bwire saw in Elgiva Bwire his cousin who was also convicted for terrorist activities,
a father figure and a role model he could emulate.
Elgiva inspired him to join a terror outfit and he was planning to attack the KICC building before
he was nabbed. He is currently serving a twenty-year sentence on terrorism charges.
Father’s absenteeism is present everywhere. Traditionally, it is expected that men will take
leadership in various spheres.
The very presence of a father embodies authority conveyed through his daily involvement in
family life.
However, women have taken over the leadership mantle in most places like churches, school
events, hospital visits and residential meetings by men being absent.
The result of father absenteeism can be seen and experienced through high levels of
indiscipline, immorality and psychopathological behavior among children.
✓ While some aspects of the ‘revolution’ in our approach to marriage and the family have
been good, is it possible that something good from the past has been lost.
✓ The aspect of individualism, equality (women empowerment), drugs and substance abuse
leading to separations, homosexuality, funding
✓ The world has also attempted to convince women that there is no need for a man/ he
comes last, the ladies today know they can get a child even without a man, others why they
should even get children. Young men thinking the same and taking vasectomy
Factors that contribute to a fatherless generation:
✓ Lately, there is a growing trend where young men are involving themselves in irresponsible
sexual behaviors resulting in unplanned pregnancies.
✓ Married men having affairs outside their marriages
✓ Mostly, these men do not commit to bringing up the children in a family set-up where both
parents are actively present.
✓ They are proudly calling themselves ‘Baby daddies’ without putting into consideration the
impact it has on the psychological development and upbringing of these children.
What Should we
do?
We have to re-write this narrative
The Journey …
Stages leading towards marriage
Do not commit too fast. Take time, get to know the person Appreciate that you come from different places and
without being suggestive backgrounds. Discuss the differences in your ideologies and
upbringing and accept each other’s’ views.
Share your relationship with a trusted person. Allow them Clarify if you and your future spouse are completely
to give you their feedback. compatible in every aspect of your personalities, habits,
- Love is blind viewpoints, and goals
When it comes to dating…
Commitment Stage .
You need a Road Test My partner will change after I can maintain the same lifestyle
marriage
He represents his wife and children to God. He spends time in prayer each
day remembering the needs and concerns of his wife.
Thank you!