Introduction

Strict parenting is typically referred to as the authoritarian parenting style, because strict parents tend to

impose a rigid structure of rules upon their children. In a strict home, parents expect children to follow

rules without question.

Kids learn what they live and what you model, right? Well, if kids do what you want because they fear

you, how is that different than bullying? If you yell, they'll yell. If you use force, they'll use force.

Parents who relate punitively to their kids have to cut off their natural empathy for their children, which

makes the relationship less satisfying to both parent and child. Parenting also becomes much harder for

these parents because their kids lose interest in pleasing them and become much more difficult to manage.

So strict parenting makes for unhappy parents. And children who are parented strictly end up fighting

with parents and carrying a chip on their shoulder. As they get older, they look for love in all the wrong

places.

The bottom line is that strictness does not work in creating better-behaved kids; in fact, it sabotages

everything positive we do as parents and handicaps our kids in their efforts to develop emotional self-

discipline.

Parenting can be a tough and has a huge impact on child’s development. Essentially there are three types

of parenting styles. Permissive is a passive and liberal approach while authoritative is more strict a way of

raising a child. The balanced style of parenting is authoritative but all three have a definite and a long-

term influence on the child’s personality.

 Methodology

And what does work? Many studies show that there's another way that works best. This approach has

been called "authoritative" parenting, but I don't like that word because it is usually confused with

"authoritarian. (Notice they're spelled differently, and they don't mean the same thing!) Instead, I call this

parenting style "Empathic Limits" to get across the point that we do set limits, just like the Authoritarian

(strict) parents, but we do it with empathy, just like the Permissive parents. Children thrive on Limits and

Age-appropriate expectations, but only if they're set with empathy.

But it's important to note that this doesn't just mean a happy medium between Permissive and Strict. The

happy medium approach tends to compromise standards in ways that aren't good for kids ("Ok, you can

stay up later") while continuing to use punishments like Timeouts -- milder, but still punishments. In

other words, it isn't good for either parents or kids, even if it isn't as bad as authoritarian or permissive.

Why? Because parents feel forced to compromise their standards, and their kids still don't behave very

well (because the parent is still using punishment.)

What we're really aiming for is the expectations and limits that keep kids functioning at a high level,

combined with the warmth and support of "Permissive." That combination of empathy and limits is the

sweet spot that raises amazing kids -- and makes for the best parenting.

Parenting can be a tough and has a huge impact on child’s development. Essentially there are three types

of parenting styles. Permissive is a passive and liberal approach while authoritat is more strict a way of
raising a child. The balanced style of parenting is authoritative but all three have a definite and a long-
term influence on the child’s personality.
 Results

Studies show that children raised with a strict parenting style tend to be more angry and rebellious as

teenagers and young adults. They also become excellent liars . To see why, simply consider how this

works for most adults. Virtually all of us were raised with some degree of harshness, and we chafe at

control to that degree -- even when we're the ones imposing it! That means we end up with problems

regulating ourselves. Sometimes this shows up as anger and resentfulness at any perceived limit or

criticism, or by over-reacting when we think someone is trying to tell us what to do. Sometimes it shows

up in rebellion against the limits we impose on ourselves. For instance, we may harshly starve ourselves

with a new diet and then rebel by binging. (Not surprisingly, studies show that kids raised with strict

parenting are more likely to become overweight!)

Every child expects his/her parents to listen to them whether it is about the school or friends. An

authoritarian parents is however busy in formulating guidelines to be imposed on their child. In effect, the

child starts feeling lonely and withdraws. This might have a contribution in making them introvert and

reserved. Such kids like to keep to themselves and do not open up so soon. In extreme cases they end up

being depressed since they don’t get the attention they deserve to be heard and seen as an individual.

Don't be too hard on your kids. Make sure to balance strict and linient parenting styles to raise your kids

right!
 Discussion

When you snub your child’s point of view by being extremely strict you fail to acknowledge their

individuality and thrust upon your opinions on them. Eventually these kids suffer from low self esteem

because they thik their thoughts and feelings hold no importance and are not valid enough to define their

existence. In addition, they tend to be low in confidence and suffer from inferiority complex.

Since kids of authoritarian parents are use to their parents taking decisions for them they distrust their

ability to take important decisions. They fail to acknowledge their desires and instincts because they have

always been controlled. They would want to adhere the norms and do as is expected by their parents since

their parents set a certain standard/benchmark for them.

One of the disadvantages of strict parenting is submissiveness. Strict parents tend to limit individuality of

their kids which makes the latter believe that they are to perform a certain fixed role. As a result they

follow whatever their parents have to say or believe in without raising any doubt. They don’t try being

experimental in their approach of dealing with situations. They also are incapable of dealing with stressful

situations and even in expressing themselves.

One of the disadvantages of strict parenting is submissiveness. Strict parents tend to limit individuality of

their kids which makes the latter believe that they are to perform a certain fixed role. As a result they

follow whatever their parents have to say or believe in without raising any doubt. They don’t try being

experimental in their approach of dealing with situations. They also are incapable of dealing with stressful

situations and even in expressing themselves.

 Conclusion

The strict disciplinarian style of parenting teaches kids that they must cope with the consequences of

their behavior. The children learn values and the ability to make healthy decisions. Strict parents push

their children to be better, so they develop confidence in themselves and their abilities. They learn to

meet challenges and strive to overcome them. Children of strict parents develop confidence through

hard work that brings them success, rather than developing an inflated ego from too much praise often

associated with permissive parenting.

Because strict parents set boundaries and enforce limits, children learn self-control. These kids are less

likely to succumb to peer pressure or engage in risky behavior. Strict parents are consistent with

discipline, and children learn at a young age that consequences exist for inappropriate behavior.

Because this attitude is instilled in them early in life, they are less likely to display behavior problems.

The self-control they learn as children is typically carried into adulthood.

Strict parents tend to raise independent children. These kids learn to think for themselves, compromise

and solve their own problems. Strict parents often require their children to get jobs when they are old

enough and save their money. They learn the value of money and the importance of earning it at a young

age, which can help them be financially successful later in life

 Reference List / Citations

https://www.ahaparenting.com/parenting-tools/positive-discipline/strict-parenting

https://www.onlymyhealth.com/long-term-effects-strict-parenting-1341524794

https://living.thebump.com/advantages-strict-parents-8670.html