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DonnaCunningham-Counseling Principles For Astrologers
DonnaCunningham-Counseling Principles For Astrologers
DonnaCunningham-Counseling Principles For Astrologers
what kinds of relationship choices does the person make that end up this
way?
while each aspect in the chart plays itself out in multiple ways, one
possible scenario for venus square saturn is that when a relationship gets close
to commitment, one or both parties may become ambivalent or frightened and
ultimately break it off. this may come about because the person chooses
potential partners who are afraid of commitment and who throw up walls against
intimacy .such choices often historically stem from the relationship with the
parent of the opposite sex, who might have been alternately there and not there.
for example, one moment the daughter might have been daddy's little girl, but the
next moment daddy might have been withdrawn and silent—or drunk, since
venus-saturn aspects are often seen in the charts of daughters of alcoholics. one
or both parents may have also set up difficult conditions for the child to meet in
order to earn love. in adult life, the person who is drawn to potential partners who
behave similarly to that parent when it comes to
love and who are alternately there and not there.
why does getting close to commitment
bring on a crisis of ambivalence in the
relationship? for one thing, underneath it all, the
person is just as fearful of commitment as the
potential partner, or such ambivalent people
wouldn’t be chosen to begin with. secondly, when
a formal commitment looms, the venus-saturn
type may suddenly change the rules in the
relationship to a more formalized, traditional, and even rigid set of expectations
and behaviors. as this was not what the partner signed on for, he or she may feel
trapped and leave.
in addition, the possibility of commitment brings on a fear of loss or
abandonment as well as evoking painful past losses. thus, the person might
suddenly be fearful, clinging, and even depressed. the chosen partner is often
the emotionally unavailable type who does not respond well to demands like
these and may well become more distant and closed.
these are some possible answers to the questions posed above. in the
preparation, you can speculate on possible causes and effects of a problem, but
you cannot know for sure without feedback from the client. you need context and
history in order to find the individualized meaning of the aspect. if you see a
hundred people with a venus/saturn square, they will have a hundred different
but related venus-saturn stories. you aren’t going to be able to pinpoint clients'
particular experiences from chart analysis, only from asking them directly. you
can give the overview, but only they can supply the context. ("i see that you have
venus square saturn. many people with that aspect have had a tough time in
love. they seem to choose people who restrict them in some way or who feel
restricted by them. has that happened in your life, and how?")
for simplicity's sake, we have focused on just one part of the translation of
venus square saturn. in a real chart analysis, you would need to take apart the
complete aspect. what house and sign are venus in, and how does that further
clarify the behavior, feelings, and history behind the person's patterns in love?
what house and sign are saturn in, and how does that modify the picture? venus
in aries square saturn in cancer behaves differently and for different reasons than
venus in scorpio square saturn in aquarius. venus in the 12th square saturn in the
3rd has a different history and set of concerns than venus in the 8th square saturn
in the 11th. the total picture is more complex when you include these features. you
get more precise information by analyzing the signs and houses involved and,
ultimately, by questioning the client.