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TABLE O F
CONTENTS
01 02
INTRODUCTION YOUR TIMELINE
03 04
CONNECTING YOUR
STORIES
COMMUNICATING WITH
YOUR INNER CHILD
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INTRODUCTION
A Piece Of Nate's Story
Who Is Your Inner Child
The Purpose Of This Guide
HI, I'M NATE
Life Coach & Founder of Story Connect Coaching
- Nate Postlethwait
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NATE'S STORY
And Intro To The Inner Child
Inner child work has been the key to connect me with other parts of
my story. I lived most of my life unconscious. As a child I lived in
trauma. Everyday, month, year was about survival, fight or flight.
Several years ago, I had a moment of clarity around my inner child. I
recognized the messages he believed, vs. the messages I wanted him
to believe. It became evident that not only was my inner child not
willing to believe the good things I saw and remembered about him,
but he hardly knew who I was. This tells you who the inner child is: A
child. A child that holds our stories from childhood. Everything that
happened, good or bad, is what they carry. They are the beings that
live in us and remind us of all of our stories. While the child is not a
living being, through pictures, and visualization, you can bring much
of their experience to consciousness by connecting with them. Their
stories are over, but recorded. They know what happened, and often
times need your help in making sense of it.
As I said earlier, my inner child did not recognize me. I had long
abandoned him and his stories, and while I began to understand he
carried my stories and deserved some support, it took a while for that
part of me to relax. One summer weekend in 2015, I unpacked a box
of all of my childhood photos. At the time, I was 37 years old. As I
scanned through school photos from kindergarten, first grade, second
grade, the heaviness came. I could look at his pictures and see the
stories. The photos went all the way up to my 32nd year. That evening
I decided to make an effort. I decided to not only introduce myself to
that young boy in the pictures, but I began a tradition for us.
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I lined my apartment walls from the read the words to him surrounding
earliest photo I could find, and in these photos and memories. I would
order, I made a photo collage of my look at him and see his pain and my
inner child's memories. I made three 37 year old self would recognize the
rows of photos from kindergarten to story his face told. I would say out
age 32. I sat staring at the photos for loud “I will restore you, Nate. I will do
hours. I ached over what I saw. The whatever I can to make this right. I
memories scared me. I came up with will be close to you. I will defend you.”
an idea to print off all my favorite I would hold one hand on my chest,
quotes, poems, musings and line the and pour these words on to those
outside of the photos with these photos...for a month. This process not
messages. For one month, every night, only helped me become more aware
I would close the curtains to block out of his stories, but it helped me greatly
all natural light. I would light candles, in trauma therapy when I needed to
play classical music, and I would be in those memories with him to
place one hand on my inner child's reprocess what happened.
photo and
I needed this time to grow, understand and experience what it meant to have a
connection with my inner child and younger self. Through that month, he became well
acquainted with my visits. He knew I was familiar and would be by often. When he
was afraid, he no longer needed to send jolts of anxiety. He could nudge and push
and I would take over what he was afraid of, because he knew I was there. This was
how I taught myself to know and connect with my inner child.
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THE GUIDE
Through this guide, we will navigate the stories that your inner
child has carried. We will look at ways we can better understand
their experience in order to bridge a supportive connection. At all
times, safety is key. This guide is meant to encourage a present
connection with your inner child in order to let them know you are
with them and aware of their experiences.
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YOUR TIMELINE
YOU HAVE A TIMELINE.
Your timeline is the exact length of
your exact number of years you
have been on the earth. That
timeline holds many stories. If I were
to say “When was the last time you
watched a great movie?” you would
be able to remember pretty clearly
when that was. That memory is
newer and easy to access.
A Few Examples
***All examples are hypothetical and strictly meant to be examples for individual processing and connection***
If you were read books before bed, you may have felt safe as a child.
If you had a grandparent who doted on you, you may have felt important as a child.
If you moved around alot, you maybe felt unsettled and needing more security as a
child.
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THINK ABOUT YOUR TIMELINE FROM 0-18. THESE ARE
YOUR FIRST MEMORIES AND EXPERIENCES.
Now, fill out the top side of your timeline (leave bottom side blank) Fill out
the key memories for you that stand out when you were a child. It is
important to share all types of memories in order to connect with the inner
child. These could include
- Your age
- The memory
- What you experienced from that memory
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NOW, THINK OF YOUR TIMELINE FROM 18-TODAY.
SAME PRACTICE, AGE, YEAR, MEMORY AND EXPERIENCE.
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CONNECTING YOUR STORIES
WHEREVER
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THERE
YOU ARE.
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WHAT WE OFTEN DON'T SEE ARE THE OLD MARKS WE
HAVE ARE HELD BY THE PART OF US (INNER CHILD)
THAT EXPERIENCED THEM.
Until we understand them and connect with
them and their story, we will continue to
experience their emotions on a regular
basis.
Let me explain:
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A six year old does not have the skills to process their experience and say “This has
little to do with me, this is about them.”
Because the six year old does not have the skills to process what feels like
abandonment they do what they can for survival. They are attempting to escape
their feelings. It will be normal for them to blame themselves, go into survival mode,
becoming attached to anyone who will care for them. Or all of the above. These are
normal responses for a child.
So, today when you are heavily impacted by your partner pulling away, your inner
child's story is getting hit. Remember, the inner child's experiences are marked on
your timeline. Many of them will feel like open wounds. While it is painful to feel
your partner pull away, it is tied to a story that has been “activated.” That story is
held by your inner child.
Any time the inner child feels activated by your current experiences, they will push,
yell, scream, react and all of this is an effort to be rescued.
It is because you are experiencing the inner child's long awaited desire to be calmed
down.
If the child experienced these emotions for the first time at six years old, that is
when the memory was marked on your timeline.
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IF YOU ARE 28 NOW, YOU HAVE A LOT MORE COPING
SKILLS YOU CAN OFFER AN 8 YEAR OLD.
While their experiences are painful to you, you are still able to offer them
much more coping (even the awareness that this is not their fault) than
they can offer themselves.
- You know at 28 that while it was hard, you are going to survive the
divorce and it is not always going to hurt as much as it does right now. The
six year old inner child does not know that.
- You know at 28 that it was a lot to process then, but that you would
eventually understand the circumstances better and be more grounded.
The six year old inner child does not know that.
- I am afraid, angry, and hurt in this memory. And I will respond every time
something activates my story.
The intensity you feel at 28: Is 22 years of emotions (subtract when the
memory happened from current age.) Think about that. That story has
lived inside of you for 22 years. So every time you felt abandoned your six
year old kicked, and screamed and yelled begging to be brought to safety.
That safety, is you.
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COMMUNICATING WITH YOUR
INNER CHILD
INTRODUCING YOURSELF TO
THE INNER CHILD:
- Kindness
- Compassion
- Patience
- Curiosity
Your inner child will grow to love knowing there is a secret room
that only the two of you can enter. This room is safe, and must
always have the four pillars in place before entering, and while
communicating.
These pillars are the filter we use to see and speak to our inner
child. The inner child often feels unsafe and afraid. These four
are key for communication.
Here are several prompts that could be useful. These are based
on comfort level so if you are not ready to fully embrace their
inner child, these prompts can work too.
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AS YOU BEGIN WITH THESE PROMPTS, A PHOTO OF
YOUR INNER CHILD (YOUNGER SELF) WOULD BE
BENEFICIAL AS YOU BEGIN TO SPEAK TO THEM.
“I am really sorry about your experience. I am just beginning to learn about
these stories you have carried and I am looking forward to getting to know
you.”
“Your story is a lot for me to process. I know you are harmless, but I am
afraid of you. I know you are here, and I will revisit this with you at a time
when I have more tools. In the meantime, I will try to make you feel safer
by taking deep breaths when I feel your stories being hit.”
“I am really sorry I did not see this sooner. I have always admired you for
keeping me going. I want to make sure you understand that I am here, and
I am going to be helping you understand this, but I will make sure you are
safe with me.”
“I am not ready to talk to you, but I know you are there. I will come for you,
I promise. I can't right now. Thank you for making me aware of your fear.”
“I am so proud of you. I now see you did your best to survive a really hard
situation. I am still learning to get to know you, but I will make sure you do
not have to carry those heavy things anymore.”
“You were so brave. You did what made sense to survive a really hard
situation. I want to keep you close to me as I continue to understand your
stories.”
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THE CHILD CAN NOT COMPREHEND
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The inner child has been in survival mode for so long and carrying this burden. They
may need you to introduce yourself to them and remind them they are safe with you.
“I am 30 years old now. I work at a bank and, and I am a mom. I have two kids who
are around your age, and loving them makes me think of you. I want you to know
things will get much better.”
“After your childhood things get rough. You have some tough days ahead, but I was
able to make decisions that helped me get on a healing path. Now, I write letters
often, and I am working on a letter to you in the hopes you will understand more of
why we are disconnected.”
“Your future self becomes really compassionate. I know you may think things don't
get better, but you have some great memories ahead. I facilitated some of those,
and I plan on having more. I know it may take some time, but I am here when you
are ready to get to know me.”
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REPARENTING THE
INNER CHILD
IT IS OUR JOB TO WHOLE-HEARTEDLY AND
UNABASHEDLY PURSUE THE INNER CHILD. IT IS
NEVER THEIR RESPONSIBILITY TO PURSUE US.
A few key points to think about when
interacting with the inner child:
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REMEMBER:
Your inner child is often overwhelmed but will exhale when they
know you are coming from them.
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IN WORKING WITH THE INNER CHILD, IT IS
IMPERATIVE TO SPEAK ON THEIR LANGUAGE AND
CONNECT ON THEIR LEVEL.
That may mean simply nudging them as a reminder when they have a bad
day.
If you imagine our scenario above with the partner pulling away, this would
mean the 30 year old catching their breath, pausing and writing to the
inner child: “I know this feels familiar to you. I know it seems like you do not
have any choices right now because someone is pulling away and it
reminds you when you were stuck when you needed your parents to be with
you, and instead they divorced. I know how much that hurt you. This
situation is for me. I can handle this. Adults often have arguments like this,
and I will take care of this and you will be kept safe.”
This will calm the inner child down to understand they do NOT have to
argue with your adult partner.
Not acknowledging the inner child during an adult fight (that is triggering
your story), is like taking the inner child and placing them in front of you
to fight the battle. That is why your reaction is so strong. This is the battle
going on inside of you.
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Shakespeare. Porque Shakespeare é o colosso do Ódio e do Amor,
o Céu, a Terra e o Inferno. E eu penso que é preciso ser-se um
vélho bruto para não compreender Shakespeare.
Outro tanto dirão de mim. Não compreender d’Annunzio? ¿O
poeta do amor subtil, dos perfumes, dos lilazes, da volúpia perene,
capitosa e aristocrata; o prosador imaterial, cheio de doçura,
magistral, ilustre, divino, mirífico; a pena de ouro que traçou o
Fuoco, o Crime, as Virgens? Eu sei lá! Mas é um crime! E estou
repêso de confessar o meu pecado. Eu não sabia... E ponho-me a
querer entender d’Annunzio. Tomarei um explicador. Porfiarei. A
minha ignorância é lamentável. Mas, quando estou envergonhado e
confuso um diabinho irónico vem e segreda-me ao ouvido que os
outros, que o adoram, que o admiram, percebem-no tanto como eu.
Compreendo agora. É uma «ideia feita», o culto de d’Annunzio. E
como o desgraçado Cornuski, eu, torcendo as mãos, na minha
impotência de o compreender terei que murmurar
desconsoladamente o meu:—«Como é belo!»
Um poema
(Carta ao general Henrique das Neves)
Meu amigo:
JÁ lá vai mês e meio de silêncio sôbre o recebimento do poema
Apoteose Humana, que o meu amigo teve a gentileza de me ofertar
em nome do autor. Só hoje lhe escrevo, mas lá diz o ditado... O
amigo sabe o que o ditado diz. Pediu-me a minha opinião. Sem
embargo dela ser uma opinião a pé, uma opinião infantaria, pacata,
modesta e de bons costumes, vou dar-lha. Sou pouco amigo de dar,
mas emfim...
Eu podia dizer-lhe cousas muito lisongeiras do poema do seu
amigo. Podia dizer-lhe mesmo que ambos eram talentosos,
modestos, bem criados, que recolhiam a horas, não fumavam, etc.,
etc. Mas não. Prefiro dizer-lhe abertamente o que penso,
brutalmente, sem transigências nem banalidades. Portanto o que aí
vai é rude, com a rudeza dum homem que não precisa para nada
dos seus confrades em letras, consagrados, e não consagrados, e
que vive «achando a quàsi todos os deuses pés de barro, ventre de
gibóia a quàsi todos os homens e a quàsi todos os tribunais portas
travessas» como já nos Gatos escrevia Fialho.
Bem se vê que o seu poeta, o sr. M. Joaquim Dias, nunca saiu do
Faial. Se saisse não fazia poemas a uma cousa que não conhece
senão em teoria:—O Homem. Mantegazza, que o estudou a fundo,
sabe o que êle é; eu que lido com êle, ha muito sei o que êle vale. O
que lhe digo em verdade é que êle nunca mereceu os versos do seu
amigo.
O poeta julga o Homem pelos livros. Livros são, quàsi sempre,
gramofones de ideias. Deixe-os cantar. Valia-lhe mais um ano de
viagens do que ler todos os livros que tratam do Homem. É o seu
amigo, médico? É teólogo? É psicólogo? É legista? Só assim se
compreendia que êle conhecesse o assunto do seu poema. Porque
o médico conhece o homem em tôda a sua miséria; o teólogo em
tôda a sua estupidez; o legista em tôda a sua maldade, e o
psicólogo em tudo isto junto. Mas o seu amigo é sómente poeta?
Poeta, nada mais? Sim, isso vê-se logo. Poeta é sonhador. Os
poetas teem ideias muito diversas de todos os outros mortais. São
poetas e basta.
Pediu-me uma carta. A carta aqui vai. Se lha não envio particular,
pelo correio, é porque receio que lhe introduzam algum décimo da
lotaria espanhola e o amigo sofra transtornos por minha causa. Mais
nada.