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Forming A Support Group and Role of Support Group
Forming A Support Group and Role of Support Group
Forming A Support Group and Role of Support Group
ORGANIZING A GROUP
Setting up a support group would seem a
fairly simple task—find a room, set a time
to meet, decide if the group will be
facilitated or self-run by survivors, put out
the cookies and chairs, and send out the
flyers. Creating emotional safety in a
support group is quite another matter and
deserves specific attention.
When my daughter was a little girl she
used to write recipes for me to try—my
favourite was Lion Soup which she wrote
at about age 4. The recipe began with
“First you catch a lion.” Creating emotional
safety in a support group can be like that.
What sounds easy can actually be a
complex process. However, this process
can be broken down into a number of
essential ingredients.
ESTABLISHING GUIDELINES
Of the many factors to consider in creating
emotional safety in any support group, the
most essential are confidentiality, the
appropriate responses to feelings and the
practice of unconditional presence, and a
respect for boundaries. Setting the ground
rules regarding these specific factors at the
beginning of each support group
establishes the safety for the group. It is
important to briefly restate these ground
rules even if the same group of people
meet consistently and anytime people
arrive after the ground rules have been
stated.
MAINTAINING CONFIDENTIALITY
Establishing the confidential nature of
what is shared in the group is an essential
ground rule for any support group. Stating
clearly, “What is shared in this room, stays
in this room,” and then asking the group
members to commit to this boundary is
the beginning of establishing group safety.
It is not okay to share other people’s
stories or details of their life that they
might choose to reveal in a support group.
Maintaining confidentiality is essential to
the foundation on which the emotional
safety of a support group rests.
RESPECTING BOUNDARIES
Respecting the physical, emotional,
spiritual, and intellectual boundaries of
members of a support group is also an
essential element in creating group safety.
Sometimes people have difficulty hearing
the struggle, emotional pain, or seeing the
tears of another without needing to rescue
them. This is most often due to some
unresolved issue or pain of their own.
Rescuing can present in a support group as
interrupting, telling people what to do
about their problems, and/or physical
rescuing, such as uninvited or unsolicited
hugs.
Respect for spiritual boundaries requires
that the group be accepting of and a safe
space for diverse religious and spiritual
belief systems. It is not appropriate to use
the group’s time to try to convince people
about any specific religion or spiritual
belief. Many burn survivors share
profound spiritual experiences related to
their burn injury and it is, of course,
appropriate to share one’s own experience
if you choose to.
Telling someone what they should or
should not be thinking, feeling, or doing is
most often not helpful. Exceptions to this
often occurs at the end of a group meeting
after everyone has had a chance to share
uninterrupted in the group and the group
has naturally moved into a problem solving
mode. At this time, sharing specific
suggestions or how members have dealt
with specific issues can be supportive and
helpful. The key is to first allow each
member a chance to share uninterrupted.
Many times survivors just need the time to
share their story, harrowing as that may
be, and to have that heard and witnessed.
It is also important to establish that there
is not an expectation that everyone share
in the group—this clarification also creates
safety. Whoever is facilitating the group
needs to be aware of the time and keep
the group on task during sharing.
Occasionally, there may be someone who
dominates the group’s time or who is stuck
in their own story, having told it many
times in the past. It is important to keep
the group moving while at the same time
setting limits on monopolizing behaviours
in a kind and compassionate manner.
SUPPORTING THE PHASES OF RECOVERY
AND HEALING
In Trauma and Recovery (1997),
psychiatrist Judith Herman, MD, states
that healing after trauma and traumatic
loss consists of 3 elements:
Remembering and mourning
Telling one’s story
Reconnecting with life
A well-structured and well-maintained
support group can support all three of
these necessary phases of healing and
recovery after burn trauma. Creating
emotional safety is the essential
foundation for a support group that truly
supports recovery and healing.
Alcoholics Anonymous
Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is a support
group that helps people recover from
alcohol dependency. It offers group
sessions, and what is often termed as a
“sober support” network.
Some people who attend AA will actively
seek out another group member, or
sponsor, who has generally been sober for
an extended period of time. A sponsor can
help provide additional support to
someone struggling with alcohol addiction.
Alateen
Alateen is a support group for the children
of parents with alcohol abuse problems.
This group provides the opportunity to
share personal experiences. Less focus is
put on receiving lessons or instructions.
Liver disease
High blood pressure
Heart attack
Stroke
Cancer
If you or someone you love has an alcohol
abuse problem, it’s important to get help.
There are many organizations that offer
information and support.