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Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Travis Cooper
Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Travis Cooper
Introduction
Chapter 1 : Self-Awareness
Chapter 2 : Self-Management
Chapter 3 : Social-Awareness
Chapter 4 : Relationship Management
Chapter 5 : Empathy (Concept, Enhancement, And Its Importance)
Chapter 6 : How To Manage And Reduce Toxic Relationship
Chapter 7 : Why Raising Your Eq Skills Is So Important?
Chapter 8 : Pinpointing The Emotional Intelligence Strategies That
Increase The Eq Most
Chapter 9 : How Emotional Intelligence Affect Our Relationship And
Work
Chapter 10 : How To Improve One’s Personal And Social Skills
Conclusion
INTRODUCTION
SELF-AWARENESS
Private Self-Awareness
Private self-awareness as the name is indicating aware of yourself. But
only personally. Getting confused about this. Let us assume an example of
this:
Feeling about yourself is a kind of private self-awareness. When you
have forgotten something important when you are going for something you
automatically feel stomach lurch, your heart starts fluttering when you have
someone in front of you to whom you care. These are some kind of private
self-awareness.
SELF-MANAGEMENT
Importance of Self-Management
Self-management is important is their own. The capability of self-
management brings a huge change in your life, personal as well as
professional. This is important because when you can manage things by
yourself, you will be able to have great initiative power to initiate new
things. you will have plenty of time to focus on your goals. Consider this
example;
Take the example of an office, the employers want to hire a self-
motivated person. The person who can deal and manage all the things with
more focus will achieve more goals. In-office you have to deal with many
aspects, sometimes you have to work with broken or fewer resources and
have to fix them. When the employee is having a self-management skill,
he/she will be able to work and fix things in a better innovative way and
organize things perfectly.
Self-management is all about making your own decisions and choices. It
will make you able to do things more than you need them. There are three
important keys of self-management skills which are as follows ;
Organization
another important key to self-management skill is organization. A person
who is capable of organizing work and life together will tend to have more
emotional intelligence than others. Organizing yourself is very important
because it makes you able to be prepared for the things in a better way and
also helps you keep things ready when you need them. Organizing yourself
also save your time for other activities and makes you able to avoid last-
minute hurdle.
Accountability
accountability is similar to take responsibility. It is the other skill of self-
management. When you see yourself as accountable, it simply means you
are taking ownership of the work that was given to you. If its work it will be
credited to you but if it goes wrong it will be your responsibility. It’s all
about accountability to do the task successfully. Accountability gives you a
positive attitude to work efficiently.
These are basic keys of self-management which aid for success and help
you in building a self-management ability. Now moving on to another
aspect of self-management which is how you could develop the self-
management skills in work.
Always Self-Aware
When an employee is self-aware then they might be performing good in
their work with a focused mind and positive behavior. A self-aware
individual is a good listener and a good listener has good behavior with
their teammates. It also motivates others to work with pure focus. A self-
aware individual always thinks before they speak and they focused on what
they are performing. Self-awareness can be developed by focusing on an
inner strength as we have explained in the previous chapter. You will be
able to more self-aware by following these simple tips:
SOCIAL-AWARENESS
Introduction to Social-Awareness
W hen you attend any social gathering event and feel surrounded by
friends or people. You will feel awkward silence when you are not
able to connect with them. People usually speak up the wrong thing at
the wrong time and then they simply keep quiet when they don't know what
to answer next. You will end up laughing nervously. It's all because you are
not socially aware enough to deal with social issues.
Social Awareness is the ability to comprehend and to take the
perspective of and appropriately act and react on social and personal issues.
In other terms, it means being socially aware of what is present around you,
how you have to react on that, and also how you accurately connect and
interpret the emotions of people. Social awareness is an important
component when you are raising your emotional intelligence. Without
socially active you are not able to interact properly with people in society. It
is the most important skill among all when you are raising the intelligence
level. Your EQ is what you deal with others and how you deal with them
and in that social awareness plays a vital role.
The person who gives you some useful advice on how to handle your
issue.
The supportive team leader who motivates the team for better result and
relate with the problem of others easily.
The person who can convince the audience with their lecture.
All have one thing common in them which is social awareness.
They are well known by the facts of how they have to act, behave and
most importantly how to understand the emotions of others.
Daniel Goleman says that the skills that are associated with social
awareness are:
Empathy
Organization awareness
Services
When you can understand the emotion and shows correct concern to
them that's empathy.
Your ability to know about the social ethics and politics in an
organization and how it is affecting other's work that’s organization
awareness.
Your skills to know the need of the client and serve them right is
services.
Awareness of social situations means understanding the things that
people want and then plan accordingly to communicate with them.
Understanding is equal to the trust when you take feelings of seriously
and responds to their emotions quickly and you will be able to gain the trust
of the people. This thing you only achieve when you are socially aware.
Empathy is the ability to understand the point of view of others but that
doesn't mean you have to say yes when it wrong. Empathy is all about
acknowledging the emotions of others and thoughtfully take some decisions
and take consideration of the feelings of others.
You might be thinking of why I am mentioning the understanding,
empathy here in the chapter. Well, it is an important point of social
awareness as you have seen it is directly considered with the emotions and
perceptions and decision choice for others which is an important aspect of
connecting socially. When you can understand, you can empathize and to
able to socialize well.
Communication is a great tool for building social awareness.
Communication is the only way by which one can develop social
awareness.
The powerful leaders can empathize with the people and build a
powerful strategy to execute with a plan more firmly that deals with their
social issues .
How it is Helpful and Where
There is no odd practice by showing empathy to your employees.
Sometimes people think that other people took advantage of them when
they are humble to them.
But it's not that now if you can empathize with your employees to
become socially aware and let them work effortlessly without the burden of
emotions and failure. It will help you in connecting with your work filed in
a better way.
But the point will be the same when you know the importance of social-
awareness then how you could develop this social awareness skill in you. It
is an important key to emotional intelligence that should bring this quality
to them.
How to Develop Social Awareness in You
Social awareness is not something that you live with but actually, it's a
practice of listening and observing and executing. Many people would not
be able to understand how they would develop this habit in them. So,
focusing on this issue here we have explained some basic tactics which will
help you in developing social awareness in you;
RELATIONSHIP MANAGEMENT
hen you are on your way to increase your emotional intelligence with
W the fundamental keys then, the fourth most important key to increase
emotional intelligence is Relationship management. As a reader, you
might be thinking of this as managing your relationship in better ways.
Well, it may be or may not be the same term. Let’s take you to the point of
what exactly a relationship management is.
Relationship Management
Relationship management in simple terms is a way of maintaining an
ongoing level of relationship with people of an organization. The relation
could be between a client or a business person and between two business
persons. Creation relationship management aims to create a healthy
partnership and interaction between two individuals agree on the same
point. It involves a strategy to build customer or client support for business
and also for gaining loyalty.
The key points of relationship management are;
verything starts with ‘E’, especially when you are raising your
E emotional intelligence. Empathy is the most important aspect of rising
emotional intelligence. You might be thinking of what is this empathy?
And how it will enhance your emotional intelligence.
Let us make you clear about the term empathy.
Empathy is defined as the ability to understand the emotions of other
people. The term empathy has also been used to describe the range of
experience. Meanwhile, empathy is like keeping yourself in the situation of
others and understand others' emotions about what they are thinking of.
This term was introduced by psychologist Edward B. Titchener in 1909.
Many people watching other people in pain and response to them in a
sympathetic way and give a clear vision to show that empathy is not a
universal response to the suffering of another person.
You may think that it is the only type of empathy but you may be wrong
the empathy may be of three types let us have a look at this.
Dynamic Toxicity
The toxicity is not always because of one person or the other person. It is
often how you both interact with each other which will bring the worst in
both of you. It will result in toxic dynamics. If you don't understand still let
us took the example of that
You both are competitors of each other and push always to do best to
enjoy your dynamic which is fine enough but like you, both want to be
motivated by each other for your hard work and want some emotional
support. But instead of supporting each other you both are letting down to
each other which creates dynamic toxicity in your relations as well.
similarly, they might start negative gossip about you. It develops a
competitive peak in you. And leads to dynamic toxicity in you.
Detox Yourself
Detoxing is something releasing toxins from your body out. Similarly,
when you waste your precious time on something that is not working you
probably die with the toxic. Keep yourself away from the contact of the
people which enables you to put yourself forward. The only way to detox
yourself is to stop getting in contact with the toxic person and engage
yourself with some new healthy individuals that might give you healthy
communication and work on yourself better than the previous one. It’s time
to fill yourself with some positivity in you.
Moves Towards Self-Growth
Instead of investing your whole time in fixing the things to work well,
spending time to understand your toxic relation it better to quit on the point
when others are not putting efforts for the same. Rather than wasting your
time use your whole energy to self-growth. Do meditation, engage yourself
in new activities where you can sue your caliber to do best, read books.
Sometimes, a strong attraction towards someone creates trouble while you
are growing yourself. Hold back to the things and wait for sometimes. This
simple trick will help you to avoid another relationship disappointment.
So, these are simple tricks that you need to learn to reduce toxic
relationships. It will benefit you and leave your burden of emotions. Some
other tips that will help you in managing the toxic relationship and help you
reduce that toxic .
Let’s Take A Look at Other Tips to Manage the Toxic
Relationship
Relationships at a certain level face challenges when you are in long-
term relations especially. These kinds of challenges leave you in anxiety as
well as stress. Here we are going to explain some other useful tips that will
help you de-stress your toxic relationship let’s have a look;
n the previous chapters, you have read about the four important pillars of
I emotional intelligence. How these four pillars will help you in enhancing
your emotional intelligence. Though you have read about the various
steps or rising your four skills and also know the benefits of them. But have
you ever tried to know about why you need to raise these emotional
intelligence skills?
where it is helpful to us and how ?
Coming to our next topic of emotional intelligence which is,
Why raising your EQ skills is so important? But before that one could
be familiar with the fact of EQ skills. So, let us start with the topic
Self-Management
To increase your emotional intelligence skills, you must be able to utilize
your emotions and make a decision about your behavior to behave properly.
You will lose your ability to act thoughtfully and correctly when you are
stressed and have no control over your emotions.
Think about a situation when you are feeling anxious, overwhelmed with
stress, and flooded with different emotions. The point where negativity
strokes you from all sides. At this time is easy for you to understand and
make a constructive decision. Might be wrong. Emotions are important
which tells you about your potential as well as of others. But the stressed
conditions pull you out from the comfort zone.
Therefore, with the ability of self-management and you will be able to
manage the stress which makes you able to present emotionally. The self-
management ability helps you in learning to receive the information without
putting burdens of negative thoughts and self-control. You will be able to
make a better choice when you have the ability of self-management. It will
allow you to put some control on your Impulsive feelings and behaviors.
when you have self-management skills, you will manage your emotions in
positive ways, aims to take initiatives on your own and follow through on
your commitments and easily adapt yourself to the changing circumstances.
The one must ask from you to how you will develop the self-management
skills, this strategy we have already explained in the previous chapter.
Self-Awareness
The first step of building your emotional intelligence is managing stress.
The emotional attachment indicates the reflection of your early life
experience. The ability to manage your core feelings which includes fear,
anger, sadness, and joy, these often depend upon the quality and consistency
of your early life emotional experiences.
If you take care of these emotions and understanding them in a better
way, then it will help you to become valuable assets in your adult life. But if
your emotional experiences at the initial stage in threatening and confusing
then, you distance yourself from your feelings and emotions.
Self-awareness is the key to connect to your emotions, help you in
realizing your own potential. It is a key to understanding your thoughts and
actions and how your emotions influence these. One could ask these
questions from yourself before proceeding for self-awareness.
Have you ever experienced the feeling that flow in you, experiencing the
emotions one after one that changes from time to time?
Did your emotions surrounded by physical sensation which you can
experience in your stomach, throat, and chest?
have you ever paid attention to your feelings and emotions that prevailed
in you like anger, sadness, fear, and joy which can be evident by your non-
verbal expression?
Did your own emotions affect decision making ?
Well, if any of these experiences is not familiar to you, then you may
have turned down your emotions. To build your EQ and achieve healthy
emotions you must build self-awareness in you which will help you in
reconnecting with your emotions, accept the negativity and convert them
into positivity and become comfortable
You can achieve social-awareness in you with mindfulness
Mindfulness is the practice of focusing your attention on your inner core
emotions and involve at the moment. It will help in shifting your physical
and emotional sensations, loads with calmness and focuses on you making
more self-aware. The self-awareness with its full potential helps in
increasing your emotional intelligence.
Social-Awareness
Another important strategy of rising emotional intelligence is social
awareness. It enables you to recognize and understand your emotions
through nonverbal cues. These cues will help you know how others are
feeling and in what kind of emotional state is another person. You must be
socially aware, comfortable, and empathetic when you can understand the
nonverbal cues of people in a group.
When you are building social-awareness, you will need to analyze the
importance of mindfulness in the social awareness process. It requires your
presence at the moment because you cannot pick the nonverbal cues when
you are thinking about other things and striking in your head. when you
have social awareness in you will be able to increase emotional intelligence.
You will focus on these things in better ways;
Relationship Management
Connecting with the emotions of others is an ongoing process that starts
with emotional awareness. The ability to recognize and experiencing an
emotion of others will effectively develop emotional skills which will help
you in making your relationship more effective and fulfilling. One can
improve emotional intelligence by paying attention to these relationship
management skills.
Be Aware of Nonverbal Communication Cues to Effectively Use
Them
Nonverbal communication is the way of giving a message to others
about how you are feeling and thinking. It will help you in conveying your
own emotions as well as understand others. Always remember that the
emotional part of your brain is active even though you ignore them but
others don't. Pay some attention to nonverbal cues and sending to others
play an important role in improving the relationship and emotional
intelligence.
The Feedback
One of the most important ways of enhancing your EQ skills is feedback
from others. whether in your business and personal life this feedback helps
you in understanding what others have an opinion about you. the more you
have to more you build yourself and more will be your emotional
intelligence
The four basic principles and key strategies will play a key role in the
improvement of emotional intelligence. Understanding and developing your
emotional intelligence will open up so many channels of success and
leading a happy and joyful life. It will provide you also leadership qualities
as well. Therefore, it is important to note that if one wants to develop their
emotional intelligence skills and improve them one must follow these
important key skills.
The question will come to your mind that why you should care about
emotional intelligence ?
To answer this question, take a look at this,
The person who will understand and use their EQ skills will:
ne's skills and social skills play equally important in enhancing your
O emotional intelligence as that of others. Personal skills will help you in
performing your role with full potential in your social as well as
personal life whereas social skills will help you in improving your
communication and emotional understanding with others.
Do you know how to remove emotional stress from your words when
you are annoyed by colleagues? or How to show one the pathway of
success and motivate them to work with full potential?
Well, if you answered these questions with a ‘Yes' then you are a person
who has personal and social skills. But if answered these questions is ‘No',
then like others you follow these simple steps to build and improve your
personal and social skills in you.
Practice Listening
When you are on the way of improving your personal and social skills
than one of the best ways of improving them is through practicing listening.
Listening here does not mean just sit and listen to what another person is
saying and throw it down. Here, it simply means just listen to their point of
view about you and others and try to convert it positively to live a good
social and personal life. Listening helps you to improve your good quality.
With good listening ability, the speaker also feels to be respected when
another person is paying attention to them.
Always Be Assertive
It's important to be assertive sometimes. When the person is improving
their communication skills to improve their relationship and work
relationship Then you don't need to hesitate about showing your opinion,
expressing your needs. It will not only remain in your head but also let your
skills down. So, try to be assertive and express yourself, your opinions and
needs to improve your relationship and also to improve your personal and
social skills.
last but not the least
ow as you have read the chapter of this book, you can understand the
N concept of emotional intelligence and why the person must raise their
emotional intelligence skills. There is no doubt in your mind that the
person with low emotional intelligence will suffer in their life. lives in
stressful condition and not able to communicate with another person
effectively which in turn affect their mental, physical as well as emotional
health.
This book must have explained all the essential elements of emotional
intelligence and how they play a vital role in our personal as well as
professional life. We have also focused on the key strategies of developing
these skills in you in this book. If you are well known about emotional
intelligence and its importance but you are not familiar with the keys to
how you will rise inside you and what steps should be taken to improve
your emotional intelligence. Reading this book will also help you in
improving your emotional intelligence with a stepwise guide of rising
different emotional intelligence skills.
This book aims to make you aware of the concept of self-awareness,
social awareness, and relationship management skills so that you can also
lead a happy life. By keeping the key queries in mind about the readers and
their mind we try to keep it simple so that users will not feel struggle to rad
and make them clear about the following criteria of emotional intelligence.
There is no doubt when you read this book you will feel the change in
you. you will fill yourself with positive emotions. You will be able to feel
the change in your mindset after reading this book. The empathy concept
that is included in this book will help you in understanding the concept of
emotions and how you will connect with others.
Reading this book is important because it will help you in living a stress-
free life. The aim of this book is to improve your emotions, your connecting
ability with others, your resolving power of conflict as well as improves
communication.
Enjoy your life .