THE SERVANT

LEADER SESSION 6:
SERVANT LEADER’S
WAY OF SPEAKING
L E A D I N G F O R L A S T I N G I M P A C T
 THE WORLD IS IN
DESPERATE NEED OF A
DIFFERENT LEADERSHIP
ROLE MODEL
-KEN BLANCHARD -
 SERVANT LEADERSHIP

Servant leadership is a leadership philosophy built on the

belief that the most effective leaders strive to serve others,
rather than accrue power or take control.

Too many leaders think that being a leader means power

and authority.

“If you help people get what they want, they will help
you get what you want.” - Zig Ziglar
IT IS NOT ABOUT THE
LEADER, IT IS ABOUT
THE PEOPLE
WORDS ARE VERY
POWERFUL
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 HOW A SERVANT LEADER SPEAKS

“The tongue has no bones but is strong enough

to break a heart. so be careful with your
words.”

“The Servant Leader should learn two things

about his tongue, how to hold it and how to use
it.”
 HOW A SERVANT LEADER SPEAKS

• Loose or Tongue
• Hold our Tongue
• Bridle our Tongue
 LOOSE OUR TONGUE

adjective,loos·er, loos·est.
• free or released from fastening or attachment:a
loose end.
• free from anything that binds or restrains;
unfettered:

LOOSE OUR TONGUE FOR GOOD, TRUTH,

AND GROWTH
 EPHESIANS 4:29

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your

mouths, but only what is helpful for building
others up according to their needs, that it may
benefit those who listen. ”
PROVERBS 18:4

“A person’s words can be life -giving water; words of

true wisdom are as refreshing as a bubbling - brook.”
 HOLD OUR TONGUE

• own
• [transitive] hold something (rather formal) to
own or h ave something

control
• [transitive] hold something to defend something
against attack; to have control of something

WE MUST OWN OUR TONGUE

 1 PETER 3:10

“If you want to enjoy life and see many happy

days, keep your tongue from speaking evil and your
lips from telling lies.”

JAMES 3:8

“But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly

evil, full of deadly poison.”
 BRIDLE OUR TONGUE

transitive verb
• 1: to put a harness with which a horse is
governed on the head of : to put a bridle (see
BRIDLE entry 1 sense 1 ) onbridle a horse

• 2: to restrain, check, or control with or as if with

a bridle
• bridle your tongue
• was forced to bridle her anger
WE MUST OWN OUR TONGUE
 JAMES 3:5 -6

“The tongue is a small thing that makes grand

speeches. But a tiny spark can set a great forest on
fire. And among all the parts of the body, the tongue
is a flame of fire. It is a whole world of wickedness,
corrupting your entire body. It can set your whole
life on fire, for it is set on fire by hell itself.”

FIRE CAN BE GOOD OR BAD

 PROVERBS 16:23

23The heart of the wise instructs his mouth

And adds persuasiveness to his lips.
PROVERBS 2:6

6For the Lord gives wisdom;

From His mouth come knowledge and understanding.

TEACH OUR MOUTH WITH WISDOM

Activity: "Words That Shape Hearts"
Objective: To explore the emotional impact of
words and encourage participants to reflect
on the power of language in shaping
emotions.
Materials Needed:
• Paper
• Pens or markers
• Two containers (e.g., jars or bowls)
• Small pieces of paper or index cards
Instructions:
• Introduction (5 minutes):
⚬ Begin by discussing the power of words and how they can
influence emotions.
⚬ Explain that the activity aims to highlight the impact of
positive and negative words on people's hearts and
emotions.
• Word Brainstorm (10 minutes):
⚬ Have participants brainstorm positive and negative words
as a group. Write these words on a whiteboard or large
paper.
⚬ Encourage open discussion about the feelings associated
with each word.
• Positive/Negative Word Collection (5 minutes):
⚬ Distribute paper and pens to each participant.
⚬ Instruct them to write one positive word and one negative
word on separate pieces of paper.
⚬ Ask participants to reflect on the emotional impact of each
word they choose.
• Jar of Positivity and Jar of Negativity (15 minutes):
⚬ Provide two containers labeled "Jar of Positivity" and "Jar of
Negativity."
⚬ Instruct participants to place their positive word in the "Jar
of Positivity" and their negative word in the "Jar of
Negativity."
• Reflection and Discussion (15 minutes):
⚬ Have participants share their positive words and discuss
how those words make them feel.
⚬ Then, discuss the negative words and explore the emotions
associated with them.
⚬ Encourage participants to reflect on the potential impact of
these words on themselves and others.

• Sharing and Conclusion (10 minutes):

⚬ Allow participants to share their creative expressions or
thoughts with the group.
• Conclude by emphasizing the importance of mindful language
use and how positive words can contribute to a more uplifting
and supportive community.