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) The Science of Love - John Gottman - TEDxVeniceBeach (DownSub - Com)
) The Science of Love - John Gottman - TEDxVeniceBeach (DownSub - Com)
) The Science of Love - John Gottman - TEDxVeniceBeach (DownSub - Com)
and understanding
of how to make love work.
Why?
greater longevity -
nonverbal behavior,
and verbal behavior
to extremely positive
video, physiology,
coded emotion, and perception.
(Laughter)
What predicts?
in general, right?
So startup -
is something we call
the "roach hotel model" of relationships.
was 0.8:1,
But no,
it turned out
in relationships
that were stable and happy
So this five-to-one
positive to negative ratio
I said, "Right."
physiological calm
and trust and commitment.
not hostile,
(Laughter)
So that sucks.
(Laughter)
(Laughter)
by looking at them;
of various parts
of the autonomic nervous system,
So what's trust?
a distrusting relationship
leads to loneliness.
So what is trust?
You know,
(Laughter)
is that in relationships,
there is a turning point,
Betrayal leads
to dissolution very reliably,
(Laughter)
affecting a relationship
and creating the magic,
In their offices,
it took us 15 years
to get these equations.
(Laughter)
So how do we predict
what's going to happen next?
is really critical.
And in physics,
that's called inertia, right?
So here's a husband
along the horizontal axis,
a dynamic portrait
of how it unfolds over time.
And what we do
Going up is positive;
going down is negative.
All right,
OK.
We need equations,
that is powerful?
Or is it weak,
and the therapists really needs to help
make that much more powerful?
So we're looking at
not just a graph and face space,
Hurricane Irma,
Does it work?
A negative attractor,
for our bunnies in the storm, right?
So we did it.
We can do experiments
by changing the parameters,
and mathematically,
So we move -
They're in that
positive-positive quadrant.
of physiological calm,
trust, and commitment,
we know that.
Thank you.
(Applause)