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Table 4.2: Positive Psychological Interventions
Table 4.2: Positive Psychological Interventions
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Situation: a husband responds to his wife’s good news that she is being
considered for a promotion.
Constructive Destructive
Active “That is wonderful! I am so happy for “If you get the promotion, you are
you. You would be excellent in that going to have to be at work all week
new position.” and on Saturday mornings too.”
(responding enthusiastically; (pointing out the downside;
maintaining eye contact, smiling, displaying negative nonverbal cues)
displaying positive emotions)
Passive “That’s nice that you are being “A promotion, huh? Well, hurry
considered for the promotion.” up and get changed so we can get
some dinner. I’m starving.”
(happy, but lacking enthusiasm/ (lacking interest; displaying little
downplaying; little to no active to no eye contact, turning away,
emotional expression) leaving the room)
Only the active-constructive style of responding benefits both the individual with the good news
and the relationship (Gable et al., 2004).
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intimacy within their relationships, and less conflicts (Gable et al., 2004). In
contrast, the other three response styles are negatively related to well-being for
both the person with the good news and one’s relationship with that individual.
In order to get better at active–constructive responding, clients can consciously
work on becoming aware of their usual style of responding by keeping a daily log
of interpersonal interactions. If a person is not often engaging in the active–con-
structive style, he or she can write down what could have been said to make the
response active and constructive and then consciously think about responding in
this way in the future. In addition, if one has access to the person who they failed
to respond to in an active–constructive manner, the individual can intentionally
seek out the person whose good news had been shared and apologize for not being
more enthusiastic the first time. Finally, clients can practice this response style by
purposefully trying to elicit information about the positive events in the lives of
those with whom they interact on a daily basis. Worksheet 4.14 can be provided to
help clients learn to become better at active–constructive responding.
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Constructive Destructive
Active “That is wonderful! I am so “If you get the promotion,
happy for you. You would be you are going to have to
excellent in that new position.” be at work all week and on
Saturday mornings too.”
(responding enthusiastically;
maintaining eye contact, (pointing out the downside;
smiling, displaying positive displaying negative
emotions) nonverbal cues)
Passive “That’s nice that you are “A promotion, huh? Well,
being considered for the hurry up and get changed so
promotion.” we can get some dinner. I’m
starving.”
(happy, but lacking
enthusiasm/downplaying; (lacking interest;
little to no active emotional displaying little to no eye
expression) contact, turning away,
leaving the room)
Of the four styles, only the active–constructive style benefits both the indi-
vidual you are interacting with, as well as your relationship with that person.
In contrast, the other three response styles are negatively related to well-
being for both the person with the good news and your relationship with
that individual (Gable et al., 2004).
In order to get better at active–constructive responding, you can consciously
work on becoming aware of your usual style of responding by keeping a
daily log of your interpersonal interactions. If you are not often engaging
in the active–constructive style, you can write down what could have been
said to make the response active and constructive and then consciously think
about responding in this way in the future. In addition, if you have access
to the person/people who you failed to respond to in an active–constructive
manner, you can intentionally seek out the person/people whose good news
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had been shared and apologize for not being more enthusiastic the first time.
Finally, you can practice this response style by purposefully trying to elicit
information about the positive events in the lives of those with whom you
interact on a daily basis.
The chart on the next page has been designed in order to help you get started
on becoming better at active–constructive responding. Over the course of the
next week, please listen carefully for others to report positive events to you
and go out of your way to respond enthusiastically to their good news. As
noted above, if in retrospect you realize that you failed to respond actively
and constructively to someone’s good news, please consider seeking out the
person and apologizing for not responding more enthusiastically and be sure
to respond in this manner the next time they share their good news.
Finally, you are encouraged to take note of how those in your personal life
respond when you share good news with them. If you identify that your
friends, family, or significant others fail to respond in the active–constructive
style, you might want to teach them about the value of active–constructive
responding and how to implement it. Indeed, many people are willing and
able to use the active–constructive response style once they understand the
importance of this response style in terms of relationship enhancement.
Active–constructive responding log
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