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Lecture 9 - Relationships and Gender
Lecture 9 - Relationships and Gender
Lecture 9 - Relationships and Gender
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Announcements
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PERSONALITY AND
RELATIONSHIPS
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Personality and Relationships
• Attraction Similarity Theory
– Assortative Mating
– We’re attracted to people like us
• Complementary Needs theory
– We’re attracted to people whose personality
complements ours
– Opposites Attract
• Which is right?
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What people want:
Correlation Between Self’s Personality and
Preferred Partner Personality
.70
Men Women
.60
.50
.40
.30
.20
.10
.00 5
Extraversion Agreeableness Conscientiousness Openness
Emotional Stability
What people get:
.70
Actual Correlation Between Partners’
.60 Personalities
.50 No support for
Complementary Needs
.40 Theory
Some (weak) evidence for
.30 assortative mating
.20
.10
.00
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Another explanation for low
similarity
• Many studies show little personality similarity
between partners
– rs typically below .10
– But, self-reported personality may be biased due
to reference group effect
– When judging our own personality, we compare
ourselves to people we spend time with
• These people tend to be like us
• So we exaggerate small differences
– As a result, our self-rated personality may seem
more different from our partner’s than is accurate
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How to deal with the reference
group effect?
• What if we measure personality with
behaviour, instead of self-report?
– Avoid reference group problem
• Behaviour on social media (e.g., Facebook)
can be used to measure personality
• Likes ( ) and words used (e.g., “happy”,
“amazing”) in posts predict Big 5 traits
– People who curly fries are more likely to be
intelligent
– People who like Hello Kitty are higher in O and N,
and lower in C and A 8
Measuring partner similarity with
Facebook behaviour
O O
.40 .40
.30
.20
.30
.20
20
similarity between
partners was r = .24
N C N C
.10
10 .10
Using language in
A
Romantic Couple
O: Openness to Experience
C: Conscientiousness
O E: Extraversion O
r = .50 A: Agreeableness r = .50
N: Neuroticism
.40 .40
Using self-report,
.3
.30 .30
.20 .20
N C N C
average similarity
.10 .10
.1
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What do people want in a partner?
(International Sample)
• Males • Females
– Mutual attraction/love (2.81) – Mutual attraction/love (2.87)
– Dependable (2.50) – Dependable (2.69)
– Emotional stability (2.47) – Emotional stability (2.68)
– Pleasing disposition (2.44) – Pleasing disposition (2.52)
– Good health (2.31) – Education/Intelligence (2.45)
– Education/Intelligence (2.27) – Sociability (2.30)
– Sociability (2.15) – Good health (2.28)
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Traits that Predict (heteronormative)
Partner’s Satisfaction
• Overall:
– Husband: A, ES, O/I (in wife)
– Wife: A, C, ES, O/I (in husband)
• Confide:
– Husband: A (in wife)
– Wife: A, ES, O/I (in husband)
• Sexual:
– Husband: A, C, ES (in wife)
– Wife: A (in husband)
• Enjoyment:
– Husband: A, ES (in wife)
– Wife: A, ES (in husband) 13
Which traits predict future
relationship quality and conflict?
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Do emotion expressions influence
sexual attractiveness?
• Research Study (Tracy & Beall, 2011)
asked:
Are there gender differences in which
emotion expressions people perceive as
the most attractive?
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How do emotion expressions relate
to sexual attractiveness?
Pride is the most attractive male emotion
expression and one of the least attractive
when shown by women
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How do emotion expressions relate
to sexual attractiveness?
Shame is attractive when shown by both
genders
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Expression of Emotions in
Relationships
• Gottman & Levenson
• Newlywed couples engaged in conflict discussion
while videotaped
– Videotapes coded for emotional responses, style of
interaction [Observational data]
– Physiological measures [Test-data]
– Couple members rate partner’s relationship
satisfaction [Informant data] and own satisfaction [Self-
data]
• Couples followed up to 5 years later
• Divorce was predicted from data, with 83%
accuracy 23
The “Love Lab”
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Four Main Factors that
Predict Divorce
• 1. Criticism vs. Complaint:
– Criticism: Global statement of anger, displeasure,
distress, or other negativity, tends to be blaming (e.g.,
“You never take me anywhere.”)
– Complaint: specific statement of anger, displeasure,
distress, or other negativity (e.g., “We don’t go out as
much as I would like to”)
• Criticisms (but not complaints) predict divorce
• Escalation of negative affect is very bad
– De-escalation of negative affect (e.g., through humor) is
very good
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Four Main Factors that
Predict Divorce
• 2. Contempt: Insult, mockery, sarcasm, or
derision of the other person.
– Includes disapproval, judgment, disdain,
exasperation, mockery, put-downs, or
communicating that the other person is absurd or
incompetent
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Four Main Factors that
Predict Divorce
• 3. Defensiveness: Attempt to protect one’s
self from perceived attack
– May include denial of responsibility, counter-
blame, rationalizing behaviour
– May be a response to “Mindreading”
• Attribution of motives, feelings, or behaviors made by
one partner to the other partner
• Example: “You always get tense in situations like this.”
“No I don’t. You are the one who always gets tense!”
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Four Main Factors that
Predict Divorce
• 4. Stonewalling: The listener presents a “stone wall”
to his/her partner.
– No small “assenting” vocalizations like “mmmm’ or
“yeah”
– No head nods; neck is rigid
– There is little gaze at the speaker
– Little facial movement, but when there is it is negative
– 85% of stonewallers are male
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Overall Findings
• Four “horsemen of the apocalypse” (criticism,
contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling)
predict divorce
• What distinguishes satisfied and dissatisfied
couples is not how frequently they conflict, but
the way in which negative feelings are expressed
during conflicts.
– Disagreements not more common among dissatisfied
couples, but dissatisfied couples more likely to express
disagreement with negative affect
• A 5:1 ratio of positive interactions to negative
interactions is characteristic of a good marriage
– ONE negative interaction can wipe out the effects of
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several positive interactions
Overall Findings
• Negative emotions are associated with high
levels of physiological arousal for men, but
not for women
– Men may avoid negative affect in relationships
because it is more physiologically punishing
– Emotionally, men experience lower levels of
negative affect than women
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Personality and Gender/Sex
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But wait, is it even ok to talk
about gender differences in
personality?
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Talk of Gender Differences:
controversial!
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Damore’s views expressed by scientists, too
( B a ro n - C o h e n , 2 0 0 4 )
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Gender Difference in Math
and Science
• Varies by culture
– Most prominent in USA, where culture
dictates that math is not “cool” for girls
• In the 1980s, American middle-school
boys outperformed girls, at the highest
ability level, by 13 to 1. Now, it’s 3 to 1.
• Gender difference only emerges after
elementary school
– When math gets harder, boys are
encouraged to push through 40
Why is gender differences
such a dangerous topic?
• But, what about the progress of
science?
– Do we need to talk about the possibility of
gender differences in order to learn the
scientific truth?
– Or, does this kind of conversation
inherently promote problematic gender
differences?
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UBC research addressed this issue
10
15
20
25
0
5
No-
Difference
(ND)
Standard
Sterotype
Threat (S)
Genetics
(G)
Experiential
(E)
Gender Difference Study: Results
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Math Performance
10
15
20
25
0
5
No-
Difference
(ND)
Standard
Sterotype
Threat (S)
Genetics
(G)
Experiential
(E)
Gender Difference Study: Results
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Math Performance
10
15
20
25
0
5
No-
Difference
(ND)
Standard
Sterotype
Threat (S)
Genetics
(G)
Experiential
(E)
Gender Difference Study: Results
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Gender Difference Study
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Are there gender differences in
cognitive abilities?
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Gender Differences in Personality
(positive effects mean men > women)
• Extraversion d
– Gregariousness -.15
– Assertiveness .50
– Activity .09
• Agreeableness
– Trust -.25
– Tender-mindedness -.97
– Aggressiveness .40- .86 (depending on measure)
• Conscientiousness
– Order -.13
• Emotional Stability
– Anxiety -.28
– Impulsiveness .06
• Openness
– Ideas .03
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Gender Differences in Emotion
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Is there a gender difference
in aggression?
• Until age 2, No!
– In fact, some evidence suggests that aggression is
more common in play groups dominated by girls
• By age 4 or 5, boys show higher aggression
• By adolescence, boys are much more
aggressive
– Also have more conduct problems, higher
delinquency
• Conduct disorders are 6-10 times more common
in boys
• Men commit more crime across cultures
Homicide trends in the U.S.
• Males were almost 10 times more likely
than females to commit murder in 2002
90 Boys Girls
80
70
60
50
40
30
20
10
0
Low Medium High
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14
12
10 Boys
8 Girls
6
4
2
0
Relational Overt
Other Gender Differences:
Self-Esteem
4.00
3.80
3.60
3.40
3.20
3.00
Men Women 57
Is there a gender difference in
self-esteem at every age?
4.00
3.90
3.80
3.70
3.60
Self-Esteem
3.50
3.40
3.30
3.20
3.10
3.00
9 to 13 to 18 to 24 to 31 to 41 to 51 to 61 to 71 to
12 17 23 30 40 50 60 70 90
Age 58
Self-Esteem By Gender and Age
Men Women
4.00
3.90
3.80
3.70
3.60
Self-Esteem
3.50
3.40
3.30
3.20
3.10
3.00
9 to 12 13 to 17 18 to 23 24 to 30 31 to 40 41 to 50 51 to 60 61 to 70 71 to 90
Age
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Adolescent Decline in
Self-Esteem
0.50
0.40
0.30
Self-Esteem
0.20
0.10
0.00
-0.10
-0.20
9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17
Age 60
Adolescent Decline:
Gender Difference
0.50
0.40
0.30
Self-Esteem
0.20
Boys
0.10
0.00
Girls
-0.10
-0.20
9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17
Age 61
Why Do Girls Show a Greater Self-
Esteem Decline than Boys?
What happens at adolescence?
• Girls’ self-confidence fairly high until age 11
or 12
– Assertive about feelings
• During adolescence
– Many girls accept stereotyped notions of
how they should be (behavior and looks)
• Repress true feelings
• Adopt a “nice” and woman-like self-
presentation
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Why do adolescent girls decline in
self-esteem more than boys?
• Idealized standards of beauty may
contribute to girls’ declining self-esteem
• Historically, girls’ bodies changed with
puberty in ways that made it harder to
maintain the idealized body type
presented by the media
– Boys body changes more consistent with
idealized images
– Is this still true?
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Gender Difference in Body Image
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Body Image- Self-esteem Study
(conducted ~2005)
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Methods
• Internet sample
• 34 countries
• Measured self-esteem in children (ages 9-
12) and adolescents (ages 13-17)
– Self-esteem levels drop, overall, between
these two age groups
• Coded each country for availability of
popular women’s magazines
(Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Vogue)
– 11 countries had access to these magazines68
The Adolescent Decline:
0.25
Exposure to Women’s Magazines No Exposure
Increase
Exposure
0.125
-0.125
Decrease
Boys Girls 69
-0.25
Gender Roles
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Hyde et al.
(2019, American Psychologist)
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Sex Differences
vs. Gender-Roles
• Sex Differences
– Actual differences between males and females
in personality traits, self-esteem, aggression,
achievement, etc.
• Gender-Roles (sometimes considered—or
confused with–gender identity)
– Stereotypes or beliefs about what it means to
be a “man” or a “woman”
– Socialization of boys and girls to act in “gender
appropriate” or sex-stereotypical ways
– Development of gender identity
Research on Gender Roles
• The study of androgyny
– 1970’s: politically motivated search to separate
sex roles and biological sex
• Masculinity and femininity
– Personality dimensions
– Men and women can be high or low on both (or
either)
– Masculinity: Instrumentality, assertiveness,
dominance
– Femininity: nurturance, emotional expression,
empathy
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Are masculinity and femininity
sex-related dimensions?
• Now typically studied as instrumentality and
expressiveness or agency and communality
• Gender schemata
– Cognitive orientations that lead people to process
information through a sex-linked perspective
• One study found that variation in gender-typical
behaviors is partly due to genetic variance
– In women, 38% of variance in gender-typical behaviors
due to genes
– Genes for sex-typical behaviorsà but these genes are
not necessarily linked to biological sex
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Stereotypes about Gender
• Highly consistent across cultures
• Men
– Aggressive, autonomous, achievement-oriented,
dominant, exhibitionist, persevering
– INSTRUMENTAL / AGENTIC
• Women
– Affiliative, deferent, nurturant, self-abasing
– COMMUNAL
• Stereotypes converge with actual sex
differences, but are larger (exaggerated)
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Gender Stereotypes
• Cognitive component
– Social categories (e.g., ‘dads’, ‘soccer moms’)
• Affective component
– Positive or negative feelings that result from
categorization
• i.e., sexism, preference for one gender over the other
• Behavioral component
– Treating people differently because of their social
category
• E.g., job discrimination
• E.g., teachers giving more attention to boys
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Prejudice Against Women As Leaders
(Eagly & Karau, 2002)
Incongruity
Men and Leaders match
Women and Leaders don’t match as well
Prejudice
Lowered evaluations of women as actual or potential leaders
How can we explain the gender
differences in personality that
have been observed?
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Theories of Gender Differences
• Socialization theory (e.g., Eagly & Wood)
– Boys and girls are raised differently
– Fits with Bandura’s Social Learning Theory
• Children observe and learn from same-sex parent
– Evidence supports this theory
• Parents encourage dependency in girls more than
boys
• More physical play with boys
• Socialization differences replicate across cultures
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Limitations of Socialization Theory
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Hormonal Theories
• Sex differences due to different hormones
– Men have higher testosterone than women
• Hormonal influences on sex differences begin
in utero
– Congenital Adrenal Hyperlasia (CAH)
• Female fetus has overactive adrenal gland, hormonally
masculinized
• Prefer “male” toys
• But – criticisms have been raised about which toys are
considered “male”
– Does not include puzzles, Lincoln logs
– Inconsistent across studies
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Other Evidence for
Hormonal Theories
• In women, higher testosterone is linked with
– Pursuing a more ‘masculine’ career
– Greater career success
– Greater dominance and aggressiveness
• Female prison inmates with more disciplinary
infractions have higher testosterone
• More rambunctious frat boys have higher
testosterone
• Men with higher testosterone have higher sex
drive
• Women have higher drive when T peaks
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Conclusions on Sex and
Gender Roles
• There are, on average, major biological
differences between males and females
– Some of these may be evolved, occur in-
vitro
– These biological differences (like hormones)
influence personality
• Cultural stereotypes about gender also shape
personality and behavior (gender roles)
• It is often difficult to know whether a particular
observed gender difference is biological or
socially learned 85
What about people who are
transgender or non-binary?
• New area of research, very few studies
• Olson and colleagues tested whether
transgender kids (age 5-12) show cognitive
associations more similar to cisgender kids
of same birth gender or same gender identity
• Results: Transgender kids were
indistinguishable from cisgender kids who
share same gender identity
– E.g., cisgender boys had similar automatic
cognitions as transgender boys 86
Instructor Evaluations
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