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The Red or Black Card Game
This game will help me get to know you better. Pick the top card. If
it’s red, answer the question. If it’s black, pick from the Get Moving
Grab Bag and follow the instructions. Play until all the questions
have been answered.
1. Make a happy face. Then say something that makes you happy.
2. Make a sad face. Then say something that makes you sad.
3. Make a scared face. Then say something that makes you scared.
4. Make an angry face. What makes you feel angry? What makes
your (caregiver) feel angry? What do they do when they’re
angry?
5. What do you know about when, where, how (the deceased) died?
6. What are your questions or worries since the person died?
7. What are 2 changes that have happened since the person died?
8. Who helps you when you have a problem or worry? How do they
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This activity will help you talk about the important people in your
world. The first step is to fill in the picture of the world by
writing the names of the important people:
1) Put yourself in your world
2) Put the people you live with and others in your family
3) Put relatives who you spend a lot of time with or who help
take care of you
4) Put your teacher
5) Put other important people who you feel especially close with
or who have hurt/upset you a lot
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People in My World
Put happy faces on anyone who feels happy a lot. How come they’re happy?
Draw sad faces on anyone who feels sad a lot. How come they’re sad?
Put bees on anyone who feels angry a lot. How come they’re angry?
Put spiders on anyone you feel afraid of. How come you’re afraid of them?
Put dots on anyone who did something very wrong or very bad. What did
they do that was very wrong or bad?
Put bears on anyone who takes good care of you or helps you when you have
a problem or worry. What do they do to help you?
People in My World
Draw yellow happy faces on anyone who feels happy a lot. How come they’re
happy?
Draw blue sad faces on anyone who feels sad a lot. How come they’re sad?
Draw purple X’s on anyone who feels angry a lot. How come they’re angry?
Draw green X’s on anyone who feels scared a lot. How come they’re scared?
Draw black X’s on anyone who did something very wrong or very bad. What
did they do that was very wrong or bad?
Draw red hearts on anyone who helps you when you have a problem or worry.
What do they do to help you?
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that it stops working forever. Dead people don’t breathe
because their bodies don’t work anymore. Dead people don’t
move because their bodies don’t work anymore. Dead people
don’t hurt because their bodies don’t work anymore. Dead
people don’t need to eat or sleep because their bodies don’t
work anymore.
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•Dead people don’t breathe because their bodies don’t work
anymore. You are alive which means you can breathe. Breathe
in and out three times.
The Funeral
1. Describe the funeral the animals planned for their friend
the zebra.
3. Did you see the body of your special person after s/he
died? What was that like?
5. What did you feel at the funeral and were you able to
show your true feelings?
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Messages In Art: Process Questions
1.What was it like to communicate your message through art?
2.How did you feel during the message creation and message
delivery part of this activity?
3.How did it feel to receive the message from your family
member?
4.What did you learn through this activity about ways to
communicate with your family about your thoughts and
feelings?
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Child: Pay close attention to your parent’s drawing to see how much
of it they get right. After your parent is finished, look at the
emotional pie chart and correct it to change the size of slices, add
or take slices away, etc. This can be done by remaking the pie chart
on a second sheet of paper.
• Parent: What can you do at home to help your child open up with
you about their emotions?
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3. Have you ever felt guilty for your special person’s death? If
yes, why did you feel guilty?
4. What words of advice can you give yourself to help get rid of
your guilt?
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Helpful Talk Puppets
Helpful talk is what you say to yourself to feel better. So when your
favorite toy breaks, if you say now I have nothing fun to do, this will
make you feel sad. But if you say I have other fun things to do, this
will make you feel better. Let’s learn helpful talk so you can make
yourself feel better. We’re going to use puppets to help you learn to
do helpful talk.
First, let’s make puppets. I will make a puppet to talk for me, and
you will make a puppet to talk for you.
let’s use our puppets to do helpful talk. Let’s pretend your puppet is
upset. My puppet is the helper. My puppet will show you how to do
helpful talk to make your puppet feel better. Then your puppet will
copy what my puppet says.
CHILD’S PUPPET: I’m worried about who will take care of me.
HELPER PUPPET: There will always be a grown-up to take care of me.
CHILD’S PUPPET COPIES THE HELPFUL TALK: There will always be a
grown-up to take care of me.
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Helpful Talk Puppets
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HELPER PUPPET: Even when I don’t listen or I break rules, my (caregiver)
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Yoou shared many times with your special person before they died. It is
important to capture these memories so you don’t forget them. Video
yourself talking about your memories. Below is a guide you may want to
follow. Keep your video in a safe, private place. Watch it every once in a
while—it will help keep your memories alive forever!
1. Begin by telling who your special person was and what they meant to you
2. Describe in as much detail as possible what your special person looked like
3. Record some of your memories. Here are some ideas of what to include:
Your earliest memory of your special person
Holidays, birthdays, trips, or other special celebrations
Things your special person used to say
Times you and your special person hugged or cuddled together
Special moments when you made your special person proud
Nicest thing the person ever did for you
4. End by talking about your best time with your special person
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Memories
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This activity is completed partially outside the session. The
client is asked to take pictures of different items and places
that bring them joy and that trigger their painful emotions
of grief. The client prints the pictures and brings them to
the session to create a collage and to discuss and process.
(NOTE: Discuss with the youth ways they will cope with
painful emotions that may be triggered while doing this
activity.)
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Tear Art
Tear the paper into shapes or strips while thinking about
what's upsetting you. You can then use the torn pieces to
create a new piece of art on a separate sheet, focusing on
transforming your feelings of loss and sadness into
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Letter to the Person Who Died
Starting the letter: Since your death I have been feeling…
Early memories: When I think back to our times together, one of
the first memories is when you/we…
Positive memories: Some of my happiest memories together are
when we…
Upsetting memories: One of the worst times is when you/we…
Apologies: I am sorry that I…
Forgiveness: I forgive you for…
Yearning: What I miss most about you… I will miss that we will never
be able to…I feel sad that you won’t be there when I…
Unsaids: If you were here now I would tell you…I wish I would have
told you…
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Your sadness about your special person’s death will come and go.
There will be times when you feel happy and other times when you
feel sad. Even long after the death, certain things will remind you of
the person who died, and this may make you feel sad. These are
called grief bursts. Holidays or other special occasions may be even
more difficult, because you will wish your special person could be
with you. On these special days, you might feel happy if it’s a fun
day, and you might also feel sad, angry, or other upset feelings
because you will miss the person who died. When you miss the
person who died, there are things you can do to cope with these
hard days.
First, put the teddy bear puzzle together, then tape it on all sides.
Read the ideas written on the bear. You can draw a happy face
beside the ideas you like best! Then you can decorate your teddy
bear.
Put the teddy bear beside your bed. When you’re feeling sad or
upset, choose one of the ideas on your bear that will help you feel
better.
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Grief Burst Calendar
• Honor your special person’s memory on the anniversary of their
death, for example, look at family photos, eat your special
person’s favorite food, participate in one of your special person’s
favorite activities.
• You can still celebrate your special person’s birthday even though
they are dead. Honor your special person by making them a
birthday card and eating birthday cake. You can even blow out
candles and make a birthday wish on behalf of your special
person!
• On your birthday, write down or draw a picture of a special
memory you shared with your special person. Let this memory be
a gift you give to yourself each year.
• Decorate your calendar with helpful thoughts such as, "I miss my
special person but I'm going to be okay."
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We are going to play a brainstorming game that's going to help us
talk about anger. The object of the game is for each team to come
up with as many items as they can for each category. For example,
if the category is 'things that make people laugh' then each team
must make a list of things that make people laugh, and the team
with the longest list wins that round. Each round lasts three
minutes. At the end of each round, each team reads aloud the
items on their list. If both teams have the same item on their lists,
it gets crossed off. Each remaining item counts for one point. The
points are accumulated each round, and the team with the most
points at the end of the game wins.
Brainstormers
• Things that make kids your age angry
• Things that make adults angry
• Things that happen to your body when you feel angry
• Unsafe ways to express anger
• Ways to help your body relax when you feel angry
• Positive messages kids can say to themselves to calm down when
they feel angry
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participants can be given one or more flowers. Explain that they
are to think about what they have learned and how they have grown
over the course of the group. Have participants write about their
new learning or growth on the flowers. The flowers are taped onto
the mural paper to create a garden. Members can work together to
decorate the mural by adding accents to the garden such as a sky,
sun, butterflies, etc. Group members then take turns sharing what
is written on their flowers. The end product results in a beautiful
visual of accomplishments for the group members. A picture can be
taken of the mural and a copy made for each group member.
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Cookie Jar
You have done a great job talking about your feelings and learning
ways to feel better! This means you’re almost ready to stop coming
here. This activity is called Cookie Jar. It will help you understand
why you’re almost ready to stop coming here. Open the cookie jar,
take out one cookie and eat the cookie. The remaining cookies in the
jar show how many more times you will be coming here. There are
four cookies left in the jar. So you will be coming here four more
times, and then you and I will be saying our last goodbye to each
other. Place the lid on the cookie jar. Ask me to say some of the
important things you have learned here and to explain why you are
almost ready to stop coming here. We’ll do this activity again at the
end of our next three sessions (eat one cookie from the cookie jar,
count the remaining cookies in the jar, and say how many more times
you will be coming here). At the end of the three sessions, there will
be one cookie left in the cookie jar, which means you will come here
one last time. The last time you come will be a time for us to say a
last goodbye to each other. We will do a special activity the last
time you come to help us say a last goodbye to each other. At the
end of your last session, you will get to eat the last cookie left in
the jar.
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