Chapter 6: How to Deal with Conflict

Summary

In this chapter, Ricks discusses the importance of learning how to deal with conflict in a healthy
way. He defines conflict as "any situation in which two or more people have different goals or
desires, and those goals or desires are incompatible." He then goes on to discuss the different
ways that conflict can be prevented and resolved.

Key Terms and Concepts

• Conflict: A situation in which two or more people have different goals or desires, and
those goals or desires are incompatible.
• Prevention: Taking steps to avoid conflict before it happens.
• Resolution: Finding a mutually agreeable solution to a conflict.
• Communication: The process of exchanging information between two or more people.
• Assertiveness: The ability to stand up for one's own rights and needs in a respectful way.
• Forgiveness: The process of letting go of anger and resentment towards someone who has
wronged you.
Questions and Exercises

1. What are some common causes of conflict?

2. What are some ways to prevent conflict?
3. What are some steps involved in resolving conflict?
4. What are some Bible verses that talk about conflict?
5. How can you apply the principles of conflict resolution in your own life?
Discussion Prompts

• What is the most difficult type of conflict for you to deal with?
• What are some ways that you have learned to prevent conflict?
• What are some steps that you have taken to resolve conflict in your own life?
• What are some Bible verses that have helped you to deal with conflict?
Application Exercises

• Think of a recent conflict that you experienced. What could you have done differently to
prevent or resolve the conflict?
• Write a letter to someone you have been in conflict with, expressing your willingness to
forgive them.
 • Make a list of the conflict resolution skills that you would like to improve. Set a goal to
practice one of these skills each day for the next week.
Biblical References

• "If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you.
If he listens to you, you have won your brother over." (Matthew 18:15)
• "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." (Proverbs 15:1)
• "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave
you." (Ephesians 4:32)