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COMM 190 Reflection Paper 2
COMM 190 Reflection Paper 2
with others. With just a few taps, I can find romantic or sexual partners within my geographic
proximity (Goedel & Duncan, 2015). Branded as inclusive and diverse alternatives to popular
dating apps that primarily cater to heterosexual relationships, gay dating apps provide a
space where I can connect with others like me and express my gender identity (Grindr, n.d.).
However, dating apps, especially as a space socially produced by gay men, still serve to
empower traditional masculinity and perpetuate the marginalization among the marginalized.
spaces that contribute to the phenomenon of marginalization among gay men. Lefebvre
(1992) proposed three ways to understand a socially produced space, namely conceived
space, perceived space, and lived space. He defined a conceived space as the designed
aspects of a space, which often mirrors a dominant ideology. Meanwhile, perceived space is
defined as the space perceived by physical experience, which includes patterns of behaviors
and ultimately influences attitudes toward that space. Lastly, the lived space relates to
individuals’ symbolic and affective relationships with the space. In his seminal study,
Taywaditep (2002) described gay men’s rejection of effeminacy and adoption of masculinity
environment, they begin to feel ashamed of their effeminacy and eventually change their
gender identity and expression into the acceptable In doing so, gay men marginalized their
own kind and opted to present themselves in a way that aligns with the dominant
characteristics of masculinity.
Grindr and Bumble users curate their public image by selecting images and editing
their bios to present a version of themselves. These apps allow their users to display
pictures, given that such pictures comply with the app’s community guidelines. Users can
also indicate basic information about themselves, including their name, age, measurements,
and the type of relationship sought. Apart from these pieces of information, these apps also
allow users to write a short introduction about themselves. Users can freely flaunt their
However, it is important to note that the content produced in such dating apps is not
the same as the content shared in these apps. While users indeed produce the profiles
themselves, the actual products being shared are what these profiles represent: a specific
messaging technologies (e.g., email). This model posits that users maximize computer
features (i.e., editability and asynchronicity) to manage other users’ impressions of them and
improve social relations. Aside from desktop communication, selective self-presentation also
extends to online dating in that dating apps possess certain features analogous to those of
desktop or email communication (Alibazah et al., 2020). Users can edit textual descriptions
of themselves (i.e., bios), select which images to display, and even withhold certain
themselves that they believe will garner them the most favorable relational outcomes
(Walther, 2007).
Despite the similarities between Grindr and Bumble, there are still differences in the
uses and affordances of the two apps. For one, Grindr evidently caters to the LGBTQIA+
community and solely focuses on homosexual and bisexual relationships. Although Bumble
offers its users the option to seek the same gender, it primarily attends to heterosexual
relationships due to the feature that allows female-identifying users to make the first move
and the limited number of male-identifying users who seek others like them. In other words,
Bumble was created for (and was marketed toward) women only (Young & Roberts, 2021). It
was only later that it added the feature to change to other sexual orientations, gender
Considering the type of audience targeted by Grindr and Bumble, users’ affordances
and preferences change with respect to the kind of self-presentation and the level of
self-disclosure on the apps. For example, Grindr allows its users to send private albums to
one another. These albums cannot be screen-captured and can be easily withdrawn by
users. This feature can be attributed to the stringent preference for masculine
self-presentation and Grindr's generally low level of self-disclosure. Cascalheira and Smith
(2019) found that traditionally masculine profiles on public grids had a stronger influence on
partner selection on Grindr. Meanwhile, Miller (2019) found a low level of face disclosure on
Grindr, which was then positively related to a higher level of negative attitudes toward
effeminacy. Relating to these negative attitudes toward effeminacy, many gay men
defeminize their self-presentation on public grids and private albums to appear more socially
desirable. Despite being originally intended to protect queer people, the conceived space
(afforded by features like public grids and private albums) on Grindr seemingly rewards the
Grindr and Bumble also change the way users form relationships with one another. A
prominent example is the type of relationship sought on these apps. On Grindr, users are
found to seek casual encounters and hookups primarily (Goedel & Duncan, 2015).
Meanwhile, less than 4% of male-identifying Bumble users use the app for casual
encounters and hookups (Bumble, n.d.). Considering these usage habits, users perceive
Grindr as a space only for seeking casual sex and not serious romantic relationships. Users’
oneself, especially when gender is seen as a binary of two forces. Miller (2015) found that
shame contributes to the stigmatization of homosexuality and sex in general (Parker et al.,
2016).
Truth be told, among my deep insecurities as a gay man is my hypocrisy in what I
present about myself and what I seek in others. As much as I want to be myself, I also want
to be wanted by others. In my case, I’m more likely to express myself more authentically on
Bumble than on Grindr. My Bumble profile includes nice pictures of myself (with visible face
and all) and contains answers to prompts that best exemplify my personality. On the other
hand, my Grindr profile is sparse. It contains neither face pictures nor basic information
about myself. Nevertheless, I use Grindr because it provides a space specifically for people
like me despite becoming a weapon of exclusion. The sheer scarcity of spaces for queer
people forced me to make do with what spaces are available. Most of the time, these spaces
are claimed and then reclaimed by the queer people who inhabit them. If we do not occupy
these spaces, we won’t have the power to expand them enough to make our identities
Queer people have always existed between liminal spaces, after all. I exist between
masculinity and femininity, between safe and unsafe spaces. It is precisely my existence
between two seemingly opposite forces that create a space that is mine and mine alone.
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Appendix
Figure 1
My friends and I attend Ms. Serena M. Vaswani’s seminar about authorship and
fandom
According to the seminar, fan fiction has changed the way authorships work in
attributed to the one who wrote the said fiction. Instead, it is shared with the rest of the fans
who create so-called “universes,” which are story worlds that may or may not align with the
original piece of literature. Sometimes, the one who wrote the piece of fan fiction disclaims
their work out of fear of punishment by the original creators. Nevertheless, the piece of fan
fiction is shared by the fan base, which are in part facilitated by virtual spaces on social
media.