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Taking Charge Manual
Taking Charge Manual
Taking Charge Manual
WOMEN AT WORK
LIVE ONLINE TRAINING
Learning Objectives
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Learning Modules
Module Module Module
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Self- Play to My Strengths In
Compassion Strengths Action
& Acceptance
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MODULE 1
SELF-COMPASSION & ACCEPTANCE
My Ideal Self
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My Ideal Self
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My Ideal Self
Describe your ideal self:
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Feel very unhappy with Feel OK with myself Feel very happy with
myself and totally myself and confident
lacking confidence about things
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What do you normally say to yourself?
2. Why am I always
1. I have done a great job!
doing something wrong?
5. Everyone makes
6. I am not good enough;
mistakes, I don’t need to
I need to improve.
blame myself.
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With self-compassion, we
give ourselves the same
kindness and care we’d
give to a good friend.
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Self-Compassion is not:
Self-Pity
Self-Indulgence
Self-Esteem
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Self-Compassion, includes:
Empathize myself
Accept myself
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Benefits of Self-Compassion:
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Self-Compassion Scale
HOW I TYPICALLY ACT TOWARDS MYSELF IN DIFFICULT TIMES
Please read each statement carefully before answering. Please indicate how often you behave in the stated manner,
using the following scale:
1 - Almost never 2 – Occasionally 3 - About half of the time 4 - Fairly Often 5 - Almost Always
No Statement Rate
1 I’m disapproving and judgmental about my own flaws and inadequacies.
2 When I’m feeling down I tend to obsess and fixate on everything that’s wrong.
3 When things are going badly for me, I see the difficulties as part of life that everyone goes through.
4 When I think about my inadequacies, it tends to make me feel more separate and cut off from the rest of the world.
5 I try to be loving towards myself when I’m feeling emotional pain.
6 When I fail at something important to me, I become consumed by feelings of inadequacy.
7 When I'm down and out, I remind myself that there are lots of other people in the world feeling like I am.
8 When times are really difficult, I tend to be tough on myself.
9 When something upsets me, I try to keep my emotions in balance.
10 When I feel inadequate in some way, I try to remind myself that feelings of inadequacy are shared by most people.
11 I’m intolerant and impatient towards those aspects of my personality I don't like. 16
Self-Compassion Scale
No Statement Rate
12 When I’m going through a very hard time, I give myself the caring and tenderness I need.
13 When I’m feeling down, I tend to feel like most other people are probably happier than I am.
14 When something painful happens, I try to take a balanced view of the situation.
15 I try to see my failings as part of the human condition.
16 When I see aspects of myself that I don’t like, I get down on myself.
17 When I fail at something important to me, I try to keep things in perspective.
18 When I’m really struggling, I tend to feel like other people must be having an easier time of it.
19 I’m kind to myself when I’m experiencing suffering.
20 When something upsets me, I get carried away with my feelings.
21 I can be a bit cold-hearted towards myself when I'm experiencing suffering.
22 When I'm feeling down, I try to approach my feelings with curiosity and openness.
23 I’m tolerant of my own flaws and inadequacies.
24 When something painful happens, I tend to blow the incident out of proportion.
25 When I fail at something that's important to me, I tend to feel alone in my failure.
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Self-Compassion Scale
Elements Questions Score
Self-Kindness 5, 12, 19, 23, 26
VS
Self-Judgments
Ignoring our pain or flagellating
ourselves with self-criticism.
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Common Humanity
Suffering and personal inadequacy is
part of the shared human experience.
VS
Isolation
“I” were the only person suffering or
making mistakes.
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Mindfulness
A non-judgmental, receptive mind state
in which one observes thoughts and
feelings as they are, without trying to
suppress or deny them.
VS
Over Identification
“Over-identified” with thoughts and
feelings, so that we are caught up and
swept away by negative reactivity.
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Self-Compassion Exercises
1. Self- 2. 3. Write a
Compassion Supportive Letter to
Break Touch Yourself
4. Changing 5. Self-
Critical Self- Compassion
talk Journal
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Letter to Myself
Dear ___________,
I remember____________________________________________________
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I feel_________________________________________________________
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I discover______________________________________________________
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Changing Critical Self-Talk
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11 12 13 14 15
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Who Are You?
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My Best Self Reflections ®
What/who else contributed to these moments? How clear are you about your purpose in your career?
How will you know when you are at your best? What values do you want to create?
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My Best Self Reflections ®
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SIGNs of Strong Life
S I G N
Successful Instinctive Growing & Needs
Anticipation Learning Fulfilled
• Feels effective and • Feels hope, • Feeling of growth, • Purpose,
capable. excitement and joy. focus and relationship and
• Affirmation of • Looks forward to concentrate. recognition needs
strengths. tomorrow. • Getting better at are fulfilled.
something.
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Focusing on strengths is the
surest way to greater job
satisfaction, team performance
and organizational excellence.
Marcus Buckingham
New York Times Best Selling Author
Founder of the Strengths Revolution
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PEOPLE WHO FOCUS
ON USING THEIR STRENGTHS…
AND 6 TIMES AS
LIKELY TO BE
MORE SUCCESSFUL
IN THEIR JOBS.
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Myths on Strengths
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Myths on Strengths
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Speed Reading Program
Post-test
134 WPM 1800 WPM
% Change
50% 600%
Source:Gallup Organisation
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Myths on Strengths
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TALENT + SKILL + KNOWLEDGE
= STRENGTH
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Discover the Role You Were Born to Play
Equalizer Influencer Motivator
You do best when deadlines and time frame You enjoy closing the sale. You have more social requests than you know
are clear. You sometimes challenge people more than what to do with.
You spend a lot of time defining the rules of you should. You have an infectious laugh.
the game. You are someone others rely on to say it like it You love throwing parties for other people,
You become an ardent and active supporter is. though not necessarily for yourself.
of the causes you commit to. You enjoy a little resistance to your ideas You are sought out, and worn out, by
You stand up for what is right even when it is because it gives you a chance to show just how emotional vampires.
not popular to do so. persuasive you can be. You collect inspirational stories and quotes.
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Discover the Role You Were Born to Play
Pioneer Teacher Weaver
You are quickly bored. You never give up on anybody. You are You have a large circle of acquaintances.
You are always thinking about new business convinced that each person is capable of You are never at a loss for whom to call.
ideas. learning and growing. You are always planning whom you are going
You are excitable and curious. You collect vivid stories of how someone to introduce to whom.
You don’t read instructions. overcame an obstacle or made the leap to a You often cold-call people you’ve heard or
You are an early adopter of new technology. new level of understanding. read about in order to connect them with
You gather facts, experiences, and objects that someone you know.
you think might, at some point, prove useful to You ask the people you meet a lot of questions
a particular person’s growth. about their interests and experiences.
You become a magnet for highly talented
people looking for a mentor.
Strongest Moments: Strongest Moments: Strongest Moments:
You’re starting something new. You find a story, a fact, or an object that you You find common ground between two people
Your plans change suddenly, and you have to can use to help someone learn. who, on the surface, have little in common.
improvise. You design a way to help a person keep track You sense you are in the middle of the
You push yourself beyond your limits. of her progress. information flow.
You’re talking about what’s next. You see someone finally “get it”. You link a person in your network with a new
You’re not quite sure what’s about to happen. You take time to learn something for yourself. piece of information that winds up benefiting
You see a student use a skill that you taught her.
her. Others turn to you to find the right person to
help them.
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Application of Strength Roles
Strength Roles How do you apply this strength role at work? Results
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2)
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Case Studies
Case 1 How can you respond more appropriately
to this situation?
You're frustrated because your colleague ___________________________________
in France keeps messaging you at 5am
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(your time).
They send you seemingly urgent requests ___________________________________
when you're sleeping or just waking up,
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and you're sick of being bombarded with
more than 10 requests before you've even ___________________________________
sat down at your desk.
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You get the vibe they don't like you very
much and you don't know how to ___________________________________
approach them.
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Case Studies
Case 2 How can you respond more appropriately
to this situation?
You got a promotion that your friend at ___________________________________
work was also gunning for. ___________________________________
Now things are awkward between you
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two. You definitely want to keep the
friendship going, but they aren't even ___________________________________
speaking to you outside of team ___________________________________
meetings. ___________________________________
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Case Studies
How can you respond more appropriately
to this situation?
Case 3
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During a project post-mortem ___________________________________
meeting, you have some new ideas to ___________________________________
share with the team.
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However, the meeting is dominated
by a few of your colleagues. You do ___________________________________
not get a chance to speak. ___________________________________
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Case Studies
Case 4 How can you respond more appropriately
to this situation?
Your manager has given you a new ___________________________________
project, which you have no ___________________________________
experience and little knowledge on it.
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Your manager requested that you do
a presentation to the top ___________________________________
management on your project plan. ___________________________________
After reviewing all the information ___________________________________
available to you, you got stuck, and
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not sure how to begin.
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Case Studies
Case 5
How can you respond more appropriately
You have 2 colleagues, Ashlee and to this situation?
James. ___________________________________
James, while being a proficient worker,
tends to wait until the last minute to get ___________________________________
his work done. ___________________________________
Ashlee works more steadily and keeps
on top of her work daily. ___________________________________
Ashlee complains to you that she feels ___________________________________
she has to worry now about his work
and her own. She is uncomfortable with ___________________________________
waiting until an hour or so before a ___________________________________
deadline when they are forced to
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If I had one thing to say
to myself, what would it
be?
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Reflection
3 major learnings from this program:
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