Deseo, Jessrael C.

EDUC-1

Understanding the Self

Ma’am Josefina De Castro

ACTIVITY ABOUT PSYCHOLOGICAL SELF

1. Cooley’s idea of the looking-glass self helps us understand that how we think other
people view us influences our view of ourselves. How has your sense of your ability to
succeed in college been influenced by the feedback you have processed from those
around you (particularly teachers, peers, and family members)?

Receiving constructive feedback helps an individual stay focused on the dreams and
aspirations that he or she wants to accomplish, which in turn leads to college success.
Growing up, I received a lot of hate for being true to myself, and the overflowing
confidence that I had back then was shattered, but I turned that negativity into motivation
to keep moving forward and facing adversity with my head held high. I vividly recall the
advice my parents gave me as I prepared for college: choose a course that resonates with
your passion and consistently aim for the highest goals in an ever-changing world. This
piece of advice helped to pick up my shattered confidence and reconstruct it into a finer
and tougher one. Nonetheless, the unconstructive feedback I received proved to be
insignificant in the grand scheme of things. What truly mattered was the overwhelming
support and positivity I received from my parents and closest friends. They instilled in
me the belief that I could achieve my dreams and emphasized the importance of not
allowing external negativity to dictate my path. In conclusion, the receipt of constructive
feedback will undoubtedly contribute to my journey towards college success, a goal that I
will forever hold close to my heart.
2. Reflect and write about your ideal self and real self. How near or far are you from ideal
self?

Those who are so far can feel so close and those so close can feel so far, even if it
seems distant to others. This is my perspective on my journey towards becoming my
ideal self, which, in my case, is to serve as an educator. My present self is that of a first-
year college student, dedicated to pursuing a degree in education. As I aspire to be an
educator in my ideal self, I see this path as an opportunity to ingrained and equip the
future generations to be academically adept and develop a high sense of morality. In my
real self as a college student, I am slowly honing my talents and skills, preparing myself
for the day when I step into the role of an educator. From a conventional standpoint, it
may appear that I am far from reaching my ideal self. However, when I view it through a
lens of gratitude and anticipation, I can see that I am drawing nearer to my ideal self each
day. I connect with my future self by envisioning myself in the field of education, and
this brings me a sense of closeness to my aspirations. Nevertheless, I am determined to
conquer these adversities as I continue to progress toward becoming the educator I aspire
to be.

3. What is personal identity? For me to know you better, pls. give me all your personal
identity to distinguish you from your colleagues.

Personal identity, in essence, is the core concept of self that evolves over a lifetime. It
synthesizes how one perceives oneself and how others perceive them
(HelpfulProfessor.com). To provide insight into my personal identity, I’ll start with some
fundamental details: I’m Jessrael C. Deseo, currently a 19-year-old and currently taking
BSED Major in English with a unique family heritage rooted in humble beginnings. This
background has cultivated my ability to articulate my perspectives effectively and
sparked my passion for crafting speeches and motivational quotes. I hold my family in
high regard as they’ve consistently supported me and taken pride in my
accomplishments. Furthermore, I’m deeply passionate about the idea that, as a society,
we can create a positive impact through small acts of kindness. What truly makes me
unique are my unwavering dedication and tenacity. I channel my dedication into my roles
 as an altar server and a college student. It’s not just about serving a religious role; it’s
about committing to a journey that allows me to deepen my spiritual side as a Catholic
and find inspiration to excel academically. My tenacity becomes evident in my ability to
persist in the face of adversity. I’ve encountered and embraced negative feedback as an
Altar Server, using it as motivation to continue serving God wholeheartedly. This same
tenacity guides me through the challenges of my college journey, always helping me
maintain optimism even in the face of significant setbacks. In conclusion, my personal
identity is a blend of my cultural heritage, family values, passion for kindness, dedication
to service, and unyielding tenacity. These elements continually shape who I am and drive
my interactions with the world around me, setting me apart from my colleagues.

4. Which psychological theories of self are you aware of? Why?

It would be the public and private selves, according to Carver and Scheier. Growing
up, I was always conscious of how I reacted and interacted with other people, because if I
reacted in a way that was uncommon, they would judge me immediately, and that’s when
I realized that I’m in my state of public self. When I’m alone, I’ve always been a
pessimist, which other people might not be able to recognize because I’m always looking
at positive things in life, which is somehow tough because I’m not used to it, and that is
when I engage with my private self.

5. What do you understand by Freud's theory of Self?

I learned in Freud’s theory about self that we have the ID, EGO, and SUPER EGO. ID
is the ability of our minds to find pleasure in different things in life that bring happiness
to our lives, like getting things without being patient. For example, as a kid, I always
threw tantrums when I didn’t get what I wanted, and I always tend to be impatient with
things. EGO is finding better ways to solve our problems in life. For example, when I
encounter problems, I always think about what the better solution is to the problem that
I’m facing. Finally, the SUPER EGO acts as a moral compass, encouraging critical
thinking and acute awareness of the implications of our actions. When we consider
activities that stray from our ethical beliefs, it stimulates introspection and second
thoughts, enhancing our sense of right and wrong. In summary, Freud's theory of self
 reveals the complicated interplay between various psychological components, providing
vital insights into the complexity and behaviors of the human mind.

6. Material self is probably the easiest part of knowing who we are. Who are you when it
comes to your Material Self?
When it comes to my material self, I became so obsessed with eating different foods
that I really determined which would help me to fade my stress, which would serve as a
stress reliever. This possession of mine should be kept in moderation because I tend to eat
foods that are not good for my health. However, now I have started to limit my food
intake and eat more foods that are healthy for my body. Being obsessed with tangible
things is challenging to balance, but if putting things in moderation is a good thing to do,
that’s the time a person should be balancing things in life.

7. LIST YOUR RESPONSES TO THE FOLLOWING. USE POSITIVE WORDS TO

DESECRIBE YOURSEL FOR EACH OF THE QUESTIONS BELOW

1.1 How you see yourself as a friend?

I see myself as a friend who is willing to listen and is helpful. I see myself in these
two attitudes because when I’m open-minded and ready to listen, that’s when I see the
importance of someone, and their actions towards me really matter to me because every
single person that I meet is something I treasure because it will serve as a reminder that I
became their friend, just as mine. A one-kind act can become viral and change someone’s
life. That person can change the community, and that community can change this
country, and this country can change the whole world. We need to believe that we can
actually do it, beginning with ourselves. By being able to see ourselves from other
people’s standpoints, we can get a grasp on how we can be the ultimate source of
greatness.

1.2. How you see yourself as a daughter, son,

 I see myself as a son who values respect and obedience. These characteristics are
similar to those I’ve witnessed in one of my parents. My obedience originates from the
realization that their direction and directives are anchored in my well-being, and I believe
that no parent would knowingly put their child in danger. In addition, I maintain a high
regard for them as a token of appreciation for the help and possibilities they’ve given me.
Their care has allowed me to mature into a self-sufficient individual capable of making
sound judgments and exercising critical thinking. In respect to my parents, this is how I
identify as a son.

8. List 4 positive words that a friend/schoolmate might use to describe you. (dependable,
helpful, efficient..etc..)
The way that I think my schoolmates describe me is that I'm reserved, reclusive, and
shy. These are not necessarily negative traits but more of a collective experience from the
social environment that I grew up in. The way that I think my family describes me is that
I'm dedicated, resilient, and perseverant. These qualities indicate that in our familial
context, I exhibit determination and persistence, which are seen as positive qualities
within our family dynamic. My parents describe me as someone who is obedient, honest,
and God-fearing, which is reflected in the values they've instilled in me and the behaviors
that I exhibit at home. These qualities align with their expectations and beliefs. Their
positive words are very diverse from each other because they are based on the way I
project myself to each of them. It is crucial to highlight that perspective contrasts among
my classmates, family members, and parents might be related to the distinct roles and
expectations in each of these interactions. The way I portray myself and adjust to these
responsibilities and expectations might have an impact on how others view me. Finally, it
reflects the complexities of human interactions and relationships. These positive words
toward me will depend on how I project them and show them my true self.