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Succeeding With Adult ADHD 2nd Edition Daily Strategies To Help You Achieve Your Goals and Manage Your Life Abigail L. Levrini
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It was difficult to imagine how the original Succeeding With Adult ADHD
could be improved upon, but Levrini pulled it off with flying colors. This
magnificent updated edition is a treasure trove of helpful skills and
strategies designed for adults with ADHD and, more important, methods for
personalizing the skills and strategies to put them to use in your daily life to
achieve positive results. It will continue to be one of the go-to
recommended readings in our program.
—J. RUSSELL RAMSAY, PhD, ABPP, CLINICAL DIRECTOR, UNIVERSITY
OF PENNSYLVANIA ADULT ADHD TREATMENT AND RESEARCH
PROGRAM, PHILADELPHIA, AND AUTHOR OF THE ADULT ADHD
TOOL KIT: USING CBT TO FACILITATE COPING INSIDE AND OUT AND
RETHINKING ADULT ADHD: HELPING CLIENTS TURN INTENTIONS
INTO ACTIONS
Abigail Levrini “gets” ADHD. She understands its upsides, but she also
knows its downsides intimately, in the same way she knows her own closets
and other mess piles. Best of all, through years of experience in the
trenches, she’s come up with practical solutions on how to right the ship,
worded so they don’t sound like psycho-nagging but rather like what a good
and trusted friend who knows you well would recommend.
—EDWARD HALLOWELL, MD, AUTHOR OF DRIVEN TO DISTRACTION AND
ADHD 2.0
P RAI SE F O R T HE F IRST ED IT IO N
This book is a survivor’s manual for adults wishing to better cope with
ADHD and reduce its adverse effects on daily life. In doing so, it is an
unqualified success.
—RUSSELL A. BARKLEY, PhD, ABPP, ABCN, RETIRED CLINICAL
PROFESSOR OF PSYCHIATRY, VIRGINIA COMMONWEALTH UNIVERSITY
SCHOOL OF MEDICINE, RICHMOND
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This book is dedicated to my awesome partner, Chad, and
our amazing kids, Evelyn and Reese. Without them, my
goals would mean nothing. And to my parents, Susan and
Joel, who helped me to fill my own toolbox for a successful
life.
—Abigail Levrini
CONTENTS
U N D E R S TA N D I N G A D U LT A D H D
Since the previous edition of this book was published, there have been
some changes in the American Psychiatric Association’s (2013) Diagnostic
and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), which is a widely used
manual listing diagnostic criteria for different mental disorders. The fifth
edition of the DSM (DSM-5) was published on May 18, 2013. Although the
DSM-5 revisions to ADHD criteria were far less dramatic than earlier ones,
some notable changes were included for adults with this disorder. Perhaps
the most helpful changes are the addition of examples of how ADHD
manifests in adolescence and adulthood and a reduction to five (from six)
symptoms required for diagnosis in adults. The age of onset changed from
prior to age 7 to prior to age 12. This is especially helpful in diagnosing
adults who, often, can’t remember as far back as age 7 or did not begin to
struggle with significant impairment until they hit a period in life at which
time they could no longer cope (i.e., managing multiple classes in middle or
high school, living independently in college or early adulthood, and so on).
Many of these changes are based on a growing body of research being
conducted with adults with ADHD. ADHD diagnoses among adults are
growing 4 times faster than ADHD diagnoses among children in the United
States, yet most scientists believe adult ADHD remains underdiagnosed.
Adults who were diagnosed as children may find that the way the
symptoms manifest and how many symptoms they experience may have
changed as they reached adulthood. For example, you may have been out of
your seat as a child, only to find that you’ve become a fast talker or feel
restless as an adult. Or, as an adult, you find you struggle more with the
inattentive and impulsive features of the disorder, such as an inability to
focus on your work, pay attention in conversations, or control your
emotions.
1Inall case examples, names and identifying details have been changed to protect client
confidentiality.
I
G E T T I N G S TA R T E D : A C H I E V I N G
YOUR GOALS AND OBJECTIVES
CHAPTER 1
You’ve bought the book, you’re ready to tackle items on your to-do list, and
you’re feeling more motivated than you can ever remember. Your impulse is
to take off and initiate movement toward your goals while you’re feeling
hot—but WAIT! Do not “pass go” before thoughtfully reading the
following chapter, or you might sabotage your efforts.
Take a moment and think back to all the times you tried out a new
strategy someone told you about or that you read about in an article on, say,
staying organized. If you’re like most adults with attention-
deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), it is likely that the strategy was
helpful for a short period of time, only to be forgotten or cast off when it
“no longer worked.” What if I told you that the strategy actually worked
just fine and what, in fact, didn’t work was what you told yourself about it
the moment you began to lose interest or the first time you forgot to
implement it? Chances are you didn’t speak to yourself in a very user-
friendly way but, instead, came down fairly hard on yourself, criticizing
your lack of follow-through or ability to get things done due to “learned
helplessness” (the perception that because you failed in the past, you will
always fail). By doing so, you create a self-fulfilling prophecy on repeat,
trying and getting stuck, thinking thoughts that make you feel hopeless or
helpless, and then giving up. The good news is that this cycle can be
unlearned. And it starts with changing the way you think.
Not convinced your thoughts have such power over your actions? Take
the following quiz to see if the ideas in this chapter apply to you. The more
“yes” answers you give, the more helpful this chapter will be to you.
1. Have you tried many strategies over the years to address your ADHD
symptoms, only to end up casting them off as unhelpful because they
only helped for a few days or months?
2. Do you often shy away from setting goals or trying a new strategy
because you “know” it won’t work out in the end?
3. Do you find yourself getting angry or upset when things don’t go
exactly as you had hoped or planned?
4. Have you jumped from one strategy to the next over the years in
search of that one that will work (every time, for all time) for you and
still not found it?
Thinking errors, also known in the field as cognitive distortions, are the
faulty connections we create between thoughts, ideas, actions, and
consequences without adequate evidence, which then influence our
feelings. While psychologists have long understood the impact of these
distortions on our mood, the importance of addressing such thoughts has
only gained momentum in recent years (Strohmeier et al., 2016). David
Burns, MD, a prominent positive psychiatrist and author of Feeling Good
and Feeling Great, does a stellar job of explaining how overcoming
thinking errors can vastly improve symptoms for depression and anxiety,
but how does it help adults with ADHD?
First, let’s identify the six thinking errors most common in adults with
ADHD, followed by an example of each.
1. Ignoring the Good occurs when you give more attention to the things
that are going wrong or are negative about a given situation rather than
what is right or going well. Burns (1999) referred to this as a distorted
“mental filter.”
Adult ADHD Example: You were 5 minutes late to your
appointment, and all afternoon you beat up on yourself for once again
not making it somewhere on time.
2. Catastrophizing or Blowing Things Up occurs when you make a
really big deal out of something that should have a relatively small
impact on your well-being.
Adult ADHD Example: You forgot to take out the trash after
promising your partner that you would, and you tell yourself you are
unreliable and can’t be trusted to do anything right.
3. Fortune Telling occurs when you think that you already know the
outcome of a situation and that it will not be positive.
Adult ADHD Example: Your professor or boss assigns a project,
and, before knowing all the details, you assume it’s too difficult for
you and that you will fail to produce something good.
4. Mind Reading or Jumping to Conclusions occurs when you think
you know what someone else is thinking or what their intentions are
without them ever verbalizing.
Adult ADHD Example: Your neighbor pops by your messy house,
and you assume they are thinking what a lazy slob you are.
5. All-or-Nothing or Black-and-White Thinking occurs when you don’t
achieve something 100%, so you think you have failed. You filter
everything in extremes without seeing the metaphorical shades of gray.
Adult ADHD Example: You attempt a new recipe to cook dinner
for your family, and, because you forgot to include one ingredient, you
think dinner is ruined.
6. Emotional Reasoning occurs when you believe something to be true
simply because you feel it to be true, sometimes even in the face of
contradictory evidence.
Adult ADHD Example: You think everyone in your office gets 3
times as much work done as you in a day because you feel so
unproductive.
Use Exhibit 1.1 to record which thinking errors you find yourself
committing, and include an example of each.
Catastrophic
Thinking
Fortune Telling
Jumping to
Conclusions
All-or-Nothing
Thinking
Emotional
Reasoning
Now that you have gained some awareness and insight into your destructive
thought patterns, it’s important that you learn how to challenge or “reframe”
them. Remember, positive thoughts lead to positive feelings. Positive
feelings lead to positive behavior (i.e., goal achievement). I can all but
guarantee that you will fail to exactly meet one or more objective you set
for yourself in the coming weeks, even with the help of this book. And
here’s a little secret: Even people without ADHD fail once in a while. What
is ultimately most important in achieving success with your goals is arming
yourself with the ability to accurately and positively reframe a situation
when things don’t go as planned. Imagine you are driving in your car and
come across a roadblock between yourself and your destination. Think of it
as an inconvenient speed bump, and you’ll likely look for an alternative
route. Think of it as a dead end, and the chances are good you will give up
and go home. As an adult with ADHD, you are likely to hit more “speed
bumps” than a neurotypical adult. This just means you need to be extra
good at reframing in those moments.
If admitting you have a thinking problem is the first step, learning how
to reframe these thoughts is step two. Let’s take what you have learned
from CBT and positive psychology and create more accurate, alternative
thoughts for each of our thinking error examples. First, recall that a thinking
error often leads to a negative or irrational thought. Next, reflect and
reframe the irrational thought to eliminate the thinking error.
Now, let’s practice reframing. Here are some examples.
Example 1:
Event: You forgot to take the trash out after promising your partner
that you would.
Original Thought: I am so unreliable! I can’t do anything right!
Thinking Error: Catastrophizing.
Alternative or Reframed Thought: That’s the first time I’ve forgotten
this month. That means I got it right three times, and this is just a
slipup. There is a lot of evidence from my life that shows I am
reliable—I pick up the kids from school every day, get my work
done, pay my bills on time, and I’ve remembered to take my meds
all week. Plus, so what if the trash stays in the garbage bin for
another week? Life will go on just fine.
Example 3:
Example 4:
Example 5:
Event: You attempt a new recipe to cook dinner for your family and
forgot to include one ingredient.
Original Thought: Dinner is ruined! This day is terrible!
Thinking Error: All-or-Nothing Thinking.
Alternative or Reframed Thought: Dinner might not taste perfect,
but I’m grateful to be sharing a warm meal with my family. I’m also
proud of myself for trying something new! I wouldn’t expect myself
to be perfect the first time I take on a new sport, so why would I
expect it in this situation? And, really, the rest of my day has gone
well. If messing up dinner is the worst thing that’s happened to me
today, I’ll take it.
SUMMARY
Here are the important points you will want to take away from this chapter.
Use the following checklist to note the areas you have thoroughly studied.
Leave the box empty if it is an area you would like to come back to and
review further.
R E A D Y, S E T, P L A N !
By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.
—Benjamin Franklin
Now that you have mastered the mental part of goal achievement, you may
begin on mastering your behavioral goals. To have the best chances at
reaching your goals, you must first learn to create what is considered a
“good” goal, or one that gives you the best chances of success. For adults
with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), it is beneficial to
have explicitly stated goals, specific methods for accomplishing goals, and
specific time frames for meeting those goals. The more concrete you can
learn to make your goals, the more likely you are to accomplish them. Also,
by learning how to set effective goals and then break them down into small,
achievable steps or objectives, you can gain better control over your life,
reduce anxiety, and improve productivity. In this chapter, I teach you how to
initiate change by creating this sort of solid foundation. To do this, you
must start with three simple, but invaluable, ideas that will propel you
toward making your aspirations reality:
1. Do you have abstract ideas of what you would like to accomplish, such
as “I would like to be better organized”?
2. Do you alternate between going full force toward a goal (e.g., crash
dieting and losing several pounds in 1 week) and undoing everything
you set in motion (e.g., devouring a large pizza in one sitting)?
3. Is your home littered with old to-do lists or notes meant to inspire you
but ended up serving as coasters?
4. Do you have a vague recollection of some strategies that worked for
you once upon a time that you can’t describe in detail or context?
WHAT THE EXPERTS SAY
The following sections will help you begin to create LTGs (Step 1), set up
your toolbox (Step 2), and break down LTGs into smaller, weekly
objectives (Step 3). At each step, I use Addison as a case example to
illustrate how the step should be applied.
Although these are all wonderful things to want for yourself, they are
not measurable goals. To make these goals measurable, we need to define
them in a way that, after a period of time, they can allow us to produce an
evidence-based “yes” or “no” answer to the question “Did you accomplish
your goal?” In other words, how will we know if you are better organized;
manage your time better; are less distracted; or have become a better
spouse, friend, or parent?
Again, these ideas are the beginnings of some quality goals, but the
lack of the process it takes to get there creates a fatal flaw. Many adults with
ADHD have mastered the art of procrastination. Therefore, you may be able
to put off organizing your home office for 7 weeks, only to stay up for 2
days straight getting it in order, put off reading a book for weeks until your
spouse threatens to throw out the television, or pick up a thoughtless gift at
the grocery store checkout simply to meet the goal of buying a present. On
the other hand, you can work very hard and still not reach your LTG if it is
based solely on the achievement of one final outcome. You may spend an
hour every day trying to get that home office in order but not quite finish in
time, you may diligently read 30 minutes each night and still not finish that
book, or you may spend a lot of time thoughtfully considering what gift to
buy but still not find quite the right thing. Finally, the major error regarding
the goal of creating a schedule is that it does not mention anything about
following through or maintaining that schedule. What good is a schedule if
you don’t stick to it? Making a goal process based ensures that you will
consistently monitor and focus behavior in a way that will help you not only
to achieve the LTG but also—and more important—to understand your
behavior along the way.
Exhibit 2.1 shows the LTGs created by our case example, Addison,
using the four golden rules. In Exhibit 2.2, create three or four LTGs for
yourself that follow these rules (measurable, process based, realistic, and
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