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College Quo Essay #3
College Quo Essay #3
College Quo Essay #3
me, and just about the same number of years since my father has bothered to tell me “happy birthday.”
They both live in different countries now, leading completely separate lives, but the symptoms
of their separation still linger. My earliest memory of them together was at three years old. They were
fighting. I cling to that moment every time I remember it, every time I recall having a family that was
However, ironically, I call her “mommy” whenever we’re on the phone, and I call him
“daddy” on the occasions I see him. My older siblings spent their childhood in the nuclear home but
don’t bother with the titles. They prefer to refer to them by their actual names. It’s more fitting for me
I say my parents do not know me because if I were minus three years from my age and told
my father I am fourteen, he would believe me. He couldn’t tell you my Christian name with a gun to
his head, and to ask him the school I attend would completely transcend the knowledge he has of me.
And my mother still thinks that I’m the three-year-old she left behind. The three-year-old that was
The American Dream didn’t favour her though. She learned that the hard way. We learned that
the hardest way. Fourteen years away and still… nothing. Sometimes I wonder how different my life
would be if she had stayed. Would daddy know my name? Would my aunts and the millions of other
people I’ve lived with still mistreat me? Would I be as unenthusiastic to speak to her as I am now
when she’s over the phone? What aspects of my life would change?
I have come to the conclusion, though, that I do not know them either. Yes, I know their
birthdays and middle names, but not their favourite colour or what foods they like to eat. Our