<Five Love Language>

My top love language is quality time, which makes up 33% of my score. This means I
deeply value spending undivided, meaningful time with loved ones. Whether it's engaging in
deep conversations, sharing experiences, or simply being together, these moments make me feel
most connected and appreciated. Just sitting and talking, going for a walk, or having a meal
together helps me feel loved and valued. I usually enjoy doing activities together with my loved
ones, especially playing sports together; I spend time playing badminton with my family at least
two hours every week.
Next, both receiving gifts and words of affirmation scored 23%. This shows that
thoughtful presents and kind words are significant to me. When someone gives me a gift, it's not
about the cost but the thought and effort behind it. A well-chosen gift demonstrates that someone
understands and cares about me. Similarly, words of affirmation are powerful for me.
Compliments, encouraging words, and expressions of appreciation help me feel valued and
understood, strengthening my emotional bonds with others. I feel very loved whenever someone
compliments me or reassures me.
Acts of service scored 13%, indicating that while I do appreciate when others help me with tasks
or support me in practical ways, it’s not as crucial as other forms of love. Thoughtful actions like
helping with chores or running errands show care and consideration but play a smaller role in
how I feel loved compared to quality time, gifts, and affirming words. Helping me with
assignments is the one thing that I feel loved, otherwise, I prefer quality time and words od
affirmation over acts of service.
Lastly, physical touch came in at 7%, making it the least significant of my love
languages. While I do enjoy and appreciate gestures of physical affection, like hugs or holding
hands, these actions are not central to my sense of being loved. They provide comfort and
connection but are less impactful compared to the other love languages. Sometimes I get
overwhelmed when people touch me randomly. I do appreciate hugs from my loved ones, but
usually if it is in a certain situation.
Understanding these results helps me navigate my relationships more effectively. I now
recognize the importance of quality time and can communicate this need to my loved ones,
ensuring we spend meaningful moments together. I also understand the value I place on
thoughtful gifts and affirming words, which means I can express my appreciation for these
gestures more clearly. Awareness of the lower importance of acts of service and physical touch
allows me to set realistic expectations and appreciate the diverse ways others might show their
love. Overall, this insight into my love languages fosters a better understanding of myself and
enhances my relationships, ensuring I both express and receive love in the most meaningful
ways.
<Anger Assessment Quiz>
Taking the anger assessment quiz was really helpful and gave me useful insights into how
I manage my emotions. The results showed that I generally handle my anger well, knowing what
makes me mad and dealing with it intentionally. This means I don't usually have problems with
anger in my personal or work life, which is good to know. However, the quiz also suggested
there are ways I can improve.
One idea is to think about any unresolved conflicts or relationships that might need
fixing. Maybe there's someone I need to make up with, and I should consider reaching out if it’s
possible and won’t cause any harm. Rebuilding relationships can bring peace and closure.
Another point is to look at any hidden anger I might not have dealt with, whether it's related to
my spouse, kids, family, myself, or even God. Even though I handle anger well, there might be
deeper feelings I haven't addressed.
Reflecting on my inner life and asking for guidance, as suggested by Psalm 139:23, can
help me see these hidden areas. Dr. Chapman's advice in his book, especially chapters 9-12,
might offer new ways to handle this kind of anger. In light of the quiz results, it's clear that
ongoing self-reflection and growth are important. Staying aware of what triggers my anger and
continuing to deal with it in a healthy way will help ensure my anger doesn't negatively affect
my relationships or well-being. Including spiritual practices like prayer and meditating on
scriptures can also be beneficial. By focusing on reconciliation, examining unaddressed anger,
and seeking personal and spiritual growth, I can improve my emotional health and maintain
positive relationships. This approach will help me manage anger constructively, making sure it
doesn't cause problems in my personal or professional life.

<Apology Language Quiz>

The results showed that my primary apology language is planned change, which scored
36%. This indicates that for me, the most important part of an apology is seeing a genuine
commitment to change behavior. When someone apologizes, I need to see that they are taking
concrete steps to ensure the same mistake doesn't happen again. This approach helps rebuild trust
and shows me that the person is serious about making things right.
The second most important aspect for me is expressing regret, which scored 24%. This
means that I value hearing an apology that clearly shows the person feels bad about what they
did. It's important to me that the apology includes a heartfelt expression of sorrow and
acknowledges the hurt caused. When someone takes the time to express their regret, it feels
sincere and makes me more likely to forgive them.
Requesting forgiveness came in at 16%, showing that while I do appreciate it when
someone asks for my forgiveness, it’s not as crucial as the first two aspects. Requesting
forgiveness shows humility and a desire to mend the relationship, but for me, it’s more about
seeing the intent to change and hearing the expression of regret.
Both accepting responsibility and making restitution scored 12%, indicating that these
aspects are less significant for me in an apology. Accepting responsibility means the person
acknowledges their mistake and admits they were wrong, which is important but not as vital as
seeing planned change or expressing regret. Making restitution, or offering to make amends, is
also valued but not as necessary as the other elements. I do appreciate efforts to fix the situation,
but I place more importance on the commitment to change and the expression of regret.
Understanding these results helps me better communicate my needs when it comes to
apologies. I can let others know that what matters most to me is seeing a genuine effort to change
and hearing a sincere expression of regret. This awareness can improve my relationships by
ensuring that apologies are more meaningful and effective. It also helps me understand why
certain apologies feel more satisfying than others and allows me to offer more effective
apologies to others by incorporating these elements.