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MILF of the year winner

became adult film star to
fund IVF treatment
Poppy
Bilderbeck
Published 18:16, 27 October 2022 BST
| Last updated 8:06, 28 October 2022 BST

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I never thought I'd go into an interview

having seen my interviewee naked in an
extremely compromising position, but
there's a first time for everything.

Minutes before my call with Tanya Tate, I

thought I'd click on one of the links she sent
me. All I can say is thank goodness I was on
my home not work wifi - imagine what IT
would think - and that Zoom masked my
bright British blush.

The image of Tanya I am met with contrasts

greatly to the picture I saw just seconds
earlier on the homepage of her adult film site.
She is sat in a baggy grey Mickey Mouse top,
her hair scraped back in a ponytail, no make-
up on and looking fairly knackered - Tanya
looks just like any other mum. Except not
many mums can say that they've got men to
'smack their own c**k'.

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Tanya, the penultimate of five adult film

stars to chat to UNILAD, lays bare the true
impact the adult film industry's had on her
life in allowing her to have a child:

MILF of the year winner becam…

The 43-year-old from Liverpool started

working in the adult film industry in 2008,
before moving to Los Angeles two years
later. Tanya was - and still is - 'very career-
minded' and her choice to start a family was
left until later on in life.

A career in adult film - and 12 MILF of the Year

awards - has not only afforded Tanya a
house, 'life in America' and the opportunity
to 'visit many countries', but it's also meant
she's not just been cast as an on-screen
mum because of her looks, but is now one in
real life too.

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"Once women get over a certain age their

reproductive system isn’t as strong, so there
become a lot of difficulties for women getting
pregnant. Doctors never say anything until
you’re there and then they’re like, 'Oh, you
really do need to get a move on’," Tanya
explains.

Tanya used to work at a pub in the evenings,

on top of a 9:00am-5:00pm office job. If she
hadn't moved to adult film, she doesn't think
she would have been able to afford IVF.

"I can’t even tell you how expensive it is,"

Tanya says.

Tanya has won MILF of the Year 12 times. Credit: Tanya Tate/
YouTube

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Tanya shot boy-girl scenes before switching

to girl-girl, stopping shooting completely as
soon as she fell pregnant.

After giving birth to Ozzie in 2017, she admits

she 'wasn't sure where [her] career would go'.

"Once my son was born, being on OnlyFans

is what's afforded me to be my own boss, to
work from home and make a significant
amount of money in my pjs," she explains.

Tanya's career also gives her a lot more time

to spend with her son - time being something
money can't buy.

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Credit: Tanya Tate/ YouTube

Tanya's role as a real life mum is exhibited

through her fierce motherly defensiveness of
the industry and its performers.

I ask Tanya a lot of questions about violence

towards women. After all, it's what many
young people - including myself - have been
engrained by society to believe, that women
go into porn with no choice, trafficked,
abused, their boundaries crossed and treated
like objects.

Tanya shuts me down straight away.

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"You keep talking about violence towards

women. But consider this. Let’s talk about my
fan base - I’m going put the shoe on the other
foot," she pre-empts.

Tanya was quick to dismiss my questions about violence

towards women in the industry. Credit: @TanyaTate/ Twitter

The adult film star reveals: "In my real life, I

don’t believe in hitting people - it's not the
type of person I am. I don’t want to cause pain
to someone physically or mentally. But in my
role plays, when my fans come to me, I’m
their dominant, mummy and mistress."

While it's not the responsibility of adult film

stars to educate young people about sex (but
that of parents and educational bodies),
Tanya does explain to me about 'JOIs'.

Queue some more of my burning British blush.

Tanya told me all about JOIs. Credit: @TanyaTate/ Twitter

JOIs are 'Jerk Off Instructions'. What's a 'Jerk

Off Instruction' you may ask? Or maybe you
already know, and it's just innocent little me
who was kept in the dark all this time.

Prepare yourself for a true insight into the life

of an adult film star.

"When I'm having a one-on-one conversation,

I'll see what they're up for - they might give
you a little hint they want to be dominated or
controlled.

"Then I will literally tell them how many times

to w**k their c**k before taking their hand off.
Then if I think, 'Oo he’s going to like this', I’ll
tell him to like smack his c**k five times. I'll
then say, ‘Did you do it gently? Was it
medium? Or was it really f**king hard?’ If they
say, 'Hard mistress’ and I’ll say, ‘Do it again
five times and let me hear it’."

"You’re talking about violence, but this is a

role play which shows a lot of men love the
power of a woman. There are so many fetishes
and role plays we could go into where I push
the guy to their limits and talk about things
that I will do to them to take that power away.

"Violence towards women? If you’d heard the

role play I’d done, you might describe me as
being violent towards men. People forget it's a
role play, a fantasy, a scenario," Tanya
resolves.

Tanya's reminder porn is 'fantasy' plays into

her reasons for disagreeing with the a type of
adult film called 'ethical porn' which can see
performers recorded prior to the porn scene,
not in character, going through forms and
giving their consent.

It's argued 'ethical porn' helps raise

awareness of such content being fantasy not
reality, educate viewers about the importance
of consent and prove the porn they're
watching has been filmed legally and the
performers respected.

As a mother herself, you may think Tanya

would thoroughly support the rise in ethical
porn - particularly given her son will likely be a
consumer of such content in the future, but
she has 'drawn a line'.

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"I should be allowed to feel comfortable. I

don’t always want to be recorded talking
about my concerns, what I will and won’t do
and why I may or may not want to do
something - that’s not really the business of
the fans," Tanya argues.

Tanya argues ethical porn can put 'pressure' on performers.

Credit: @TanyaTate/ Twitter

If a performer wants to video and share their

consent, Tanya supports them, but she
doesn't believe all stars should have the
'pressure' placed on them to do so.

"It's too invasive. You don’t want the whole

world to know how you feel about that camera
going up your backside. I could sit here now
and say, 'What if it's going to stretch me too
much? What if I’m going to bleed?' - all those
personal reservations you’re going to have.

"I don’t want people going, ‘Ooo she said she

doesn’t want to bleed’. Like, stick a coke can
up your backside mate and you see. It’s so
personal - too personal.

"I become a character if I know the camera's

on. I might choose my words carefully
because it’s going to be reposted or re-
quoted, but if I’m just sat there chatting with a
friend, I can really say how I feel," she says.

Tanya sees the recording and public sharing of performers

giving consent as 'too invasive'. Credit: @TanyaTate/ Twitter

As well as being a mum to Ozzie, Tanya also

runs PR company, Star Factory PR, offering
expertise and guidance to other stars.

"Really, being a successful performer is a hard

job. Suddenly you’re thrust into this world
where people are telling you you're amazing
and you’re given a lot of money. You’re your
own boss," Tanya says. "You can't do
everything yourself though, so having a
support team really helps me."

But where can performers go for advice?

Tanya recommends going to other girls in the
industry, as well as a group called Pineapple
Support that helps care for performers'
mental wellbeing.

Or The CupCake Girls, who got started

visiting the AVN fan convention every
January, their all-female makeup artist team
offering 'emotional and financial advice'.

"There are organisations that can help, you

just need to figure out where they are," Tanya
urges.

Pineapple Support offers mental health help to performers.

Credit: @PineappleYSW/ Twitter

Tanya doesn't lie to me when she tells me

she's 'tried to be truthful and honest' - I can
feel her powerful maternal instinct towards
the industry and its performers radiating
through my computer screen.

"A lot of the media publications publish

writer’s opinions on porn and some people
have deeply engrained religious beliefs. What
you don’t realise is some are even being
funded by religious or political organisations
that are very anti-porn.

"They’re not in the adult film industry, they’re

just sitting in a virtual universe saying, 'This is
how it is'. But how do you know what it's like if
you’re not there? It’s so draining when they
know f**k all about it."

Tanya exemplifies the trafficking accusations

the industry sometimes faces. "I don’t agree
with trafficking at all - but it doesn’t just
happen in the sex industry it happens in
different jobs too," she argues.

Tanya says being in the industry has made her a 'stronger

person'. Credit: @TanyaTate/ Twitter

Tanya resolves: "All people I work with are

over the age of 18, consenting adults and here
of our own free will. Most of us are here
because we love sexual expression, sex and
have a lot of fun playing online. Let us get on
with doing that, let the people who enjoy it
embrace it with us - go and find something
else to do.

"We’re very strong women. Being in the adult

film industry has made me a much stronger
person. I’ve become more confident in
myself, sexually and mentally. I’m a
businesswoman, I have a podcast I’ve
started to help other content creators, I’m a
leader."

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