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Emergent issues in
families experiencing
adolescent to parent abuse
a
Nancy J. Eckstein
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Associate Professor of communication, Bethel
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Western Journal of Communication, 68(4) (Fall 2004), 365-388
Bethel University
Helen lived in fear of her teenage son. Helen's son threatened her, saying that if he
was big, he would hurt her. He pushed her, pinned her against a wall and slammed
her elbows in the door.. .. He also verbally abused her. When Helen and her son
argued, he would threaten to tell people at school that she abused him. As a parent,
she felt isolated. "The public tends to think 'What's wrong with those parents who
can't control their children?" "I feel like I failed raising this child," Helen said. "On
the other hand, I did the best I could." (Schuett, 1999, p. 7B)
are not reporting these incidences (Blum, 1997; Gest & Pope, 1996;
Harbin & Madden, 1979; Price, 1996; Sheehan, 1997).
The few psychology and sociology researchers who have explored
adolescent-to-parent abuse have focused on measuring the relation-
ship between personality factors of the parent and adolescent, possible
biological causes, and the possible socio-economic impact on relation-
ships (Harbin & Madden, 1979; Heide, 1995; Hemphill, 1996; Price,
1996; VanOostrum & Horvath, 1997). The lack of a communicative
approach to the phenomenon of adolescent-to-parent abuse is problem-
atic because communication factors are essential when differentiating
between abusive and non-abusive relationships (Lloyd & Emery,
1994). Communicative interactions are the key to maintaining or ter-
minating social bonds (Baxter, 1985), and in adolescent-to-parent
abuse the messages sent and the meanings perceived are part of the
catalyst by which interpersonal communication contributes to and
creates family dynamics and climates. Therefore, adolescent-to-parent
abuse cannot be isolated from the context of interpersonal communi-
cation and the role it plays in family relationships. Exploring adoles-
cent-to-parent abuse from the communication perspective allows the
framing of these messages in the context they occur.
Additionally, because family violence can be interpreted as a form of
communication (Cahn, 1996), exploring adolescent-to-parent abuse
communicatively directs evaluation to how messages impact the family
relationships. In families where adolescent-to-parent abuse occurs,
verbal intimidation and threatening messages may become common
interaction patterns (Price, 1996). Therefore, researching adolescent-
to-parent abuse episodes from a communicative perspective allows the
identification of interpretations of these abusive messages and their
impact on family members. This provides a platform from which re-
searchers and family counselors can begin to justify descriptive and
prescriptive solutions to this problem, and thus, begin to repair these
adolescent-parent relationships. Accordingly, the purpose of this study
was to explore adolescent-to-parent abuse episodes through the vic-
tims' reports and to identify interpretations of the meanings abused
parents assign to verbal, physical, and emotional abuse episodes.
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Review of Literature
Defining Abuse
Denning abuse is a complex procedure because many of the terms
are used interchangeably across disciplines (e.g., violence, aggression,
abuse), and they often share many commonalities. Sheehan (1997)
argued that abuse could be "an aggressive imposition of will by a
variety of means: physical, emotional, psychological" (p. 83). Abuse is
also argued to be an "ongoing, repetitive pattern—psychological, emo-
tional, or behavioral—of pain infliction" (Spitzberg, 1997, p. 177). For
this study, the term abuse is conceptualized to include verbal, physical,
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Pettit, 1990; Price, 1996; Snyder, Schrepferman, & St. Peter, 1997;
Spitzberg, 1997).
Method
Participants
Reports of parents abused by their adolescents were surprisingly
easy to generate; it seemed many individuals knew of a case where an
adolescent was verbally, physically, or emotionally abusing their par-
ents. However, locating abused parents who were willing to talk about
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their abuse proved difficult, possibly due to their self-imposed social
isolation, the veil of denial, and the fear of being judged a poor parent.
Participants were 20 parents who had experienced verbal, physical,
and emotional abuse from an adolescent child (10-17 years of age) who
was still living in the home. To locate the sample, a number of different
measures was taken. Through a parent network developed while work-
ing as a youth pastor, I was directed to parents who were having
"severe" trouble with an adolescent. The abused parents were con-
tacted and screened via phone to determine if they met the criteria: (a)
had been verbally, physically, and emotionally abused by an adolescent
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child; (b) were the primary caregivers of this child during the time of
abuse; and (c) the adolescent lived in the home during the period of
abuse. However, the discussion of this project within the parent net-
work served as a catalyst and other individuals were referred or came
forward to participate in the study. Through this purposive snowball
sampling method, 10 additional participants were located. The final
seven participants were located through a social worker teaching court
ordered parenting classes. I contacted the social worker and explained
the study and participant criteria. She then contacted parents in her
case file and asked if they would be willing to participate in the study.
Those who agreed gave her the necessary contact information and were
informed that a researcher would be contacting them to set up a time
for the interview.
Participants were European American (seven men and 13 women)
who ranged in age from 35 to 55, with a mean age of 42 years. These
families averaged 3.4 children. Nine of the participants were in first
marriages and had been married an average of 25 years. Nine of the
participants were in second marriages with a mean of nine years. Two
of the participants were divorced at the time of the interview. Nineteen
of the 20 families had only one child who was abusive. Thirteen of the
participants had been abused by their biological children, five by their
stepchildren, and two by their adopted children. All of the participants
had participated in various family counseling programs.
Data Collection and Analysis
The interview consisted of demographic, semi-structured open-
ended, retrospective, and hypothetical questions (Holstein & Gubrium,
1995; Maxwell, 1996; McCracken, 1988). Family violence researchers
have successfully used the interview for gathering data (Lloyd, 1990;
Olson, 2002), and adolescent-to-parent abuse lends itself well to this
form of naturalistic inquiry. The interview questions asked partici-
pants to describe, from start to finish, one experience of each type of
abuse episode (verbal, physical, emotional), the impact it was having
on members of the family, perceptions of their own parenting skills,
and what they believed others thought of them as parents. Partici-
pants were also free to raise other issues at varying times in the
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participants before the interview and reviewed again during the inter-
view to insure understanding. The use of secondary and probing ques-
tions helped the participants provide a full description of each type of
abuse episode. I interviewed all 20 parents who agreed to participate
even though theoretical saturation occurred early (Leininger, 1994).
Interviews were audio recorded and lasted approximately 1-1.5
hours. A professional was hired to transcribe the interviews, which
yielded 753 pages of 1.5 spaced data. Rigorous qualitative research
evaluates emergent categories against other data collected for the
project as well as from other studies done on the issue, often alternat-
ing between analytic induction and deduction (Creswell, 1998; Taylor
& Trujillo, 2001). Based on this, data analysis involved using Glaser
and Strauss' constant comparative method (Lindlof, 1995; Strauss &
Corbin, 1990). The reports of the participants were compared for re-
curring issues. For data coding purposes, analytic memos were written
to identify and define issues; subcategories were developed until all
these data were classified. The findings that evolved from these data
were consistent with issues that emerged in a previous pilot study as
well as other studies by adolescent-to-parent abuse researchers.
Data were analyzed in four phases. First, the transcripts were read
while listening to the interview tapes to verify the accuracy of tran-
scription, and to develop an overall picture of the participants' percep-
tions. Second, I identified and categorized the issues that emerged
from participants' reports. A deductive data analysis is possible when
the researcher "has a good bank of applicable, well-delineated con-
cepts" (Huberman & Miles, 1995, p. 185). Thus, the issues that
emerged were used further to analyze these data. Data that did not
clearly fit into the existing categories were inductively analyzed to
produce additional categories (Creswell, 1998; Miles & Huberman,
1994).
Third, guided by the research question, data were analyzed to check
the presence or absence of prevalent issues in an adolescent-to-parent
abuse family. To check the analysis, transcripts were read again,
looking for any disconfirmation of the analysis and to locate exemplars
for this research report (Miles & Huberman, 1994; notations from
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interview transcripts are cited by participant and page number in the
transcript. 9:2 means participant 9, page 2 of transcript).
Finally, a member check was performed (Creswell, 1998) by present-
ing the conclusions to eight of the participants in written form. These
participants confirmed the interpretation and credibility of the analy-
sis and stressed the consistency of these issues, discussing how similar
the excerpts were to their own experiences.
Results
As these data were being analyzed, relevant insights and implica-
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seems weird for me to say that, that I wasn't afraid of him, it would
not have surprised me if he had killed me or seriously hurt me"
(9:27). Recurring types of statements from all the participants were
that though physical abuse could "hurt" them, physical abuse was
not the most hurtful.
Emotional abuse. Participants believed that emotional abuse was
the most damaging and hurtful type of abusive episode; they
continued to deal with the emotional distress of emotional abuse
long after the abusive episode had passed. "By far the most painful
is emotional, and physical [abuse] is obviously, at the moment very
difficult as is verbal. But. . . one forgets the words, one forgets the
event, but one never forgets the pain, and that's emotional" (5:29).
Another participant made this comparison between physical and
emotional abuse, "The physical could hurt you more, but the
emotional is going to last the longest. You can get over a bruise"
(2:34).
In fact, previous physical abuse played a role in giving credence to
threats used in emotional abuse. If physical abuse had taken place
in the past, parents took the emotionally abusive statements more
seriously. A mother described this relationship between physical and
emotional abuse:
Once he started physically abusing us, [then] when he would make threats to kill us
and things like that, it carried with it a whole new weight. .. . From that point on I
knew when he made threats that he did have the potential to carry them out and
that he had already crossed the line from yelling at me and swearing at me to hitting
me. Therefore, what's to prevent him from killing me? And so the threats that he was
using in the emotional abuse all of a sudden became real to me. (9:27)
This same mother explained how her son's emotional abuse controlled
her thoughts and made her feel helpless:
Emotional abuse, he knew how to control me through words.. .. He'd say something
and leave . . . and he'd say something really mean before he'd leave and then go off on
a little rampage. "I'm going out right now and when I come home and you'll be
sleeping, I'm going to slit your fuckin' throat," you know. Or, "I'm going to put a gun
to your head," and things such as that. And I would lay in bed at night, and I wasn't
afraid but I was—I would just cry and I would sob, you know. I fully .. . expected that
in the morning I would wake up dead. And it wasn't that it bothered me that I would
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wake up dead, but it bothered me that he would do that to me. That it would be my
son who would do that to me. And it would bother me because of what it would cost
him in his life. (9:34)
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Although mothers were more likely to be abused, one woman who was trained in law
enforcement related the following: "[I]t was wet and it was raining and stuff and she goes
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Third, parents' felt an inability to enforce consequences. Many of the
parents reported they attempted extreme measures when disciplining
and enforcing the consequences of disobedience. Some measures in-
cluded selling the adolescent's vehicle, disconnecting phones, getting
rid of computers, staying up all night, and even setting "traps" so they
would hear if their adolescent tried to sneak out. They found enforce-
ment of these measures virtually impossible. Comments such as "Kids
sneak out anyway," or "They just leave anyway," were common. One
father stated he and his son had a conflict episode that resulted in the
father's refusal to allow the son to attend a party:
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When it was all said and done, that night, [adolescent] snuck out of the house and
went to the party anyway.... It was more or less, "Fuck you, whatever" and then,
like I said there would be times where we'd say, "No, you're not going." And at two
o'clock in the morning he'd be going [sneaking] out. So, he'd be—in his mind he'd say,
"Screw you, I'm going anyway." (8:2,15)
Although all of these parents attempted to provide guidelines and
enforce discipline, most abusive adolescents refused to follow family
rules or recognize parental authority rendering parental guidelines
ineffective. For some of these parents, the physical and emotional
abuse became too costly to other family members or themselves and
gave up trying to control the behavior of their abusive adolescent.
Abuse as normative behavior. Additionally, abusive episodes
became a normative and denning characteristic of conflict
interactions within these families. For abused parents, engaging in a
conflict with an abusive adolescent often meant experiencing verbal,
physical, and emotional abuse episodes. In fact, outside attempts to
change this family norm, such as counseling or law enforcement,
proved ineffective. Participants described this by saying, "There's
been so many that it's kind of an accumulation of your whole life,
you know .. ." (13:1), or "I mean, there's been so many. I'm trying to
think of one . . . they all go together" (4:4). Verbal abuse was a
normal mode of interaction between these adolescents and parents
in conflict situations and parents continued to engage in the conflict
even though they were being sworn at, insulted, or ridiculed. One
mother described her physical response to her adolescent's verbal
abuse to prevent it from escalating to physical or emotional abuse:
to take a swing at me and I grabbed her arm and spun her around so then I had her so
that her arms were crossed like this, and I was behind her holding onto her wrists. Well,
then, she was hitting me in the face with her head. And kicking me. . . . So, at that point
in time, I just took her down and sat on her and went through this for about half-an-hour
or s o . . . . And in a way, it kind of helped her understand a little bit that I wasn't going
to tolerate that anymore. So now, you know, when I say, "stop" she's attentive. She also
knows that she crossed that limit and had pushed it too far." (10:15-17). In these data,
fathers were more likely to defend themselves. Successful physical defense buffered
future adolescent aggression, except for those boys who became bigger and stronger than
their fathers and had abused the father once.
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I'd back up, yeah. And then sometimes I would be the aggressor. If he'd come at me,
I'd go at him and then he didn't like it and he'd back off. So, it was almost like a
dance, you know. You just figure it all out and it's a routine. (7:23)
The individual abuse episodes no longer carried the same trauma they
initially did; rather, parents expected conflict with the adolescent to
result in some form of abuse.
All of these participants reported that any type of abusive episode
they experienced started with verbal abuse. Most participants experi-
enced all three types of abuse (19 out of 20), many on a regular basis.
Accordingly, parents considered an abusive interaction with their ad-
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to go to jail, because you're nothing but an abusive fuckin' parent." And so, you know,
the cops came over that night.... So, and that's just one instance of many. (13:2)
charges brought against them; all of these charges were later dropped
upon further investigation.
For these parents, refusing to step back from a conflict episode that
eventually resulted in adolescent-to-parent abuse had serious affects.
Parents experiencing the effects of these false accusations of child
abuse on their families, jobs, and reputations, indicated they no longer
attempted to discipline their adolescents after the adolescent threat-
ened to dial "911," as it was not worth the possible consequences. Once
teens called "911" to report the parents for child abuse, parents who
may have physically defended themselves often stopped due to the
warnings of the court system and the threat of prosecution of child
abuse charges. It appears that adolescents who discovered they had
the power to report parents to law enforcement may be one factor that
inadvertently encouraged adolescents to continue the physical and
emotional abuse of their parents.
Amount of parental power. A final factor that emerged regarding
these parents' loss of ability to discipline their abusive children
effectively was the issue of power. When adolescents reach the age
of puberty, in most homes parents continue to have some power over
their teens and discipline continues to be effective. However, once
adolescents became abusive, the power and authority of parents in
the relationship began a downward slide that continued until the
child reached the age of 18. Throughout the years of abuse,
counselors, probation officers, and judges in the court system often
stated to abusive adolescents that once they were 18 years old they
could "do what they wanted" but until then, "they had to follow their
parents' rules" (9:39). A number of these parents often repeated this
fact to their abusive adolescents, adding that soon they would no
longer be required to "take care" (1:28) of the teen. Once the
adolescent reached the age of adulthood, parents had the legal
means to enforce his or her departure, seeing this as a way to regain
their power. These participants reported that the realistic threat of
forced departure often stopped or greatly reduced the now "young
adult's" abusive behavior.
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Discussion
Recurring patterns of interactions within families represent family
systems; this is no different in families experiencing adolescent-to-
parent abuse episodes. The findings from this study provide insights
and implications to help understand the phenomenon of adolescent-to-
parent abuse.
First, participants were easily able to differentiate among types of
abuse—verbal, physical, and emotional, identifying verbal abuse as
the least harmful type of abuse and emotional abuse as the most
harmful. Although it is dangerous to assign a hierarchy of abuse, the
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results reveal these parents clearly identified the types of abuse and
readily assigned a hierarchy to the severity of abuse. Being able to
assign a hierarchy to the severity of the abuse may have further
allowed abused parents a manner to justify to themselves that their
children loved them and they loved their children regardless of the
abusive behavior. For example, if an adolescent implemented verbal
abuse, then they cared enough about the parent not to abuse them
physically or emotionally; keeping the adolescent in the home and
enduring certain types and levels of abuse meant the parent loved the
adolescent. If parents could measure the severity of abuse episodes by
comparing them to different types and previous episodes of abuse,
experiencing a less severe episode may provide hope to these parents
that the situation was improving.
These findings, however, do not support the assertion that emo-
tional abuse precedes physical abuse or that emotional abuse is a
result of physical abuse (Gelles & Straus, 1988; Marshall, 1994).
Rather these findings strongly support the notion that there is a
difference between emotional distress caused by verbal, physical, and
emotional abuse episodes; the types of abuse episodes being easily
recognizable by specific communicative behaviors occurring (Marshall,
1994; Price, 1996). For example, my results do support findings that
the ability to implement emotional abuse is often a consequence of a
previous physical abuse episode (Marshall, 1994; Price, 1996; Schuett,
1999). When these parents experienced physical abuse from their
adolescents, then an adolescent's threat to harm or kill the parent
during an emotionally abusive episode is perceived as a real possibil-
ity. Therefore, the assertion that the fear of physical abuse is a pow-
erful form of emotional abuse is supported in these results. These
findings are important to note because family researchers cannot begin
to discover causation, nor provide treatment options, unless we accept
these victims' perceptions that abuse episodes are hierarchical in na-
ture, with clear beginnings and endings, even when the episode esca-
lated from verbal to physical or emotional.
Second, the first episode of adolescent-to-parent abuse experienced
by these parents was verbal abuse. Over a period of time, when parents
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what might take place in a conflict if they did not adapt their commu-
nication responses. Therefore, adolescent-to-parent verbal abuse be-
came part of the family system and was used by parents as a useful
predictor of what was to come if not effectively dealt with.
Third, these parents experienced a gradual ineffectiveness in en-
forcing discipline with their abusive adolescents. Even though it is
suggested that adolescence is a time of storm and stress, very little
support for this assertion exists (Laursen, Coy, & Collins, 1998; Offer,
Ostrov, & Howard, 1989; Steinberg, 1988). Although part of parents'
inability to discipline their teens may be due to the normal develop-
ment of autonomy in adolescents (Brooks-Gunn & Reiter, 1990; Coo-
per, Grotevant, & Condon, 1983; Grotevant, 1998; Grotevant & Cooper,
1985), other researchers determined that as adolescents develop the
incidents of conflict decrease while the intensity of conflicts increase
(Comstock, 1994; Montemayor, 1983; Smetana, 1995). In the early teen
years, parents felt they were able to control most of the undesirable
actions of their adolescents. However, in later years these abused
parents felt they lost this ability as conflict episodes increased in
intensity until the age of 18, when parents were no longer legally
responsible for the adolescent's behavior. The implication of ineffec-
tiveness of parental discipline in adolescent-to-parent abuse is para-
mount; parents stated they experienced powerlessness in being able to
effectively engage in conflict in a way that would effectively stop the
abuse. Additionally, many of these abused parents believed they had
lost the power to parent and felt they could not turn to the legal system
for help.
Fourth, environmental issues impacting the family also come into
play. Societal norms provide a strong picture of what a "good" or "bad"
parent is; parents are expected to be able to control and to provide
training for their children resulting in well adjusted individuals who
can contribute to the family and society in a positive manner (Price,
1996; Schuett, 1999). As a result, parents' self-esteem issues are often
tied up in the parenting role. "Good kids" are associated with "good
parents" and "bad kids" are associated with "bad parents." Being
emotionally abused by an adolescent may confirm parents' existing
negative feelings about their parenting failure and these negative
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feelings may be supported by the reactions of others who they may go
to for help.
Although people might think that the family is an isolated and
sovereign unit, environmental and societal factors play a large role in
the development of the hierarchical structure and roles within the
family system (Klein & White, 1996). All of the participants reported
that, at some time, either the abusive adolescent or the abused parent
had called "911" in their experience with adolescent-to-parent abuse.
Adolescents' willingness to dial "911" and bring charges against their
parents may be a tool abusive teens use to control parents' behavior.
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The adolescent may use "911" against their parents when the parents
attempted to defend themselves physically from, or to stop the physical
abuse from their teen. Possibly due to the lack of understanding of the
workings of adolescent-to-parent abuse families, law enforcement offi-
cials, in an attempt to protect children from abuse, initially believed
the accusations of these teens that they were being abused by their
parents—regardless of who dialed "911." A number of parents faced
charges of child abuse and some even found themselves in jail, which
may have allowed these adolescents to "punish" the parent for engag-
ing in a conflict that the adolescent may have felt they could not win.
Charging, or even just threatening to charge a parent with child abuse
became a way for these adolescents to control the parents and often
resulted in the abusive adolescents getting their own way. Such ac-
tions served to reinforce to these parents their inability to discipline or
control the actions and interactions with their children. We need to ask
how, if at all, does the ability of adolescents to dial "911" prevent
parents from physically protecting themselves and inadvertently en-
courage continued abuse by teens? One application of these findings is
to train law enforcement officers and those in court systems to under-
stand that some teens may use "911" as a weapon against parental
discipline.
Exploring this finding further, because of parents' concern about
charges of abuse, these participants adopted communication styles
toward their adolescents that would avoid being perceived as challeng-
ing, interacting in a negative manner, or touching the teen during a
conflict in any manner that could be misinterpreted as abuse. The
accusation of child abuse carried with it tremendous social and legal
ramifications for parents and became one way an abusive teen con-
trolled the reactions of his/her parents in abusive episodes. Although
parenting has many positive roles (e.g., encourager, provider, nur-
turer, teacher) and negative roles (e.g., disciplinarian) associated with
it, some of the roles parents are expected to enact, such as teacher and
disciplinarian, become ineffective. As a result, these parents stopped
implementing the role of disciplinarian and assumed the role of peace-
maker or moderator in an attempt to prevent escalation of a conflict
interaction into abuse. This changing of roles also changed the power
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creates a veil of denial and silence that may prevent parents from
seeking help (Harbin & Madden, 1979; Price, 1996). The existence of a
veil of denial may contribute to the fact little research is done on
adolescent-to-parent abuse because of the difficulty in getting these
victims' to speak out.
Finally, belief exists that adolescent-to-parent abuse often results
from the abuse that parents inflict on their adolescents (Dodge et al.,
1990; Pagelow, 1984; Straus et al., 1980). Although there is no empir-
ical support for this belief other than in the cases of parricide (i.e.,
adolescents who kill their parents) (Heidi, 1995), this assumption
directly influences how family researchers present, investigate, and
portray adolescent-to-parent abuse. As a result, parents' may blame
themselves for their own abuse and respond by not enforcing the
measures of parental control normal in an escalating conflict episode.
It is important to note that I did not specifically ask these participants
if they were abusive toward their adolescent; however, the descriptions
provided by these parents of the abuse episodes did not lead me to
believe they had inflicted abuse on their children. Rather, what ap-
peared to be supported is that child abuse rarely plays a role in
adolescent-to-parent abuse (Harbin & Madden, 1979; Heide, 1995;
Price, 1996).
well as the abusive interactions. Using family systems theory, one can
assume that the communicative interactions within the family over
time may have set the stage for the development of adolescent-to-
parent abuse; though this has yet to be explored. These interviews do
not provide an overall picture of the parent-adolescent relationship nor
the overall communicative interactions within the family. Both of
these constitute areas for future research.
Finally, one limitation of this study concerns the similarity of these
families, particularly race and class homogeneity. Also, the partici-
pants recruited for this study were dedicated to understanding and
attempting to change the abusive situation and each had attended
numerous family counseling and parenting classes; families averaged
nine different attempts at types of intervention. Although this homo-
geneity may have helped participants to identify the relational culture
within the family, it may not represent families where abused parents
do not seek help. This raises a number of questions: What occurs
within families where the abuse is allowed to continue without outside
intervention? What transpires in the family when the abusive adoles-
cent is forced to leave the home before his or her eighteenth birthday?
What happens when abused parents respond to their adolescent with
violence or when parental violence precipitates adolescent violence? Is
the adolescent-parent conflict that results in abuse different in families
where there is no commitment to keeping the adolescent in the home?
These are very important questions that need further investigation
and cannot be answered with these data.
The findings presented in these adolescent-to-parent abuse families
impact the interactions between members in the family and create the
relational culture of the system. This study identified a number of
factors present in families experiencing adolescent-to-parent abuse
and they have serious implications regarding communication and re-
lationships. Providing these findings in adolescent-to-parent abuse
families offers a first step in understanding and promoting further
research on this unique and silent form of family violence.
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